General Chat

Hal More tiresome than trivial. The 'here we go again' thought springs to mind each time. If I was going to leave, if id been upset by someone etc, I would pm those I talk to and then leave. Not create a goodbye thread sometimes lasting 2 days, full of people feeding my ego, pleading for me to stay, before I say Im staying. You are either staying or going, and that decision doesnt have to take 2 days to make.. Elaine x ps This is NOT aimed at anyone in particular....it is a general observation of the board over the last 2 and a half years.

Elaine,Re Leaving the boards,I always thought it was a womans priveledge to change her mind,but to put it into perspective.Does it really matter?, in view of all the other things going on in the world,its rather Trivial. Hal. :o))>.

lol Elaine....... their nudging in the wrong direction them LOL..... nudge nudge wink wink say no more LOLOLOL

The nudger was busy during the night, marmite threads were nudged from way back, The sad individual must have a non existent love life, as they always nudge through the night lol ! Elaine x :o)))

The nudge was roughly 000.37 Ruby!!!!! it was at the top when i nudged to reply and the times didnt add up??? Guess that means i spotteded a nudger??? LOL Karen

When was the nudge Karen? I added my reply, and I didn't see it move again?

Welll Blow Me!!!! If that wasnt a nudge then i'm a monkeys uncle!!!!! Phew!!! I saw ya!!! Karen

Cas, I do see your point. My friend was speaking generally, and not in a counsellor/client situation. What I really meant to say was that I think, in the main, people who ask for advice on these boards are not likely to do something totally out of character. For instance, if A tells B she should leave/not leave her husband; B, while she might find A's comments helpful, is unlikely to act purely on B's say so. This of course is only an opinion. :-))

Cas Yes you are right, most people seek counselling for reassurance and guidance about life experiences and choices, a good counsellor however will already know and believe that his/her client is well geared to make positive choices and decision's for themselves! Lib:))

I really think there is a case for tidying up your threads, It's all very well putting private info on here, asking for help, advice or whatever. BUT when it's sorted, DELETE the thread. Things can't be draged up later then. Suex

Actually Dave B For once I am not talking about you..you left the board, nothing wrong in taking time out from the board. Im talking about those who spout IM LEAVING threads, meaning IM LEAVING GR.. David Owen As I said, Im not getting personal with my comments. They were made in general. To be honest until I read her post on here, I had no idea Jacquie had posted a thread like that lol ! Elaine x

I might have said this before, but it probably won't do any harm to repeat it:- A friend of mine, who is a fully accredited counsellor, once said to me that it really didn't matter what advice you gave, people usually do what they want to do anyway.

Elaine Well I won't argue but a blind man can see that a post criticising the actions of several members without naming them is going to offend or upset. Debby As usual I agree with almost everything you've said except like Paul, I will defend mates if I'm about unless I disagree with them Alter Ego I have to agree with you. I find it very scary on what some people seem to base the foundations of friendship on. Dee:) As long as you're feeling better now and you're back, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks x

Yes your right Elaine Ive posted an Im leaving thread and returned and Im sorry for that, but I returned because lots of people urged me to., and it got quite a few people upset because I had returned but hey ho that is me lol! What I hate more than that is those one word innuendo threads what people post! Davex

pet hate number 15 People who only EVER post negative posts, or pick holes in other people Paul (thats NOT aimed at anyone on this thread)

Some more pet hates People who start suggestive threads concerning other people on here but not saying who it is but that's only because I'm nosy! People who start controversial threads and then send malicious PMs to those who have contributed on that thread disagreeing People who start arguements late at night 'cos I miss them all and have no idea what's been going on and the threads been deleted by the time I get back on here! People who can't apologise when they've realised they've gone too far. Debby

Paul Well that's me bu**ered then as I have no 'mates' on here lol. What I maybe should have said is people who stick up for their mates/partners even when they're not right! Debby

Beware of people getting too close-remember that most of us dont ever see each other-remember that there is a real world out there with real consequences and responsibilities.The internet,all too often provides a means for people to intrude or enquire without taking the responsibility that real friendship involves-people on the internet can simply just walk away.

Ahh Debby, I have to disagree with you one one point 'people who always stick up for their mates'. I always stick up for my mates - when I think they're right. And I'd hope they'd do the same for me.

Pet hates of mine! People who start controversial threads and then don't like it when other folk disagree with others views People who are like a dog with a bone and won't stop adding to a thread reckoning they're trying to get their point across People who always stick up for their mates/partners etc But in the real world - does all this really matter? Debby