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More thanks to you girls. All very interesting. Over the generations we have gardening and ginger hair re-appearing, then missing a generation etc. Bet there are lots more things which I would love to know about. Not many messages from men - perhaps two storks are their parents. happy days

Although I have inherited my Mother's facial appearance, in build I'm more like my Father's family - tall and large-boned. As regards personality, I've always made a conscious effort to behave far more as my Father did than my Mother. As Dee has said earlier, probably due to her own difficult upbringing, my Mother was extremely critical, harsh, vindictive and unloving towards me. I can never recall her being anything else, even as far back as my early childhood. She treated my brother far better, but still not kindly enough to prevent him ignoring her once he had left home. My Father was kind, patient, supportive, caring - he also had a wealth of knowledge, although not well-educated, as well as generosity, a ready wit and huge capacity for fun. I'm nowhere near as nice a person as he was, but I've always tried to avoid copying the worst of my Mother's behaviour. Unfortunately, the nasty streak appears at times, but I try to aim it at those who, in my opinion, deserve it. It meant a lot to me when, this morning, my son gave me a big hug and thanked me for helping and supporting him through some recent difficulties. I couldn't ask for more. CB >|<

I look exactly like my Mum but have my Dad's personality. Mum was quiet, Dad was noisy. Mum was good with money, Dad was rubbish. Mum like being indoors, Dad likes being outside. So that's, me noisy, broke and living in a tent lol Linda Only joking, about the tent I mean lol

I'm like my dad and my mother never lets me forget it. She hated him and they spit over 40 years ago. She says my sister is like her and yes it is true for all to see. They are both spiteful,vindictive,selfish,cruel women who don't care what they say to hurt people. I still love them but thank god I am not like them. Rhonda

Rhonda - I can totally empathise with your situation. Everyone says I'm like my dad. My mum despises my dad so I get the grief instead. It's a very hard situation. becx

Like my father in looks and sense of humour. My mother - Oh please God no - she died 2 yrs ago at the age of 97 and was still sweetness and light to strangers, so sweet it was sickly, but self-centred, liar, hypocritical and a mischief maker. It came as a bit of a shock to find out over past 30 years that others too recognised this and I was so embarrassed. Ann

Girls, My thanks for your contributions. Very often life isn,t fair and you just have to play the hand you are dealt. this probably sounds a bit silly, but if people are wanting to trace their ancestry, they cannot be all bad. Yes, it does sound a bit naff, but I think it the thought has something to commend it. happy days

Harry - it says all when I did not do my mother's tree except to delve back to her g.parents basically to see if she had told the truth about anything and yes - that's right all lies. Ann

Ann, So sorry to hear all that. Still, you seem to be on even keel yourself. very best wishes and happy days

If anyone said I was like my parents I would kiss them! My parents were the best in the world and I miss them dearly (and daily). Jacqui

Hi Harry, I hope that I am alot like my Mother as she was easy going and had a wicked sense of humour. I could talk to her about anything and everything, hope that my children can say that about me. Sadly my Father died when I was only 3 so I don`t know if I have any of his traits. Family say that he was a very kind and loving person so would`nt mind being like that. My youngest daughter reminds me so much of my Mum in her personality so maybe there is something in all this. And we have alot of redheads in our family as well Lol. Love and Peace Marianne.xxxx

Hi Harry A very interesting topic for me. Like Em, I'm adopted and so find the 'nature versus nurture' debate fascinating. I'm very much like my mum in personality, which points towards upbringing having an effect on the way you turn out. However, I met my half-brother (we share birth mother) 18 months ago for the first time - he was 35 and I was 39. We share exactly the same sense of humour, as well as other similarities. Since being given up at 6 weeks old, I have never met my birth mother, let alone spent any time with her and yet my brother says that sometimes he will be with me and will have to do a double-take; some of my gestures, reactions, etc are so similar to hers that it takes his breath away. I look like my birth mother facially, although she is fair-haired and mine is dark. She is not a particularly pleasant person, so I'm making a conscious effort not to inherit her behaviour! I certainly hope that I don't inherit my birth father's keen interest in the interior of prison walls either! Mandy :)

I have been told I am just like my dad but my temper is not as quick and I know I have my mums cold streak at times.

Due to various circumstances I had a 'cold' upbringing...even now I find it difficult to be embraced or kissed by anyone but my husband. My mum provided me with food and clothing but seldom showed me affection - no hugs. My dad did as he was told.... he had a wicked sense of humour and I hope I have inherited that. I could start a thread with my mum's sayings, put downs etc.. I always thought that I totally took after my dad's side of the family...looks etc...but as I grow older it is my mum looking back at me from the mirror.

thanks for the latest replies. Christine - touch of myself in there. think it is good therapy for people to unload as many of you have done. happy days

i hope i have inherited my fathers longevity in life and my mothers personality

And I,ll say Amen to that on your behalf. Off to bedibies now. Happy days