General Chat

Yes Ginny - I know exactly where you are coming from - patience is a virtue isnt it? LOL I remember when I was a newbie and instead of adding to the thread I PM'd the person who had posted it! It was Grampa Jim - who never batted an eyelid - just PM'd me right back! (Bless!) ;o))) Kim x

It is, but in this case, three times i replied on the thread how to post a reply on the thread, still the PM's continued. Fine, she didnt know how. I explained so did others still Pm's Surely that justifies me being frustrated? not with her, but with having to cut and paste 4 PM's onto the thread?

Anything is easy when you know how!

i think the ''look it up yourself on ancestry. its free'' however worded, is coming across as harsh, and is being posted ever such a lot recently. not saying it shouldnt be, but must be a bit daunting! Alice

Yes, there is another side to this. The problem with the internet is that it is incredibly hard to convey expressions correctly through text. We say things how we would say them 'in the real world' forgetting that our facial expressions and body language convey much of the 'tone' of what we say. Therefore it is easy to come across wrong or be misunderstood by others. I probably sound quite harsh at times on the boards when I don't mean to be. Some people are overly sensitive and really do take things the wrong way!

but their comes a point..... like this afternoon i got to the point of screaming when no ammount of trying to expain to a 'newby' the way to post a reply ON THE THREAD, and they took no notice. i know fully well they were reading the replies as they sent me umpteen PM's in answer to my Q's. How do you explain ,in an endeavour to get the info they want in a form they can understand, if you cannot get them to do 'basics'? it gets very VERY frustrating at times, and yes, walk away but ...its soooooo frustrating when you can see what they want and they dont grasp the straw Alice ------------------------------------------------------------------- here is a PM she sent me(identifing details deleted) Subject : Back to ****** How about the Maiden name of Harriet 1812. Reply Delete --------------------------------------------------------------------- and another ... H****** was born about 1813 Married J**** J*****,senior,born1910, had H****** born 1832,blakenly.norfolk. I am very new at all this.

I think the best advice is... if you find yourself getting frustrated with questions on the Records Office and Tips Boards... just walk away! Someone else will answer! Just don't answer if you are feeling frustrated at all!

Many of us have been using this site for a long long time now and know our way around it. I know of a couple of people who have been put off this site by member's attitudes towards them when they have 'made mistakes'. Is it too much to ask people to be a little more tolerant and even pleasant to newbies?