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Hi Pauline I hope I don't offend you, as I have no right to criticise your family, but as the daughter of a sick mum myself I do think they're being very thoughtless and even rather selfish. They need a good kick up the pants and be made to realise that you have supported both of them over the years, and now it's time for them to put YOU first instead of themselves. You are definitely not selfish, and I'm sending you lots of love and hugs, Mandy xxx

You're all so good. OH has had loads of serious illnesses in our 30 years together, and I have always been his 'rock'. Now I need support it's hard to find. I do have a counsellor who has been assigned to me,but that's only in working hours. Thank you so much for your support because it means so much. I'm sure I'll buck up again - I always do :-) PP xx

postive thoughts coming your way pauline. xxx.

No Pauline you are NOT being selfish - you can cry on my shoulder any time. Leave the other two to it and sit yourself down and have a bit of time for yourself for a change. (((((((((((( hugs coming your way right now )))))))))))))) Jay

Huge hugs to you Pauline and no you are most definately not selfish, us women are so often made to feel like doormats and come whatever we will always be there to do everything, it must be doubly hard for you with your ilness, When my OH was off work with stress for 4 months he shut himself away a lot, its just not so easy for us to do that, Take care my love, Cazxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Pauline, don't ever feel guilty needing love and support, we all do. If your OH is anything like mine, then he won't have a clue what to do when you are anything less than your normal self! Look to your friends, and your own strength.. and if that's flagging build yourself up with some encouraging reading and a few treats. hugs for you Denise

pauline i think heather hit the nail on the head! they do care about you and im sure would be horrified to know you are feeling like this. you are entitled to feel the way that you do everybody needs a hug and someone to care how they are feeling! xx

No Pauline love, your not at all selfish.......what a rotten thing to happen to you, and your family must worry about you and what you are going through yourself......Of course you must be worried about them too.......at least you recognise that stress can come out in different ways.... I don't know how to make anything better for you, but I am sure that there are many of us on the board who are feeling for you right now, so no.....you are not alone.......we are all here......thinking of you......

Awh Pauline, big hugs for you babe. It is hard on the whole family but they have to learn to deal with it hon. You are the one who should be getting their support so you shouldn't feel like your not being fair. My BIL recently was going through kemo as he has a very rare cancer, one night when he couldn't sleep he went into the other bedroom as not to disturb SIL, when she woke in the morning she went ballistic as there was loads of hair on BIL pillow, how dare he not clean it up and leave it for her to find. Just her way of NOT dealing with it. Am sure everyone has their stories of peeps who are having a hard time dealing with family member illnesses but they soon realize they need to be supportive. Hope it turns around for you and you work your way through you illness. ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Debs xx

Oh Pauline Sending you some (((( HUGE HUGS )))) Love Julie xx

You are not selfish at all, get that thought right out of your noddle, Mrs! Everyone needs a hug now and again, you more so that a lot of us that winge about nothing at all (((((Hug))))) jess x

Pauline, poor kid, I know how you feel. I often feel just the same. Try not to think about OH - they cant cope and so get the grumps or withdraw when they dont know how to handle things. Hugs ((((((((((((((((( )))))))))))))))))))

sending big ((((((((((((hugs))))))))) take care Rosex

(((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))) Pauline...

(((((((((HUGE HUGS))))))))) Vikkix

Big hugs Pauline ((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))You have this daft bunch on here....!

Pauline... :-( (HUGS)

Anybody out there? As many of you know I am fighting a bone barrow disease. At the moment I am trying to soldier on as normal bu going to work etc. It's not always easy as some days I feel cr*p. My OH has been signed off work for 2 weeks with severe headaches caused by stress. He reaaly cannot come to terms with my illness. I know it's not his fault but today he has gone down with some sort of tummy bug :-( I've just come home from work to find him in bed, and younger daughter alseep in the chair. I feel grotty as well, but nobody seems to care.Nobody wants to think about how I feel. Am I being selfish? Big hugs needed please. PP