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thank you all for your hugs and support. my mother in law passed away yesterday morning. we are all hurting and missing her but now she isnt suffering anymore and we are greatful for that. thank you all again from sue andy and boys

Big Hugs Susan. Jan :-)

Hi Sue, You're not being selfish hun - your husband might even appreciate some time on his own with his mum. So consider yourelf hugged from me!! Lucy x x

Oh Susan I'm sorry - she doesn't sound like much of a 'friend' to me. Try not to worry about what other people think or say! Just do what you think best, Helen xx

Hi Sue Sorry to hear about your mother-in law. It's always difficult to know what to do for the best at times like these so you just do what feels right for you. Heather xx

<<<<<MASSIVE HUG>>>>> Love becx

oh Susan, your children need you too - its hard enough for them knowing how ill their gran is - they need the comfort of seeing their mum too. its such a trying time pet - and you are feeling so torn. Personally I think you have done the right thing - and am sure your m i l will have said the same. hugs pet

thank you all for your kind words and hugs it was needed.....sue

Big hugs coming your way Susan. I do not thing that you are selfish at all. Sometimes we need to take a breather from what is happening around. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time. Love and Peace Marianne. xxxx

Sue (((((((()))))))) I have been through this too. My m-i-l had terminal cancer and my husband and I went to see her at the hospice where she spent the last 6 weeks of her life. It was grim. I also know that when you are coping with grief other people's thoughtless comments can really get to you, but - DO NOT LET ANYBODY ELSE make you feel bad about what you decide is the right thing. You are supporting your husband by looking after your children (his mother's grandchildren) and allowing him to be with his mother. I am thinking of you. Look after yourself because you can't look after your husband or children unless you are all right. Your husband needs your support - but that doesn't mean you have to be glued to his side 24/7. I am sure you and he know that. Thinking of you. nell

You are not selfish your children need you to it is there nan You do need a big {{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}} and give your hubby a big HUG to when he gets home he will be having a hard time to Lindaxx

A hug and a squeeze from me too, personally I think you did a good thing, well done for realising you need to look after the kids too, I am sure your hubby will back you all the way take care Love Janet

Hi Sue, If your husband was OK with it then it's nothing to do with your 'friend'. Hugs, Gwynne

Just adding my (((hug)))) Ignore your friend. Just think of it as a time of recharging your batteries. I'm sure your husband understands & will need you more as time goes on. Penny

How does your friend know what's really best for you and your family? Your children need you too - this is their grandmother after all. Like others have said - trust yourself, not what outsiders say, and know that there are hugs for you here whenever you need them ((((((((((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))))))))) x

Take good care there Sue, thinking of you :)

Hey Sue, NO GUILT TRIPS,,

Sorry but a real friend would be supporting you at a time like this not criticising you. Your children also need a brief respite and a 'proper' meal and unfortunately in the midst of death/dying life has to go on and the living need to be cared for particulrarly your children and your MIL would understand - they are her g.children and she loves them I am sure. Ann

Susan, no one has the right to say things like that to you then call them self a friend, your children need you so much now they are mixed up and about to say good by to thier Nan please don't be down on your self I am a Nan and if I was your I would rather you were with my grand children then sat where you can not do any thing to change things. Big hugs xx

sending u a hug