General Chat

Gemma such good advice has been given so far you should write first and add your phone number then he may get back to you good luck to you Howardxx

Gema - this is a really difficult thing to say nicely and have sat and pondered quite how to say it, so i just will! if you are able to find this number and you ring it, and the bloke doesnt want to even talk to you ~ever~ are you going to be able to cope? especially at a time when everything round you is wobbly? If he rejects you point blank (and that is always a possibility that you MUST consider) are you able to manage the additional heartache that would bring , just at the moment?

Blimey Gem, that brings back memories of last year, with daughter (your reply after mine). Normally, contact with our kids' birth family is letterbox, but due to her distress we pursued it - we're glad we did, although we were aware of things that could have gone wrong. Believe me, I can understand a bit of what you must be going through, having been on tenterhooks with daughter, waiting for the go-ahead. Think positive. :-)

i really dont know. I guess i am just being impatient. I am having a really bad time at the moment. My relationship is falling appart. I am scared i will be left as a single mum with no where to turn. I am in bits at he mo. Maybe i should wait

It is stressful Gemma - ringing is actually harder for everyone though~ If you were to ring, what on earth are you going to say?

Hi Gemma I really do think the advice from the two members above is sound advice. I wish you every success Maz x

I understand what you are saying. I think i just wanted to get this out of the way. It is very stressful and i cant handle all this waiting. Maybe i should write. Was just hoping maybe i could talk to him on the phone

Gemma, I'm with Jess here. That's great that you've managed to find Grandfather; it'd be perhaps less of a shock for him to get a letter from you, then he could 'digest' it a bit before you think about ringing him. Two years ago our adoptive daughter asked if she could be in touch with her birth Great-Gran, before it was too late. Cutting a long story short, our adoption agency got in touch via S.S., and we eventually rang her (dialling 141 first! lol). If we hadn't written first, the shock might have - just might have - killed her, as she's quite elderly. Good luck, and keep us updated, eh. x

Pretty well , yes, wouldn't writing be a better idea - initial contact on the telephone is awfully difficult for both him and you Jess

Some of you may have read that i am looking for my biological father. I thought i found my grandad but it wasnt him and now i have found him. Please can anyone tell me ways i can find a telephone number for him or is 192.com the only one i can get it from?? Thanks Gemma x