General Chat

Steph, I clearly remember the thread from last year which is why I said what I did. This guy is no friend to either you or Aaron, he is just a freeloader & he is taking the capitol P. It is time for you & Aaron to stop being a friend to him & maybe he will get the message. Whatever you do, don't give in! Vivienne

I'll second that, Vivienne! x

You have all made me feel so much better!! You see i dont have a problem with saying no, aaron is just starting to learn cos even he got sick of everyone treating the old place like a doss house. If she call again i will just explain (nicely) that we cant have anyone to stay, even if only for a night, i'll say that it is written into out rent clause! I just wanted to check that im not being a moody cow! Plus i may know her sister but she is still a stranger!! If he wants to stay again he will have to wait until he gets an invite and even then im setting out somerules for him and of course his other mates, which will include, -Making the bed after sleeping in it -If he wants to eat he will have to order a take away (sick of paying their food bills) -After eating he will have to wash up his dishes -any breakages or mess he makes HE will be paying for That sounds ok dont it? xx

Julie, i get home too late to see it now and dont have E4 anymore so i now have towait until sunday!! xx

Call in 'Super Nanny' she deals with unruly children!!! James :<)))

The downright absolute cheek of it! Who on earth does he think he is? It sounds to me that this guy is not a friend, he is a parasite. I think you must have the patience of Job to have put up with him this long. Tell him 'No', tell the girl 'No'. Full stop. You do not need to give a reason, apart from the truth - that you are not having ANYONE to stay, because your hospitality has been abused in the past. Try not to fall into the trap of making excuses or lying - you need to tell them straight, or they will keep pestering you. Good luck, Liz x

I don't see why you should have to explain yourself or make excuses. Just say 'I undersatnd that 'X' said you could stay. Well I am very sorry, but he did not ask us before making that arrangement and we will not be able to have you'. Why should you be made to feel guilty! Claire xx

Hi Steph Have just come back to catch up on this - I would ask him what part of No he doesn't understand!?!? Is he really that thick ??? Seriously - I can see you and Aaron parting ways with this guy - and for the best from what I can see ................. Good luck xxx

He obviously got used to sponging off you at your old place, & if you let him get away with it in your new place now, he will just carry on exactly the same as he did before. Not only would I tell the girl she can't stay (with no excuses, just a refusal), I would also ask him how dare he invite people to stay at YOUR home? Remind him in no uncertain terms that it is YOUR home, NOT his & that he must not do that again. As others have already said, he sounds like a friend you could both do without. Good luck! Carole

ive had a good think about this and thanks for all of your replies!! Im so glad its not just me!!! I will stick to what i say and wont let anyone esp. not him take the p... out of our home! What would i do without you lot keeping me sane! xx

Steedie,why don,t you supply him with a list of charges for overnight bed and breakfast charges,payment in advance.and if any of his mates ring up,just tell them the price,starting somewhere in the region of £60.00.per night.Perhaps then he and the other freeloaders will get the message. Hal.