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Hi Muffy

Oh I do feel for you, we had a simular problem with our Lucky,
Because he was so loved we had no choice but to say goodbye, we did not want to have to remember him for the wrong reasons as he had also got grumpy especially around the children. Our vet said it was the on set of senility and wouldn't get any better.
I know how hard it is but we are glad we did it when we did and remember him as the wonderful companion he was.

(((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))

Jan x

go with your heart babes

i am so sorry

sending you a ((((hug))))

Oh poor you Muffy.

We had an old dog who starting messing everywhere and barking at shadows.....she also got very grumpy.

I made the decision to put my childrens health and safety first and the vet understood completely and put her to sleep.

He said the poor dog was stressed and miserable and would only get worse..........I still felt like a murderer, but I have never regretted that decision, hard though it was.

Take your Dad with you too though, that way you will have his support to make the decision.

xx
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Muffy, I've just read all this, and I am so sorry to hear of your poor dogs problems.

One of my old girls was similar.. I adored her, and still miss her so much, even though she died 4 1/2 years ago.

My vet knew that I would pay whatever it cost to help my animals as I had already paid for cancer treatment for an elderly cat, and one of my other cats had needed intensive treatment for gangrene in a leg, and this same vet had saved her life. I didn't have pet insurance.

But I will never forget his face when he told me that she was not ill, she was as healthy as she could be.. she was just old, senile, uncomfortable and unhappy.

He came back later that night, after I had had time to say goodbye, and spend some time grooming her and just being with her.

It was my last gift of love. My Bonny girl was never an easy dog, either, but I loved her.

You will make the right decision, but all the soiling is not normal, even if there is nothing wrong.

Love and hugs,

Daff xxx

Oh Muffy, I feel sorry for the decision you have to make, having two dogs ourselves. The oldest is nine and as fit as a puppy, but who knows what is round the corner.

But I feel that in that situation I would be bound to put the health and welfare of the humans before that of an animal, however loved.

Thanks everyone for your kind words and advice.

I have made an appointment for tomorrow morning at the vets.

I'm still not sure which way to jump but have decided to talk it over with the vet and take his advice.

I'll keep you posted. xx

i think your write muffy he is obviousley unwell and could be suffering, or have you thought about a another home, as just before my sister moved abroad they had abby a cat aged 16, who had all age related problems, she went to a cat nursing home, rather than putting her down, she died peacefully in her sleep with as much love and care that she had from my sister, its also not fair on your children, not going out, it will be really had on you either way but always remember you have us all for spport xxx

Muffy,

I am at a loss for words but sending lots of

(((((((( HUGS )))))) for both of you.

Lindy xx

Oh the daft old whatsit still loves a cuddle (though he does smell awful!!!) I'll certainly be giving him as many as I can. I'll send him one from you though most definately.

Dad has offered to take him to the vets for me
Head and heart are still at odds at the mo. I know what I have to do but I keep hoping for a miracle.

Thanks so much everyone. I'll keep you updated.xx

I still hear people say "they're only animals ....." etc. etc. and that they don't have feelings but by God, they do. It sounds as if he could still be grieving, too?
If he'll accept it, please could you give him a cuddle from me. Oh - and, um, one for the girls too! lol
Let us know how you get on, eh. Take care.
Night night.
x

Aw Glenys you have brought another tear to my eye. But in a nice way. His dog mum would love to have him back too I'm sure. She was forever cleaning him and nudging him about ill though she was . I should think he's missed her more than the rest of us and that's going some xx

Hiya, just popped on this evening before bedtime and read this. You poor soul Muffy, I do feel for you hon.
Like Ann said, you've given him a good life with a loving family, but now that his canine "Mum" has passed on, he doesn't sound as if he's enjoying life anymore.
Again like Ann says, he's now lost his dignity, why not think about sending him to be with his canine "Mum"? And I don't say that lightly, as you probably know. Remember that poem "If it should be that I grow old and weak ..........." etc.
Whatever you decide, my thoughts are with you. And you're one of those people that restores my faith in human nature.
Take care.
x

Yeah I think I do Ann :0(

Thanks hon xx

You know what you've got to do in your heart don't you Muffy? You'll find the strength to do it and as you say, your children have to take priority and the risks are to grat

Thanks Ann. My Dad said the same to me earlier. I've honestly done the best I can. I pride myself on looking after my animals and giving them the best life possible.

I'm not adverse to clearing up the odd poo here and there but this is unlike anything I've come across before with my other animals. I feel guilty for even thinking of giving up but it's affecting the kids not being able to use the garden.

They aren't stupid kids. They have animals and know to wash their hands etc. But it will only take the little one to fall over. Put her hand where the mess was and rub her eyes then god only knows what will happen next. Plus she's a thumb sucker so it's just too risky.
xx

oh Muffy, I do feel for you - my son just had to have his much loved bull terrier put down for different reasons but the vet said it was the only way and quite frankly I had to agree but it was truly awful. In my lifetime I've wept buckets over many dogs - he can't be happy if he can't control his bowels, it's such a loss of dignity for the poor old fellow - I should be guided by the vet - he'll tell you if it's the right thing, or I would sincerely hope he would. Be brave, you've given him a better life than he ever would have had with travellers

our old cockers getting dodgey.deaf,odd accidents.shes 13.so we think she,ll not be here next year.your not on your own hun.xxx

I'll be honest. He's never been what you would call a happy dog.

I rescued him from travellers and he was a quivering wreck. He took a shine to me and trusted me so I took him on. He's never been *normal* but we just got on with it and did the best we could with him.

He looked to my old lady dog as his mum and when she died he took a massive nose dive.

It was like somebody took his security blanket from him. For a dog like that it's devastating.

I really don't want to do it but I can't do this anymore. The last lot of poo I had to clear up reduced me to tears. I've just had enough of it and I feel awful as it's my job as his owner to do that. It's just constant at the mo. xx

Muffy,

For us it was the guilt of doing something which was half selfish because we were also unhappy.

But us getting frustrated with her was no good for her either.

It is really difficult and I truly believe it is the feeling that you are letting your pet down which delays a decision. You have children who are being affected, if it was me they would be the priority and I would not, personally, be able to cope with the play restrictions.

Sue xx

I think you have to look at the all round picture. Is he happy, does he have a good life? Are you stressed? and is your childrens health at risk? If the vet can't help and says it is senility I don't think you are going o be able to do anything to improve his and your well being. we have been there with two dogs and two cats. You love them and because you love them you have to let them go. I do feel for you Muffy, a hard decision to make.

Ann
Glos