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Once again, thanks for all your kind thoughts. I really do appreciate it. Suzy x

Suzy what a huge shock for you. It's a terrible thing to happen, especially one so young. What can I say, except be strong for his family - they'll need you. (((HUG))) x

How sad. Thinking of you all. M.

(((((HUGS))))). Such a sad story, my thought are with you and you neighbour. You've offered help to M-I-L, but maybe you should reiterate this to your neighbour when you see her. Or leave it a few days and take 'round a card and maybe some flowers or something. You could offer to look after the children for her - maybe on the day of the funeral if they are not going to attend. People react in different ways in these circumstances your neighbour may just like to talk and cry to someone who's not family. GP

Suzy Death is always a shock, even when expected. Out of the blue like this, and to someone so young, it is very difficult to comprehend. You ahve already offered your neighbour your support. I am sure at the moment people will be rallying round, it may well be some months ahead that she will want to talk or have some help with the children. I am sure you will be there for her, just as everyone on GR is here for you when/if you want to express your feelings. nell

Suzy ((((((HUGS))))))

My thoughts are with you all, how very tragic. Donna xx

Suzy, Unfortunatly there is not much you can do. If you can take even just one child of your neighbours hands for a few hours I'm sure that will help. You neighbour will need time to come to with what has happened. If she doesn't want you to take the kids tell her the offer is there if she needs it. All you can do is be there to comfert and support the family. I'll say a prayer for them and you.

Thank you very much June and everyone who has replied to this thread; in particular Jill, who sent me a personal message. You are all wonderful people, truly. Suzy

What a shock for you all. We just dont know what is around the corner Enjoy what you have while you can Take care Suzi. June xx

Thanks for all your lovely replies; it means a lot. God knows, I feel bad enough, what about his poor Mum? She's about my age. Thanks for the suggestion Jenny. My Lucie has a birthday party this pm, so we are still going to go. There is nothing I can do today anyway, and I don't want to tell her the party is off; bless her. I just had a long hot shower and have decided to tell my neighbour I can look after the children when the funeral is on, if she doesn't want them there. All their family and friends will want to go, so I thought that would be a good idea. I think my husband will go to the funeral though. We will be saying lots of extra prayers on Sunday. God bless you all, and STAY SAFE, please. Suzy x

Suzy that's dreadful news and you mustn't apologise for telling us - people need an outlet at times like these. You've done all you can for them for now by offering help. Shall be thinking of you and of the poor family. Sue

How awful for you Suzy., you must be really shocked. Is there someone you could be with for the rest of the day. My Heartfelt Sympathy for your neighbour and families. Jenny xx

ahh suzy i am so sorry to hear that.it is worse when he was so young and was a father also.you are doing the right thing by offering support and his mother in law knows that and would likely be very grateful for your help.once again so sorryxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx)))):

I'm sorry to read your news, Suzy. It is a shock when something like that happens, even if you're not especially close to the person who's died. It does make you feel bad, knowing there's nothing much you can do in those circumstances, except offer a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen, if required. As you say, id does make you think - you never know what's just around the corner. CB >|<

Dreadful. Been through that when my son's best mate was killed, but he was unmarried. All you can do is offer any assistance the family needs, maybe accompany them to appointments with police, funeral directors, church/crematorium etc.. And just be there for them.

Hi Suzy. What a terrible shock this must have been for you. There really is no need to apologise. You will be needing to talk about this tragedy to make some kind of sense of it all. My thoughts are with all the family and friends. What a very tragic loss. Jill xx

Suzy, That really is awful. Don't know what else to say Paul

Hi Suzy Please don't feel you need to apologise. It's a terrible thing to have happened and must have come as a shock to you. The neighbour is very lucky to have you next door and I am sure that it will be a comfort to her over the coming months, knowing that she has such a caring neighbour. As I think someone has already said, don't be afraid to talk to her about him. So many people try to avoid mentioning the person who has died when their loved ones really want to talk about them. Chrissie xx

What a dreadful thing to happen, my heart goes out to that poor family. you can only be there for them if they need you which i am sure they will in the weeks to come. Shirley Ann.