General Chat

I'm with the others here, especially Anne. That 'friend' had no right to invite the girl to stay with you. You have no obligation whatsoever to have her to stay, though beware - they might (just might) turn on the emotional blackmail, so be ready, eh. x

I would just phone her and say you have a family occassion like a birthday and that person is coming to stay that weekend and you haven't seen them for ages. I would'nt let anyone I did'nt know stay with me. Regards - Louise

Well - Steph he may be the closest mate Aaron has - but certainly doesn't sound like the BEST mate to me!! He is using you both - walking all over you - taking the michael - obviously see's the situation as a meal ticket and thinks you are complete pushovers. This man obviously has no respect whatsoever for either of you ............. does he still live at home by any chance ????

This is your home Steph, not a hotel and no one will appreciate your home like you and Aaron. Don't be afraid to say no, if they are true friends they won't be offended, there again if he was a true friend he wouldn't put you on the spot in the first place. Be firm and stand your ground. M.

Ooh when can I come? I could do with a couple of days away for free lol! No seriously, just tell her no and if you aren't comfortable with that ring her up crying and tell her that you and aaron are on the verge of splitting and arguing all the time and you're really sorry but she can't come! Julie xxx

Anne dont apologise its your opinions im asking for. He is one of Aarons closest mates but its got to the point where we both have to really be in the right kind of mood to have him over cos its always all about him, he doesnt tidy up afetr himself and its got to the point where its not just me whos gonna turn around and give him a clump Aarons on the edge of doing it too! Maybe next time i talk to her i might say we can meet up for a drink but she cant stay! xx

Stick to your guns girl. Maybe some time in the future you will feel diferent but you & Aaron have only just moved in & you need the time together to make it into a home, to make it yours. If they won't take no for an answer, use the health card. You're not well enough for visiters!!!!!! Vivienne

It's your place Steedie, if you don't want anyone there your going to have to tell them, nicely of course, but firmly.Once you give in it will all start up again. Heather :))

Apologise to the girl but tell her ................. she cannot stay - he did not ask you before making the offer - and he had no right to do so. If she doesn't like it - tough - that's her problem to sort out with him. Personally I would ditch him - he is no friend just a 'leech' who uses people who regard him as a friend!!!!! Sorry - just my opinion xxx PS. Say NO and stand your ground !!!!!!

We told his mates that also no one can just turn up expecting to stay and no one is staying over every single weekend, if we want someone to stay we will invite them! Well his mate didnt seem to happy with that, tough!! While our mate was in Australia he phoned us and sed that his g'friends sister is coming over to the UK and he told her she can stay with me and Aaron, we said no she can only stay for a few days. Now that she is here, he said to me last week 'oh by the way (so and so) is coming down next weekend, i told her to bring her overnight stuff cos she will be staying here with you guys!' Well i dont know how i didnt deck him cos that made me fuming, i just got up and walked out and left aaron to say no, but he has given this girl my number and she keeps on calling me wanting to come down and stay, i dont wanna say no to her but i dont even know the girl, im not exactly the most warming person...normally i hate everyone at first until i get to know them but he has put us right on the spot!x

We have this friend (who some of you met at the London meet once), well now that we have settled down in our new place we have agreed that NOBODY stays at ours during the week and nobody comes over weeknights. We were sick of it in our old place the flat got used as a right doss house and his mates ruined the carpet and generally didnt care!...see below