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Hi Julie, That is some guy you have there, one who can actually breakdown and open up, as not many blokes will allow themselves to do that. ALL the best to you both.

18 years ago she accused him of having affair with a girl in stoke, and last year she repeated that claim to our daughter, i was so mad that she could be so vicious i wrote her a letter, and ended it by telling her my mother treated him more like a mother would treat a son, hubby read and agreed with the letter , she threatened me that the letter was in the hands of a solicitor, !!!!!!!!!! she really cant be nice,

Thank you for telling us that Julie, and I'm so glad you didn't think I was patronising (though I know I was nosey, lol). It always amazes me - absolutely astounds me - when parents blame their children for doing something that is so obviously the parents doing. It angers me tremendously. That woman needs counselling for a start. How in Heavens name can she treat her children like that? I'm talking in the present. Every now and then our 15-y-o adopted daughter mentions her birth father, whom she's never met, and we know one day she'll probably want to meet him. He only saw her when she was 2 weeks old, and that was all; we don't know why (it may have been birth mother preventing him, but again, he may have done a runner). We don't know what sort of reception this will get from him. Your hubby has done nothing wrong - it's great that he found his sister. I only hope they stay in contact. Hope the sickness has subsided now. x Just read that bit about the letter you wrote to MIL. OK, call her bluff - she has clearly said a lot of slanderous things about yourself and hubby. Someone needs to remind her of this. What a bitter woman she sounds, and certainly very unhappy. Pity her.

i know it probably obvious but i didnt include that the sister he found was hidden because his mother gave her up for adoption at 6 weeks old, thats how the other kids didnt know either, as for the evil MIL when shes threatened me with solicitors cos of my letter, she forgot that she slandered hubby to my daughter and his neice, accusing him of affairs behind my back, with women in stoke , when i was pregnant, 18 years ago, when in fact he was on army exercise, she then backed her daughters up in accusing him of stealing money from them, when he had visited them , she phoned my parents threatening to send police round, (mum told her to carry on as she would trust him in her house and his mates), needless to say the police didnt arrive,

Forgive me for repeating myself again - I've said this so many times before on other threads - but MIL seems to have forgotten that what goes around, comes around. Always. x

hi julie i realy feel for you and your husband and i wish you all the luck in the world.i oftern feel my family wouldnt miss me but i know my kids and hubby would and thats all that matters to me like one friend said to me you can choose your friends but not your family and i have many friends who i wouldnt change for the world god bless you both angie xxx

Hi Julie Anne, Sorry to hear about your problems. My best wishes to you and I hope that things work out for the pair of you. The Reiver