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Steedie,why don,t you supply him with a list of charges for overnight bed and breakfast charges,payment in advance.and if any of his mates ring up,just tell them the price,starting somewhere in the region of £60.00.per night.Perhaps then he and the other freeloaders will get the message. Hal.

ive had a good think about this and thanks for all of your replies!! Im so glad its not just me!!! I will stick to what i say and wont let anyone esp. not him take the p... out of our home! What would i do without you lot keeping me sane! xx

He obviously got used to sponging off you at your old place, & if you let him get away with it in your new place now, he will just carry on exactly the same as he did before. Not only would I tell the girl she can't stay (with no excuses, just a refusal), I would also ask him how dare he invite people to stay at YOUR home? Remind him in no uncertain terms that it is YOUR home, NOT his & that he must not do that again. As others have already said, he sounds like a friend you could both do without. Good luck! Carole

Hi Steph Have just come back to catch up on this - I would ask him what part of No he doesn't understand!?!? Is he really that thick ??? Seriously - I can see you and Aaron parting ways with this guy - and for the best from what I can see ................. Good luck xxx

I don't see why you should have to explain yourself or make excuses. Just say 'I undersatnd that 'X' said you could stay. Well I am very sorry, but he did not ask us before making that arrangement and we will not be able to have you'. Why should you be made to feel guilty! Claire xx

The downright absolute cheek of it! Who on earth does he think he is? It sounds to me that this guy is not a friend, he is a parasite. I think you must have the patience of Job to have put up with him this long. Tell him 'No', tell the girl 'No'. Full stop. You do not need to give a reason, apart from the truth - that you are not having ANYONE to stay, because your hospitality has been abused in the past. Try not to fall into the trap of making excuses or lying - you need to tell them straight, or they will keep pestering you. Good luck, Liz x

Call in 'Super Nanny' she deals with unruly children!!! James :<)))

Julie, i get home too late to see it now and dont have E4 anymore so i now have towait until sunday!! xx

You have all made me feel so much better!! You see i dont have a problem with saying no, aaron is just starting to learn cos even he got sick of everyone treating the old place like a doss house. If she call again i will just explain (nicely) that we cant have anyone to stay, even if only for a night, i'll say that it is written into out rent clause! I just wanted to check that im not being a moody cow! Plus i may know her sister but she is still a stranger!! If he wants to stay again he will have to wait until he gets an invite and even then im setting out somerules for him and of course his other mates, which will include, -Making the bed after sleeping in it -If he wants to eat he will have to order a take away (sick of paying their food bills) -After eating he will have to wash up his dishes -any breakages or mess he makes HE will be paying for That sounds ok dont it? xx

I'll second that, Vivienne! x

Steph, I clearly remember the thread from last year which is why I said what I did. This guy is no friend to either you or Aaron, he is just a freeloader & he is taking the capitol P. It is time for you & Aaron to stop being a friend to him & maybe he will get the message. Whatever you do, don't give in! Vivienne

Steph I'm just quiet, meek and mild until I start bullying you lol Tell this guy that if he wants to stay he has to pay £45 a night without meals (Travel Inn rates)

LOL Did you see him and becca making out, cor I thought my heart would burst! Julie xxx

dont cry Julie, who is it i text when i see sexy justin on tv!!!!??? xx

Oh I see reply to Dawn and not me huh! and I thought you loved me!!!!!! *sits crying in corner* Julie xxx

thanks everyone! You see its not us being selfish, we did have another friend of ours stay with us from Christmas until we moved out this year, but he paid his way and didnt take the p. Actually you might remember me putting a thread up during the summer about how this guy splatted a bug against the wall in our old place and left it there along with a blood stain, thats what he is like!! Our other friends have said that everytime he says that this girl is gonna come over for a weekend to just say that we are going over theres for that night, thats what we did last saturday. I'll tell you something else that will make you laugh, when we first moved in to this new place he wakked in, looked in the spare room and said 'well thats alright aint it, its bigger than my old room. Im gonna be staying over a few nights a week cos when i go back to work im gonna need to stay here when i cant get home' You will be glad to know we both said NO straight away but it didnt sink in. Dawnie AND JULIE, well im nice to anyone on here cos you all know me now, but with people i dont know i seem to put my defences up and i can be a right cow to people i dont know. Not in a horrible way but i dont go out of my way to be extra friendly, been stabbed in the back way too many times!! xxx

Why not send him a bill for the cost of putting up him and his friends in the past and tell him the 'Hotel' is now closed. James

Come on Steedie you need to be strong here and i'm sure you knew the answer before you asked the question. You and Aaron pay the rent and its up to you two who does or doesnt stay and when you will or won't invite them. Tell this 'friend' its not on and to get his own place to party in. Lotsa love Lisa xx

PMSL Dawn I was thinking the same thing, for someone who doesn't warm to people she has been my life saver a couple of times with her tales of piercings! Julie xxx

Steph stand your ground and say no. Say there is something in the agreement that mens you can't do it , say landlord will be doing spotchecks for the first few months. This is yours and aarons new home yuo need time to enjoy it tell the cheeky b****** to let them stay with him. Wonders if this Steph persons who doesn't warm to people easily is the same one I have been messaging for the past month cos that one seems ok to me. lol