General Chat

Gerry I am so sorry to hear of the sad loss of your sister. May she rest in Peace. I hope time will heal all the pain you are feeling at the moment and that you are only left with happy memories of her. I do hope also that you make your peace with your nieces. I have a sister who is 15 years younger than me. Thank God she is my best friend and if either of us are feeling down we confide in each other. She also has two daughters who are very close to me. Regarding sisters being the favoured one in Mothers eyes, it was always the same in my family. My mum idolized my sister and I was always the one that was left in the background. On occasions it upset me but I tried not to show it to my sister as I loved her dearly. After Mum had died my sis discussed this one day and she said she used to feel really bad about Mum at times but didn't want to upset her by saying anthing about it. She knew I was strong and could cope with it. Now we are even closer. I see her at least once a week and we ring each other evey couple of days. Life is too short for family fueds, blood is thicker than water. Make peace with your families everyone. Even if they don't want to know you at least you will have tried and it will hopefully put your mind more at peace. I know this from experience with my eldest son. Happiness to all those suffering a loss or family problem I do hope things improve for you all Love and Kind Regards Jackie

I spent my whole life wishing I had a sister, and thought I might find a substitute in my two sister-in-laws but they are too full of themselves to be close to. Even my brothers don't bother much now, I am very much the poor relation and/or the black sheep. I didn't do the regular thing of getting married and having kids, I had both of mine out of wedlock and never really conformed. I think in a way my mother was jealous of the freedom I took when I moved from her stifling ways, but I paid because she always boasted about my brothers making lots of money, but never praised me for what I had managed to achieve. She and my dad adored and idolised my son tho' - much more than they did my nephew cos my son showed his love to them, whereas my nephew couldn't have cared less whether he saw them or not. So Gerri I can relate to your feelings entirely in never feeling you did right. Sorry to go off the track here. I just wanted to show you that some others of us have wonky families too. As long as you did what you felt was right for your sister and I am sure that you did, you have nothing to feel bad over and you can be glad that she is not suffering, but grieve for your loss in whatever way helps you through this time. Not very well put as I am tired, but I am sure you understand what I am trying to say. Thinking of you, Liz

Any real funny stories you feel like telling about you both? I have loads about my sister and our adventures.She,like Paula,was the lady and always right.I didn't like this much and always went out of my way to annoy her.....I feel sorry for her now !!

Elizabeth My sister paula in our Mothers eyes was perfect! I spent my entire life trying to be as good as her. She won! but I loved her all the same....Mum was right.

With a few years between you,did she treat you as wee sis or was it on equal terms ?My big sis still treats me as being daft !!

Gerri - I am so, so sorry to read of your sad loss, and sorry too to learn of the family feud. I hope you will find comfort in happier memories of your sister and all your family as time goes on. No words can really help you at this time, but my thoughts and sympathy are with you. Take care, Liz x

Paula was only 65..I'm the baby at only 56 Our Mum died only last year aged almost 90. This time last year we were joking that Paula was now the matriach( spelling, sorry) Now so soon it's me thats the matriach! (speling again, sorry lol)

You were the best sister she could ever wish for hun! Now just take care of yourself and your family, as always. Kim XX

Ack Gerrie........what can I say that hasn't already been said...... Was she your big sister or your wee sister?

Karen,,,,,18 months!!!!!! go see her! and NOW! At this present time I'd give my life for one second of my life to be with my paula just one more time. Dont waste it.

AWW bless you darlin!! We never know the time or place!!! I have a sis near Stevenage and she is my bestest sis who i havent seen for 18mths!! I think if i lost my sis you would have to scrape me off the ceiling cos she is the only old family i have left!!! Hold onto your neices!!! They are the bit of sis you have left!!! And also grieve inyour own time!!! not when they tell you!!! Karen

Oh Gerri My heart goes out to you! Kaz XXXXXXX

((((((((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))))))))))) cannot say any more Ken xx

My sister Paula died yesterday.(17th Nov 2005) Got a phone call from my niece tonight to say thankyou for beng a rock yesterday. She told me that I kept the family together. I feel so proud but also SO sad. Paula and her two daughters havent spoken for about 3/4 months....those same daughters and I havent spoken for alot longer ( a family fued) scuse spelling. Please God let this be the end of it. Let this be a lesson to you all...I went to my sisters house for medical records/ nighties n knickers while she was dying in Hospital. ... I went to her bedroon and found a bottle of perfume that I bought her ages ago. It was in pride of place on her dressing table, still in the cellophane. She loved it so much, she diddnt want it to run out. so diddnt use it. That same purfume is still in it's bottle..she isnt! Need I say more? A very sad Gerri in Stevenage tonight...sorry xxx

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