General Chat

Hi Sue Sorry to hear your news-here's lots more hugs and love to you all Janet

Hi Sorry only just picked up this update. Thinking of all of you at this time. Hope the next few days go smoothly Penny

So sorry to hear your news Sue. My thoughts are with all of you. Heather xx

Hello Susan, You Andy and the boys are in my thoughts at this sad and difficult time. Lucy x

Sending you my condolences, Joy

Sue My condolences to you and your family. I still miss my m-i-l but am very grateful for the happy memories. nell

Susan. Big hugs to you, your husband & children. Not selfish at all, she's no friend. Take care

Sue with friends like her you don't need enemys friends support each other especially at a time like this, so don't feel guilty she was wrong and as Lucy said your husband may appreciate some time alone with his mum at this time , god bless her and you look after your self too here's a big hug for you (((((((hug )))))))) Lara x

Susan It seems to me you are supporting your husband by thinking of the kids so that he can be with his Mum. No one has the right to judge you at such an awful time, you know what is best and you are doing it. I had a much loved grandad died from kidney failure, and its not easy, so my love and thoughts and hugs go out to you and your husband. Be strong in each other and you will be fine. A big HUG to you both. Yvette

sending u a hug

Susan, no one has the right to say things like that to you then call them self a friend, your children need you so much now they are mixed up and about to say good by to thier Nan please don't be down on your self I am a Nan and if I was your I would rather you were with my grand children then sat where you can not do any thing to change things. Big hugs xx

Sorry but a real friend would be supporting you at a time like this not criticising you. Your children also need a brief respite and a 'proper' meal and unfortunately in the midst of death/dying life has to go on and the living need to be cared for particulrarly your children and your MIL would understand - they are her g.children and she loves them I am sure. Ann

Hey Sue, NO GUILT TRIPS,,

Take good care there Sue, thinking of you :)

How does your friend know what's really best for you and your family? Your children need you too - this is their grandmother after all. Like others have said - trust yourself, not what outsiders say, and know that there are hugs for you here whenever you need them ((((((((((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))))))))) x

Just adding my (((hug)))) Ignore your friend. Just think of it as a time of recharging your batteries. I'm sure your husband understands & will need you more as time goes on. Penny

Hi Sue, If your husband was OK with it then it's nothing to do with your 'friend'. Hugs, Gwynne

A hug and a squeeze from me too, personally I think you did a good thing, well done for realising you need to look after the kids too, I am sure your hubby will back you all the way take care Love Janet

You are not selfish your children need you to it is there nan You do need a big {{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}} and give your hubby a big HUG to when he gets home he will be having a hard time to Lindaxx

Sue (((((((()))))))) I have been through this too. My m-i-l had terminal cancer and my husband and I went to see her at the hospice where she spent the last 6 weeks of her life. It was grim. I also know that when you are coping with grief other people's thoughtless comments can really get to you, but - DO NOT LET ANYBODY ELSE make you feel bad about what you decide is the right thing. You are supporting your husband by looking after your children (his mother's grandchildren) and allowing him to be with his mother. I am thinking of you. Look after yourself because you can't look after your husband or children unless you are all right. Your husband needs your support - but that doesn't mean you have to be glued to his side 24/7. I am sure you and he know that. Thinking of you. nell