General Chat

Hey sweets...... sending ya a hug cos i know where you are coming from right now!! xx

I found my partner and subsequent wife purely by chance having spent years thinking I would be the sad old git in the corner - when it happens it happens and is magical

I'll be really blunt now - get yourself some different friends and stop being so danged helpful! LOL Let's face it though - any bloke who hasn't got the guts to sort out his own love life ain't worth a light anyway. So no matter how great they think you are - you are worthy of better! Find somewhere new to go, perhaps with a girlfriend that you haven't really been out with before. Be seen somewhere different. Watch for who's about - but don't do the girly thing of being too loud to attract attention. Let them make the first move. Cool(ish) but not aloof. Don't be over friendly (I don't mean that the way it sounds LOL - don't be too concerned about their problems - they are not yours!) Don't be used as a sounding board for everyone's tales of woe and try to sort out their problems for them. This is why you come over as a 'great friend' I expect. I'll shut up now LOL Gin talking , I think! Mags xx

Yes Stu you are right these things happen when they are meant to no use rushing them......Enjoy your life at present and you never know who you may bump into....He could be already there and you may not have noticed for looking....Hope that makes sense.....lol

Bec, Think positive, it will happen, most likely when you are not expecting it. If you carry on thinking like you are I'll have to come up there and give you a slap! LOL

Lol, Thanks Didder. Maybe I should sell myself on ebay??? lol Night everyone, I'm off to bed now. Work tomorrow (SERIOUSLY cannot wait!) and I need to be fresh-faced. Thanks for the advice everyone, I might be on my own but I'm never REALLY on my own when I have you lot. xx

Good advice Gwen! Didder - I scare off men ten years older than me.... a 21yr old would probably run a mile..... (PM me!) lol x

Best to wait an get the right man otherwise can be big big mistake youll find him xxxxxxxxxxxx

Awww thanks Stu!!! Liz- Hadn't planned to... when/where is it??? xx

Thanks Janet! Mags - You speak sooooo much sense! xxx I'm happy being a friend and I'm lucky to have the great friends I do. I'm just sick of the 'I really like your mate... seeing as you're such a good mate, introduce us....' etc. I'm not perfect in anyway, have never suggested I was. But I'm young, relatively intelligent, enjoy life and independent... I know it'll (hopefully) happen eventually... it can just be tough being in an environment where you get told you're 'great' and yet not great enough...

Just remember, there are people who do love you, but might think they are not good enough for you. Me, I'm too old. (In body anyway LOL)

Bec, those mates with their girls, aren't for you but will be the first to tell their mates if you meet up, what a great girl you are! Are you going to Brighton? I really hope to be there. Liz Maybe we can find a duo, father and son, would be good, goes without saying I would let you have the son!!! x

Bec.....It will happen when you least expect it to....It is called Fate.... Janet

It’s a minefield isn’t it? Be a friend to a man from the off and they think that’s all you want to be and don’t take it any further. Try to come over as something more than a friend to them to start with and you get labelled as ‘easy’. Sit there and say nothing and you’re ‘boring.’ Talk a lot and they ‘can’t get a word in edgeways’ There is no pleasing some men – but one day there will be one that will want you exactly as you are, whatever your mood, whatever you do or whatever you say. Stop looking long enough for him to find you. There is certainly nothing the matter with you, young lady! Mags xxx

Lol Thanks Stu!

Bec, I've met you. You are lovely, kind, caring, beautiful person. Hell, if I thought I was good/young enough for you I'd ask you out!

Heather - MWAH! Louise - Am not looking for it at all... just beginning to think it might not happen. Stu - Thanks honey. Wish you were right! lol

Hello Liz, lovely to chat again. I'm ok really, just beginning to wonder whether I'll be happier on my own. I'm very independent and have stopped the 'desperate hunting for a boyfriend' thing... It's very hard, was in a pub this evening and there were 3 of my male friends who I get on with great! They all tell me I'm gorgeous and a great friend.... and they were all there with their girlfriends... I can't be that great...

Bec, nothing wrong with you!. It`s the blokes who have the problem.

It will happen - my sister lost her husband 4 years back when she was 54. Known him since she was 16. Thought shed be alone for the rest of her life. Shes getting married in Barbados in February to a brilliant bloke whom she met when she went on a mad dog treking holiday in Canada on her own. Blimey, just seen you are 23 - you are a baby - dont rush into getting tied down! BTW I have a very nice single son aged 25.