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Tricky one this. Depends how it affects others really and how well you know the person. If I felt it was hurting someone I would probably contact the person privately to discuss it with them. Daisy

Thats a hard question. I don't know people on the boards well enough. If I the lies were true and were hurting one of my friendsor myself then I would email that person lying and ask them to stop. Would have to seriously think about what I would do if the lies didn't stop. Really hard one this. Hope the liar get's their punishment though. I detest people who lie. Regards Jackie

oh dear. you've found me out. I've ALMOST got the zip up!! I'm lying on the bed and breathing in!! lol Claire

would it be possible to email the so called victim and let them know that you know what you do???? If it what i'm thinking then you wont need you to stand up and be counted they just need to know that not everyone is being taken in by members who arent genuine!! Oh dear!!! Its hard!!! I know!! karen

diana,i've just read all your replies,and i agree with the majority...email him/her...be polite,but tell them,that you know what they are up to,and give them the opportunity,to change their ways. bryan.

My concern is other people are being wrongly criticised for their comments and this person is looking like the victim, when in fact they aren't and I hate injustice with a passion. I would rather someone steal from me than lie to me as I would know when it happens rather than now I have to think twice about every word I hear or read!! i'll leave well alone for now but if it continues I will have no option but to get involved.... people I like are being hurt and worse still being treated like idiots because this person doesn't realise they have been sussed by more people than me!!! Thanks for the advice people, yet again you haven't let me down. xx

mmmmm diana... after some serious thought, i think you should pm me, cos i am really nosy... then maybe add a few cryptic clues / threads..... and out the monkeys !!! [ sorry paul, the stalked one, no pun intended ! lol] sue. xxx

Have a quiet word Diana and perhaps set a trap??

Diane I would probably do a bit of baiting on their threads, choosing words very carefully. Len

If it didnt affect me , i would leave well alone and ignore. I know for a fact that someone on here has changed their name over the last two days - i understand their reasoning- and do not think it is to decieve , just to start over again I think If, however they started answering themselves in their former and new names to cause a ruck THEN i might be tempted to say something jess x

Personally If you do PM them they will either ignore you and post their innocence on the board, thus making you look really really bad....and them look like the poor victim being harrassed. after all you cant prove they are not who they say they are, and you can invite trouble by trying tho prove that, But if you feel strongly that this person is lying, I would pm people whom you trust/trust you, and just warn them to watch their back. Elaine x ps aint me lol !

Hi Diana, im of the same opinion as quite a few others, if they werent harming anyone i'd leave well alone but if i thought others were being misled and being taken for a ride i think i would pm them and let them know theyd been rumbled. Sheila x

same as Limmie...go with your gut reaction...(pssst who is it?) xxx

I would use my common sense and deal with it myself as I saw fit I think. It's no good asking for peoples other opinions unless they know the circumstances.

Hello Diana, If they were going to harm me or my friends then I would PM them and tell them that the game's up. If they still looked like causing upset then I'd warn my friends. Hope you're ok, love becx

1st question I would ask my self is: is it harming anyone, including myself? If not leave it where it is........ many people use message forums or chat roomsto RE INVENT tthemselves and hide behind the screen.......... if it's harmless bit of fun relieving boredom for that meber and it's not hurtful to anyone else just let it be. Countess Debi HRH ( who owns a Merc ...3 really and a mansion etc etc etc 5 houses in 4 corners LOL) I wish LOL

I dont mean to sound flippant ( if thats the right word) Diana, but it wouldn't faze me at all. If people are telling lies to make themselves appear to be someone they are not then what can you say!! SAD! I am aware that there will always be people like this wherever you go so i take half of what they say with a pinch of salt .

Hi Diana, I'm not sure, it's a tricky one. It would depend on what he/she was doing. If other people are being taken for a ride, and I was sure, then I would probably say something in a pm to the person. If it continued then I would say something on the board. I would have to be very sure, though. It wouldn't be the first time it's happened. However, if it is done just for fun and there is no malicious intent to deceive I think I would leave it. Gwynne

I agree with CB

i dont no diana thats a tough call. but 1 thing i do know is i dont like being made a fool of, so do wat ur gut tells ya limmie xxx