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As a mum of 4 girls yes it does get better usually after their 18 but between 11-16 there the bitches from hell. currently going through it wit a 12 year old.

Elizabeth, be afraid,very afraid lol :-)) Well we've had 24 hrs without an arguement---yay :-))))))) i'm making the most of the peace and quiet, Karen

is anything bother her in school, maybe its just like being that age, its frustrating when they are snappy isnt it, sons 15 an i spend half my time translating his mumbles to hubby, when hubby looks at me and mouths 'wot did he say', sometimes its easier to just shrug shoulders and say , no idea take comfort in the fact your never alone karen :- )

Hi Karen, Poor you! I completely understand what you are going through, as I have 3 daughters (all in their 20`s now) We had some very difficult times but by far the best advice I was ever given was 'Pick your battles'. Before flying off the handle, bite your tongue and ask yourself is it really that important (i.e. life or death!) My girls all came out the other side and we often joke about those days now. They can even admit how horrible they were to live with. The important thing is to let your daughter know that you are there for her, she will come through it too, and will be your lovely girl again. Good luck! Frances

OMG This thread is really scaring me. I have 4 daughters,7,5,4 and 1. Look forward to those years!!!!! Liz

Nell, thats excatly how i feel. i feel like i never stop moaning and am desperate to say something positive.As much as i hate to say it when shes in a mood i really don't like her very much,mind you i'm sure she says the same about me. anyway tonight has been good and we've actually had quite a laugh--keep your fingers crossed lol Karen

Karen My mum told me recently (I'm 49 lol) that she HATED me when I was 14. I must say she hid it very well! We are great friends and have been for ages. My 14 year old and 11 year old sons are pushing it a bit though. I am fed up with having to be cross and am desperate to say something positive, but virtually everything they do is annoying at the moment. They communicate in grunts and the only sentences they can speak are - what have you done with my [fill in the blank] and - can I have some money? [funny, the answer is often no!] nell

thanks for all your reassuring(i think) comments. i'm off to do tea and hopefully an arguement free evening, Karen :-))))

Only 11......... You have a long way to go yet ......but hang in there they do return to being the lovely daughter you thought you had lost. Jean x.

Mandy, i know what you mean lol :-))

OOOh Karen!!! I was I was a horror remember my mum always used to say 'she will be better when she is older ' and yes I was. I only had one girl but still remember the dreaded teenage years think they are worse than the terible 2's. But they will grow up promise. Germaine x

Hi Lunar, thanks for the advice. she actually started having periods at 10 and i have to say shes has coped very well,much better than i would have done at the same age. We normally have a great relationship and do talk about anythin with each other,i have to say she is very open with me. I have spoken to her teacher and he's said shes doing very well at school and there are no problems. I do think its just an age thing,i just hope it doesn't last too long!! LOL

Hi Karen I have an 11 year old daughter, yours sounds like mine. Like everyone has said it's hormones. The sick feeling/pains in stomach sounds exactly like what my daughter has been complaining of lately. Like Lunar says she's at that age when she could be starting her periods so tell her and get her to carry something with her just in case. Juliexx

12 yrs,great !!and whats more my 8 yr old will then start going through it, we do actually try to ignore the stroppiness but ,omg somtimes you aks the simplest question and its like woah can i have my head back please. my mum had its soooo easy,i was never like this

Poor kid, i am sure they don't know what has hit them and don't know why they act that way. They do eventually get better. I remember being like it myself (as I am sure you do too) and my hormones coincided with my Mother's as she went through the menopause, my poor Dad got it from both sides!! Try saying something like 'I'll leave you to get what you want for breakfast then, in case you don't want anything'. she might decide that is not such a good deal. Ann Glos

Sorry to say could last a while ,but just think when she has kids she'll know what she put you through, good luck

Blame her hormones! Believe me she loves you really but she's at that age when her hormones are controlling her and there is nothing she can do about it. Once her hormones settle down in to a regular patten you will get your little girl back again. If her stomach hurts and she feels sick it could be that she will start her periods soon (if not already). If that is the case, reasure her, make sure she has access to things like sanatary towels at all times (even pop sone in a pocket of her school bag) and make sure she knows what is happening to her. Try to remember what it was like for you to start your periods. Chances are you were scared a bit of what was happenning even if you had been told about what would happen. I would suggest asking if there is anything worrying her but you could find that the answer will be abrupt. You said she is 1, so if she is still in primary/ juniors, perhaps you could try to speak to here teacher just to see how she is doing in class and if they have any concers. Secondrary schools are more difficult to contact usually.

Karen, we've found with our daughter that if she has a bout of the 'H', we take no notice of it. We've learnt that she wants a fight or argument (which is totally unlike her normally), so we leave her alone until she's civil towards us. Works like a dream. x

Maggy there's us breaking it in gently to Karen LOL, oh dear Karen the truths out you have another 12yrs to go PMSL

My daughter is 23 and has just moved out, I have to say that she isn't much better now! Maggy