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Look after yourself Margaret xx

Margaret I'm so sorry to hear of your loss ((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Julie xxx

I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my dad 7yrs ago but even though he is not here in body he is still with me and if I have to tell him something I do, I just come out and say it as I know where ever he is he listiens to me so please think happy thoughts not sad ones

Margaret Lots of love and hugs for you. Dianne xx

Clearing a person's things is the hardest part of the lot, and I hope you have held on to all the old photos etc as eventually you will enjoy looking through them. My father in law died in 1987 - he was the only father I'd ever known - and my mother in law in 1993. I try to avoid the road they lived on, but at least I can pass it now - for a long time I just 'saw' them there. Hold on to all the good memories. Take care, Christine

margaret - a very difficult time for you. take comfort from the fact that he only spent on night in a lovely nursing home, could have had many perhaps, in a grim one, had you just moved him to any old place. You did your best , as is right and proper. Hope today passes without too much heartache, and tha a buyer comes along soon to buy the house, making it a happy family home again. thinking of you Jess

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Well its been quite a while since I was on the boards, an awful lot has been happening, and I just havnt had the time or the inclination. As some of you will know my dad has been ill with lung fibrosis. He also had a bad heart condition. Anyway.....as time passed he gradually got worse, was on permement oxygen and he just got weaker. I spent a lot of time sorting carers out for him, and making phone calls for various things he wanted or needed. He got to the stage where he hated talking on the phone as he got so out of breath. It then go to the stage where dad really couldnt do much for himself so it was time to try and find a nursing home for him. That wasnt fun. I visited what seemed like every single home in town. Eventually we found a lovely one for him. Took pictures so he could see what it looked like, as it was too much effort for him to actually go and look for himself. In he moved and really seemed to settle in quite fast, he was eating properly, as he didnt have to make meals himself, and chatting up all the ladies. He had a good night sleep the first night. I went round the next day to see how he was getting on. Everything was great and he really liked it. I spent about 4 hours there before I had to get home for the children. My sister phoned him about 6 pm just as he was being taken up to his room to watch telly. 10 to 7 I got a phone call from them. Dad had had a heart attack and was on his way to hospital. By the time my sister and I got there it was too late. They tried to save him but his poor heart just gave out on him. We just couldnt belive it, going into the home was ment to give him more time with us. As it was he spent just one night there. It just seemed to go down hill from there. Telling everyone, arranging the funeral. Actually going to it, which was horrible, even though everyone said we had given him a wonderful send off. The worse I think was sorting out his house. I didnt realise just how much stuff dad had. It took a long time to go through everything. His lovely home is now up for sale and Ive been round there for the past couple of weeks cleaning up and redecorating the main rooms as they looked a bit scruffy once all the pictures and bit and bobs had gone. I think today will see me finished over there. Strangely Im not looking forward to it. It feels like Im turning my back on him, maybe its because there is now nothing left to do. Anyway ramblings over now.