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Glad its all sorted for you hon...deleted my last message cos it was a bit late!!! :))) Anne

Hi Steedie, I joined this thread a bit late, so well done for getting it sorted out amicably. My outlaws have the keys to our house but they are only used in emergencies or when we have a delivery coming and we're at work. It's just as well as I had a friend to stay recently whilst we were away and she managed to lock herself out and they had to rescue her. I also have keys to the outlaws but again, I never use them unless they're not there. Then I leave a note on the kitchen table to say I've been. Mags - You sound like a great Mum! Naomi x

YAY!!! i cant wait to see you sweetie! xxx

Awww Mags :-) Well looks like you've solved things sweetie! And you're having this hugely important, fantastic, funny, intelligent and gorgeous guest on Saturday night... you lucky lucky thing! PMSL becx

thank you deanna xxxxxxxxxxx

SNAP!! i also do that to my nanny and grandad...or when she opens the door i say....oh nan you look a bit flushed do you want me to come back in 5 mins! hehe xx

Good girl, you didnt really need any help. You can manage on your own. You'll do alright. Deanna ;-0)

We have set of keys for our sons house and, he has a set for ours. He uses his when he comes down, but that is to save us coming to the door and, he ALWAYS shouts before coming in. I cannot remember the last time we used his key. I think it was to see in a delivery man while son was at work. We certainly did not get the key cut for ourselves. He had the key cut and, gave it to his dad. Its only my opinion, but for what its worth, I dont think so many keys to you HOME should be flying around the in laws. Deanna

mags go for it! LOL...to be honest i phoned my mum and just cried at 12.00! i just miss her sooo much. I really want to see her and cant wait for her and my nan to come over...so they are coming over saturday morning! xx

Steedie - Your mum sounds like me! It's what I called 'gentle' help - it seemed to work ok - leastways she never lost her rag about it! lol I still do it sometimes - even though she is married now - if I see a special offer on something I know she uses. The difference being that now I usually say 'So and so have got such and such at £however much - shall I get you some?' Magsxxx

Mags thats lovely!! My mum also has a stack of buy one get one free bits for me in her freezer for when i get my freezer! xxx

Hi Lynda - No flak from me. I do lots too - and my kids for me. It's a good working relationship - but it makes/made none of us feel unhappy about the situation. So I think Steedie's problem does need sorting before it causes an irrepairable rift. Bec - We left a note saying 'Burglar Bill let himself in and...' She rang in tears 'Is that Burglar Bill?'. I used to get 'Buy one get one free' groceries and give her the 'free' one - because I couldn't just buy her stuff (she wouldn't just accept them she would have insisted on paying for them) So she used to check MY cupboards for the matching things before taking them away! LOL Magsxx Oooops - bit late with my comments - nice going Steedie xxx

YYYYYYYAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYY....................... Well done ...................It sound like you sorted it out brilliantly.... Susan:-)

thanks lynda...and i really see what your saying...i do feel the same and thats why im just confused...i really do appreciate EVERYTHING they have done for me...its brilliant, its just the extra little bits i dont like...like rearranging my room and his bro and sis treating my place like a doss house...but i have just spoken to his mum... she has left the flat now, i asked her if she had the spare keys cut and she said no as there was no point cos the locks are being sorted saturday, so i said yeah thats fine well if you ever need to get into the flat after that i can just drop the keys off to you, she seemed happy with that. they are really lovely people, but as from now there doesnt seem to be any need for anyone else to be in my home without me being there. xxx

she just phoned me...they are all in my flat right now!!

i undertsand all your views...its just so hard to say no to them when they have helped us out so much...but i cant say anything to aaron cos then i will be accused of being stroppy x

Awww Mags... what a sweet thing to do! becx

Hi Steedie, I don't think they believe they are taking liberties. If you add this to your earlier thread about privacy from Aaron it looks as though his family are very laid back about all sorts of issues. They would expect you to go into their homes and help yourself in the same way - 'My house is your house'. I'm not saying they are right - just that they have a different attitude and probably Aaron feels the same way. Tread very gently when you talk to him because he may not see anything wrong in their behaviour. A lot of families behave in this way. Gwynne

I think everyone is thinking the same Babe get your keys back the sooner you do it the lest aggro and heartache there will be all round........ Susan:-)

You must try and talk to her NOW! Before they take any more liberties and make sure you rearrange all the rooms how YOU want them,at least when she sees them she may mention it and that will be your chance to explain how you feel!! Good Luck:)))