General Chat

Margaret, do you think that maybe your d-i-l thought, as somebody answering this thread earlier did, that the nail wrap involved fabric of some sort? If so, she might have thought that it would have involved something that, if bitten off, could have blocked your grand-daughter's airway. Perhaps you could explain to your son that this was not the case and get him to tell his wife - be careful though because people who have blown up so spectacularly don't much like being told that their assumption was wrong. Good luck, Christina

I have 10 grandchildren Margaret, and looked after all of them ( still am with the smaller ones) at some time or another, They sleep over and have even had some of them for weeks when their parents have been given a treat by me and gone away to chill out!! But they know that their kids are safe with me. Knowing that I brought them up without 'poisoning them' with painting nails all colours of the rainbow ( 3 daughters) I will keep there kids safe too!! I really think you DIL is over-reacting big style.... mine know what I would do.... tell her to look after them herself if she won't trust you!! Anne :)) ((((little hug for you))))

i would love to be able to suck my toe`s again.too stiff now. bubble wrap thats what we all need,or cotton wool, don`t worry it`ll all calm down. regard`s ur friendly i.o.w ups driver.

Thanks again for all your replys, but I do feel I am expected to get premission for everything I do with her so can you imagin.....I cant be spontanious(spelling) Regards Margaret

I think that your d-in-law was having a bad day and thought that she would scare you by saying that rubbish about dying if the nail varnish had been bitten off. I have a four year old and a seven year old that love having their nails painted at the weekend. I only started painting their nails when they showed an interest and were old enough to know not to bite off the varnish, they would have been over three. I work on the basis that if they're allowed to wear varnish and dabble with make up when dressing up they won't turn into a couple of overpainted 'tarts' when they're older. I hope! Don't worry, your d-in-law is probably cross with you because she wasn't the first one to do the painting. One thing that I can't stand is seeing small children with pierced ears, it's a form of child abuse as far as I see it. Louise

I think your d-i-l is being WAY OTT is this her first child? i doubt this would have done her any harm at all even if she had chewed all of her fingers. i've painted my daughters fingers and toes for years and she picks and chews it off all the time. hopefully d-i-l will not expect you to phone to ask every time you want to do something. Nicky.x

Margaret Since when has anyone died of nail varnish, and how often does she see her health visitor?? The last time i saw mine was when by little one was 4 months and he is now gone eight. Health visitors have more to worry about than a little nail varnish. Your daughter in law has overacted. Try not to lose sleep over it. You sound like a wonderful grandparent and at least you take interest. Hope it all gets sorted Lisa

Hi Margaret, Definitely an over-reaction I feel!! Chewing off the clear varnish would hardly have killed her - a Mac Donalds would probably introduce more toxins!!! I have a sneaky feeling the idea of you and grand daughter having a 'girly time' may be at the root of the problem. maggie

Thanks everyone for all replies, and I feel you are beeing honest which is what I wanted, I feel it's difficult beeing a Grandma as what we did when our kids were young is all now a no no as far as I can see. Thanks Wendy , thanks Dave. Regards Margaret. .

Shows how people have different views Margaret just told the story to my wife she says you have done nothing wrong she often paints the toe and finger nails of our 2 year old grandaughter she says they love it, just me a boring old Grandad who hasn't noticed! Davexx lol!

Sorry Margaret - my mistake from reading a nail page.

Margaret I can understand your d-i-l over reacting a bit it is her baby and we all tend to be over protective dont we.I can remember when my Mum who lived in a high rise flat 33 years ago took my two year old little girl on the veranda to look over , I was frightened to death that she would fall over and screamed unmercifully at my Mum calling her all the idiots going. But I apologised to my Mum after and she did to me, because we both shared the blame didnt we?, and I think the same of you and your d-i-l too! Davexx

Hi Wendy, Nail wrap is a clear varnish you put on after you paint your nails to keep them from chipping, it is a clear varnish, no fabric was used, Thank you all for your replies, I will be much more carefull in future. Regards Margaret.

It sounds lovely doesn't it? My mum will fortunately retire just in time to really enjoy some of that just before my daughter starts school. Maybe she can convince my daughter that LESS is more as at the moment she has a penchant for red lipstick/felt tip/nail varnish but only feels she has applied it properly as long as it is right up to her nose! Abigail

I love the sound of sharing the girly time Margaret - I had a vision of the two of you dressed in feather boas surrounded by dressing up clothes, fizzy lemonade, fondant fancies and the nail kit and a bit of smudged lippy.

Oh Margaret! Did you use the fiberglass ones! The silk won't do her any harm but she must be the sort of child that eats only the food put in front of her. Mine will have anything and my brothers used to eat beetles earwigs, coal, worms and slugs But they wouldn't touch sprouts! LOL! Just make an apology, say you didn't realise the difference, and promise to ask before you do anything else to the child! Your DIL might be upset that she has to leave her daughter full stop, rather than what you do with her when she is with you. Wendy thanks for the explanation. It sounds like precisely the sort of thing I need. My nails bend like a sheet of paper! Well you live and learn - I have a 'do' this weekend so I will be phoning the salon tomorrow to see if they can wrap my nails! Abigail

Hi Abigail. I had never heard of a nail wrap before (my own are far too strong to need anything doing to them) I found this on the web. Wraps are nails strengthened with the use of fabric placed on the surface of the nail then secured with a resin. (The fabric is not wrapped around the nail.) Two types of wraps: silk and fiberglass. The application process is the same including the same resins being used for both types. The only difference between them is the fabric used.

Wendy, What IS a nail wrap? I am intrigued and feel I OUGHT to know the difference at my age! lol! My daughter paints her own nails (all of them) with whatever she can get her hands on. I once quietly watched her paint her left hand and then just as competently paint her right hand. I can't do it as well as she can! Abigail

Margaret - having checked out what a nail wrap is I have to say I would have probably felt the same way as d-i-l. Nail varnish wouldn't have worried me though.

tinsy winsy bit over the top i think, but hey all mums are different, she should have had my 18 year old girl shed have been too busy keeping up with her to send messages, had to keep me eye on her every second as soon as she could walk, and my son once got my nail varnish (red) and painted his nails his tshirt , his trousers, lovely for a soldiers son, daddy wasnt impressed , but son has grown into a lovely young lad whose a proper boy, maybe try being over the top appologetic margaret, say im really sorry i upset you, i hope youll forgive me , i just thought it was harmless, dont grit your teeth when you say it, lol im sure you dont take your eyes off her so she wouldnt have come to harm keep your chin up