General Chat

Lonely? Not really. I had anything but a regular childhood, and learnt to enjoy my own company from an early age. I often feel a sense of intrusion if there are too many people around in my space, and are easily irritated with unnecessary chit-chat. But I can talk till the cows come home with the right company. I feel comfortable knowing peeps are there in the background, but prefer to be left to my own devices most of the time. Bryan.....you men are such babies. LOL!

i'me a bit of a loner at home,at work,i'me so busy that time goes by quickly,but sometimes i wish i had someone to share the good times,and like tonight,the bad times,as i have a bad hand,and could do with someone just putting their hand on my shoulders,and saying 'you men,are such babies' :o) bryan.

I think we can all feel like that from time to time. I'm happy with my family but can feel isolated at work and waiting outside school it can all be so clichey (don't know how to spell that). Jacquie XXX

When I was a child I spent years in hospital (5th and 6th birthdays in Guys) and I learned to cope with being left to my own devices for most of the time and did not welcome the attentions of staff as it usually meant pain. So I grew up fairly detached and horribly self-sufficient. Sometimes I long for solitude. It says in my personality profile 'likes people but does not need them' len

quite often but then I think hey theres worse off than me :-)

im just reading through the rest of the threads on here and have read how someone feels we all dont know her at all, if you need to share something go ahead and tell us, lisa - feel free to say anything, this week i added a thread on boards and let out something that was bugging me, it was personal really, i thought after maybe i shouldnt have but too late, i already spilled the beans, i had lovely replys from all the people id call friends, and i know now they all know me a lot better, share something thats troubling you, well try to help

I am sitting feeling exactly that way. I have a lovely husband but when he isi'nt around I see no one. Its very difficult to get involved in others lives when you are older and everyone seems to have their lives established already. i have invited my neighbour in for a coffee and just get, thanks I will sometime but thats all. I have loads of hobbies and keep busy but as many of you have said just to have a chat occasionally would be so good.

all the time , im so busy with the family and making sure they are all happy and looked after, but feel like they are really not all that interested in anything i say, unless its' can i get you something '

yes dee feel lonely and isolated from things caused by things that have happened lately.all because i cannot cofide in anyone about this problem.love and hugs to youxxxxx((((:

These words are even truer now than when I first wrote them Dee x

sometimes dee.i always think these people think they know me but they don't,my feelings,whats going on in my head,who i am.i don't think anybody knows anybody 100%xxxx):

Yes I have felt lonely...many a time, even though I have my lovely Son, have found my Cousins, adopted Mum and Half Sister. My mates are few and far between, since waking to the fact that I was only their friend when they wanted support or something done, but when I needed help...they suddenly weren't around. Boyfriends were like that too.... I'm older and wiser now and although my confidence felt shot to pieces, I refuse to let it get me down anymore and besides, I've made some great company through the internet :-)

I think everyone at some time feels isolated and alone during their lifetime... me included. I love company, but also being by myself, as I am at this moment. I have my family who often pop in, and things to do, like my tree, msn, and other hobbies... but at the end of the day... I like peace, and my own company too. I am content> Anne :)))

Yes Dee, very often and like many others usually in a crowded room. Sometimes on here too. Daisy

I know what you mean,Christine. But it's quite likely that there's someone living near you who's feeling exactly the same. It could just be a case of linking up with each other.......

yes but I too feel most alone when other people are around!! I love my own company but I hate being in a room full of couple's cos they look at you often with pity in their eyes!!

Nope len

I'm sure a lot of you are right when you mention lack of confidence and insecurites being behind the feeling of lonliness that comes over somone when they are in a large group of people It is something I have learned to cope with, reasonably successfully. People always seem to think I am cool, calm and collected, when deep inside I am a mass of insecurities. Thank you all for sharing your feelings Take care Dee x

I feel like that often, like you say, even in a crowded room, perhaps in insecurity?

I have never felt more alone than when my mother passed away. married with 5 children, yet i felt so alone, it was like i had lost my roots. Shirley Ann.