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I hate it whem people do that!! I dont like my space being Invaded.

He has problems with spatial awareness ? LOL Viv

If you don't like it....tell them. Marion

You can buy a bottle of pheromones from Space NK Apothecary - I think it costs £45. I remember seeing it in my catalogue. J:-)

BB He either fancies you, or he is a tease. Sadly there are lots of men who choose to ignore body language - usually the sort that is telling them to **** off, I find, odious little creeps. Not that I have much problem with that, these days! As for pheromones, well, all I can say is, they have got me into more trouble than enough - but ooh, it was lovely at the time. OC

lol Christine, yes I well know the type.......used to come up behind you at the filing cabinet.......just to look for something......very difficult to get away when you have nowhere to go and a pest up your rear end.......but stepping backwards with a heel does it every time.... .....its nice though when the feeling is mutual.......

so.....you think he is prob just touchy feely? BB xx

Love to have a discussion with you on this one Christine - I too have had to use the 'repel all boarders' body signals a few times..........as you say, its instinct.......

Its like second nature to me Christine, and I suspect you have the instinct too........plus I read a lot......

but if he says he doesn't feel that way about me,then why is being like this :-( BB xx

You've got it Christine.......exactly that........

and he did ask if i was going out tonight....aaaarrrrgggghhhh! BB xx

well i was being a bit naughty and putting my hand closer to his than it naturally would have fallen.But i like him,and now the kiss thing is confusing me,it was only a peck on the cheek but he did it to no one else, . BB xx

oooo go on explain...please, BB xx

Id see it as invading my space unless ofcourse i was inviting them xx

If the last reply was for me BB, then I would say that the person was saying in body language 'I feel close to you so I want to get closer', and your body language is not giving off any of the defensive gestures one give to 'repel boarders' if you get my meaning.........automatic defensive mechanisms would be to put your arm across your body, ie folding arms. squaring up to the person and looking straight into their eyes with a frown (saying in body language BACK OFF). to step back and turn your shoulder towards that person, as if to walk away.......you see, all the time you are putting the parts of your body you would defend yourself with between yourself and the other person. If you are sitting, you will cross your legs or point your feet towards the person you are interested in, your shoulders will be turned in that direction too. If the person then crosses their legs opposed to yours, or points their body away from yours, this is gently saying I am not interested (sexually)........and now I am getting of this subject........please dont get me on to chemical attraction......

I didn't mind at all:-D BB xx

My closeness tolerance zone is almost zilch with close friends.......but seriously, this is the way it goes........someone gets close, if you like them enough and you feel comfortable, this you allow.......if you do not, you back off, turn your shoulder towards the person, to ward them off, move forward, turn your head away - all the defensive postures to warn that you are not allowing this invasion into your space......body language works both ways.... the person is saying 'I feel comfortable enough with you to get closer,' and by you allowing this closeness you are saying 'I feel comfortable enough to let you into my space'.......as Christine says everyone has their own comfort zone.....you soon know if you don't want that person near you..... Next time you want to try it out, stand near to a stranger, and you will see their defensive body action saying 'I do not want you in my space'........and you will feel uncomfortable too.... I ask you......how did you feel when this person invaded your space?.....

Ya've pulled !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lolol

you'd think wouldn't ya.but i told him I liked him and he said he likes me,just no in that way!Aaaaaaaarrrgggghhhh!But he still carried on being touchy feely and even gave me a kiss last night, BB xx