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....tell me my 11yr old daughter will return to the happy,jokey,fun girl she used to be and not the stroppy,rude one thats now before me. there is sometimes a glimmer of hope but then........... i ask 'what would you like for breakfast?' and i get back'I DON'T WANT ANYTHING--I FEEL SICK,MY STOMACH HURTS AND I'M NOT HUNGRY' Karen (aka stresshead)

Let's hope so but from my experence it get's worse before it get's better, good luck Lil

Oh Karen, it's just one phase after the other from now on. BUT, there will come a time when she will be lovely again............ I just can't tell you when. They all have different rates of change. Deanna X

I wish I knew! sob sob! LOL One seventeen and one nine years old.

Sounds like hormones, Karen. If my 15-y-o daughter gets like that - and she does, often - I say 'oh, it's the hormones again!'. She hates that. So I tell her to either lighten up, or shut up if she wants to be moody - just don't take it out on us. (This, of course, is if there's no other problem). If she argues with that, I say 'please yourself then', which she also hates, as she's not getting the fight she wants. Could there be another problem? At school? x

thanks girls, i feel so much better now....................................................not

no problems at school, like you said,its the dreaded 'H' word

Oh Karen it does get better, Bless

I do sympathise Karen, but as a mother of four children three of them girls, one aged fifteen and the other two eleven year old twins it does get better eventually but like Lil says it usually gets worse first, I think my eldest started getting out of that bad attitude stage at about fourteen albeit very slowely. Marie

OMG 14,i've got another 3 yrs,i can just about cope and its only been 3 mths!!!!!! sob,sob, i'm just off to the Dr to get a lorry load of valium :-( glad we never had the four girls we originally wanted-i'm already going grey-

My daughter is 23 and has just moved out, I have to say that she isn't much better now! Maggy

Maggy there's us breaking it in gently to Karen LOL, oh dear Karen the truths out you have another 12yrs to go PMSL

Karen, we've found with our daughter that if she has a bout of the 'H', we take no notice of it. We've learnt that she wants a fight or argument (which is totally unlike her normally), so we leave her alone until she's civil towards us. Works like a dream. x

Blame her hormones! Believe me she loves you really but she's at that age when her hormones are controlling her and there is nothing she can do about it. Once her hormones settle down in to a regular patten you will get your little girl back again. If her stomach hurts and she feels sick it could be that she will start her periods soon (if not already). If that is the case, reasure her, make sure she has access to things like sanatary towels at all times (even pop sone in a pocket of her school bag) and make sure she knows what is happening to her. Try to remember what it was like for you to start your periods. Chances are you were scared a bit of what was happenning even if you had been told about what would happen. I would suggest asking if there is anything worrying her but you could find that the answer will be abrupt. You said she is 1, so if she is still in primary/ juniors, perhaps you could try to speak to here teacher just to see how she is doing in class and if they have any concers. Secondrary schools are more difficult to contact usually.

Sorry to say could last a while ,but just think when she has kids she'll know what she put you through, good luck

Poor kid, i am sure they don't know what has hit them and don't know why they act that way. They do eventually get better. I remember being like it myself (as I am sure you do too) and my hormones coincided with my Mother's as she went through the menopause, my poor Dad got it from both sides!! Try saying something like 'I'll leave you to get what you want for breakfast then, in case you don't want anything'. she might decide that is not such a good deal. Ann Glos

12 yrs,great !!and whats more my 8 yr old will then start going through it, we do actually try to ignore the stroppiness but ,omg somtimes you aks the simplest question and its like woah can i have my head back please. my mum had its soooo easy,i was never like this

Hi Karen I have an 11 year old daughter, yours sounds like mine. Like everyone has said it's hormones. The sick feeling/pains in stomach sounds exactly like what my daughter has been complaining of lately. Like Lunar says she's at that age when she could be starting her periods so tell her and get her to carry something with her just in case. Juliexx

Hi Lunar, thanks for the advice. she actually started having periods at 10 and i have to say shes has coped very well,much better than i would have done at the same age. We normally have a great relationship and do talk about anythin with each other,i have to say she is very open with me. I have spoken to her teacher and he's said shes doing very well at school and there are no problems. I do think its just an age thing,i just hope it doesn't last too long!! LOL

OOOh Karen!!! I was I was a horror remember my mum always used to say 'she will be better when she is older ' and yes I was. I only had one girl but still remember the dreaded teenage years think they are worse than the terible 2's. But they will grow up promise. Germaine x