General Chat

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I did this thread ages ago, but as we have new people joining us all the time I thought I would see what current opinion is So, ladies, when you receive a letter how do you like to be addressed? Miss, Mrs or Ms??? Just to add to the fun I have included some quotes I have found on the subject. When you call me Miss or Mrs You invade my private life For it’s not the public’s business If I am, or was, a wife In typing Ms for Mrs Your typewriter has slipped I am a wife and mother And not a manuscript And, of course there is this one!! If Miss means respectably unmarried, and Mrs means respectably married, then Ms means nudge, nudge, wink, wink. ;-))))))

I was Miss till I married and am now Mrs. Ms to me smacks of political correctness. I'm not bothered if people know I am married - its not a secret and my marriage is in the GRO indexes! Lots of divorced women are still known as Mrs so it doesn't really explain marital status. nell

I am 'Mrs' and prefer to be called Heather. Heather x

Like Heather, I am a Mrs. and prefer to be called Sally.... I made the mistake (in my case) of calling MiL Mum, and it wasn't until my lovely mum passed away that I found it very difficult to call my MiL mum, and explained why I would be using her name in future........found it difficult to do this after so many years..... I ask my DiL, future DiL, and daughter's boyfriend, and niece to call me Sally........

Hi Dee, I'm Ms on credit cards and official documents etc because it's no stranger's business whether or not I'm married. I feel like the writer of your first quote. Letters addressed just to me are Ms if from official sources and Mrs or just my two names from friends or relatives. Letters to both of us are addressed to Mr and Mrs, which is fine. When I was teaching (after I was married) I introduced myself as Mrs but was always called Miss. I think it can be a good idea to have a 'marital status neutral' address because men are Mr whatever their status. On an similar theme I'm just too old to have retained my proper name when I married. It's commonplace now but then it was thought of as unusual. I'm the youngest and last of my grandparents' line with this surname so I'd like to have kept it going for a while longer, even though our son would still have taken my husband's surname. Mostly I just like to be called by my first name. Gwynne

Hello Dee I well remember your original thread on this subject, and the replies were of great interest to me. I mentioned on that thread that this subject often causes me a lot of problems............................ it still does. LOL I shall be just as interested in the replies this time around.

As a woman of 'mature' years, I always prefer Ms. I am not single, have been married twice - but to me, Miss sounds like a young, unmarried gel, and Mrs is for married ladies, and as I am neither of those, I find Ms suits me mighty fine.

Morning all, I also have been married before but stayed a Mrs, it was easier! (am really a Mrs again now lol) Ali x

When I`m at work -nurse in Doctors- I try to remember if older ladies are Miss -but I usually just call everyone one by their full name -ie -Mary Smith to save mistakes. I was once told by another Doctor it was too personal to call someone by first name.I prefer Mrs. for myself. Ros

Morning, Dee …. :-) I remember the previous thread. I think that I probably said then something like I don't mind what I am called so long as it is not late for dinner (a saying of my father's)…. :-) I wonder why it is that ladies have the choice of designation, yet for gentlemen there is only the one: Mr. Joy

I feel that Ms sounds like an angry wasp. But when I have had to address an envelope to a woman and dont know what she is I reluctantly use it. But dont anybody DARE to call me that. I have felt for a few yrs now that I dont mind who calls me by my first name. In fact at choir I have had young things (50 yrs my junior) call me Huia. Doesnt bother me at all. Although I dont know if I would be happy if a business man meeting me for the first time called me that without my permission. (Women! Cant make up their minds!)

I am quite happy to be Mrs, having been married for 17 years. If however, I ever become single again I do not know how I would feel. I would probably revert to Miss because I find Ms clumsy and unnatural. Liz

I could copy Huia's post almost word for word. People I like, I'm happy to call me Viv or Vivienne but the arrogant so called tech support at BT Yah** got short shrift when he called me Wivienne!!!!!! Vivienne xx

Call me any other than Madam i just dislike and go crazy if someone refers to me as Madam Lil Foxy Fred you will be in trouble from all these women LOL

Im a Mrs, I dont have a problem with that, I actually hate being called Ms it far too P.C .

Dont really care, will answer to anything polite.......... Barbara........xx

Oops, sorry, just realised - that was what I had said in response to what do you like to be called ? ie dear, love etc.... :-) As regards Mrs etc ..... I don't mind at all. Joy

I am Mrs, and feel insulted by official correspondence referring to me as Ms

Iam Mrs on all things from the UK and Mme over here in France. Jill xx :)