General Chat

Tara You are so right! It was even worse for the OH's first wedding (which explains his understanding). Bride's father used it as a social event. No joke, they had over three hundred people on the day. Most of them the Bride's fathers golf club and business contacts and wives!!!!!!!. OH says it was the day from hell...Welcoming people to his wedding that he had no idea as to who they were :( Hense why he is happy for me to issue the invites this time....He knows we will only have our REAL friends and family in attendance :) Chris

The way it should be Chris.....I would want to know whose there and whom truly want to be part of our happy day...like i said before we could invite over a hundred guests to our wedding but what would be the point of inviting someone you hardly see, who hardly knows what your about, all for the sake of because 'their family' or friends of their family even!!

I could have had the big posh one but my Dad took me aside.... 'Big wedding or a smaller one with the cash difference paid to you?' We chose the smaller 'do' and then decorated, carpeted and furnished our first home from top to bottom with the difference!!!! The smaller 'do' was still big compared to others. Registry Office and 120 for a sit down meal. I didn't have a 'big' dress..It was a suit from Allders in Croydon that I then used for work (without the Princess Di hat) for a good few years after :) I am now planning my second wedding (ex long gone) and looking back at my photos what worries me is that I can't remember the guests at my first.........It was supposedly small with only close family and friends....I really don't remember at least 50% of the faces, ex mother in law took over :( This time I will know 100% 'cause they will all be my choice.............OH insists :))))) Chris

Got married in 1976. Did everything right (according to Mum !!) stressed out over everything !! who was sitting where etc., who to/not to invite/ who was paying for what etc. Widdowed in 1988. Decided to remarry in 1992. Who to invite/ who not to inviite. Who are you going to ask to 'stand for you?', 'Better be the right person' 'Who's paying for the cake?' 'Who's giving you away?' Should have been easier second time around!!! Still a good day !! (even if OH dod bang 18 month old nefhew's head against the top of the bar !!!). Libby xx '

Still looking I just loved the way you put that!! LOL Kim it just goes to show doesnt it. Money can't buy you happiness.....Well Done to you & your hubby :-)

weddings! now ya talking about my subject! I've had three...and counting lol..... I had the white 'DO' loved all the arranging and planning.... On the day....it went so fast I think i missed it! Ten years and three kids later I thought, maybe I shoulda dun! lol Second one..... A quick licence without telling anyone and trip down the reg office with kids in tow (son insistead in wearing his wellies) That one died just before three years (so! we dont count that one) lol 3rd attempt!... 8 years later and in debt up to me eye balls! It was time to move on yet again.....His motto was, to die in debt! and have nothing for his kids to argue over. NEXT!!!!!!!! .......lol Always the bride....never the bridesmaid me... I love a good divorce! Mr 3 took me to Turkey for a week to celibrate our divorce...we had a great! time! lol...still good friends with all of em.

My cousin had a posh wedding about 13 yrs back. Toastmaster was flown in from Australia. Food was cr*p! But the best laugh was from the 'Best Man'. He was reading the telegrammes, when he said 'Oh there's a telegramme here from the hotel you are staying at tonight...pause.... they send they're sincere apologies but the honeymoon suite is over booked, so will your normal room be ok!' Her family just went white, us lot nearly wet ourselves laughing! They split 1 year later. Mine? got drunk one night, got married 8 weeks later, full white job, cost £400, had son 13 years later and it's our 25th anni next month!! Kim

Oh Reggie your such a romantic, no wonder your marriage is blessed.

Thanks, Tara.........I didn't mention earlier, but will do now, that last year we had a Service of Thanksgiving and Re-dedication at our local church.........very emotional! We had a lovely day, shared with our family and our closest friends. Reg

Yes I agree Germaine. It's thing's like what amanda did for her husband is what makes a ceremony so romantic and meaningful. Reggie's a great example of how small wedding's can mean more in long term....They seem to be more personal. Congrats Reggie and well done for keeping the flame lit.

That sounds lovely Tara and like you say as long as your family are around you I hope it all goes to plan and you have the lovely day you want. The doves sound a lovely idea Amanda had a lovely singer at hers it was a friend of the family and she surpirsed her with a beautiful song by Celine Dion (she had written it for husband ) and it fitted perfectly. Think it is these little personal touches that make the day Germaine x

Me and my fiancee are getting married next July. We are the traditional types and like things small, big weddings are too fussy and stress too many people out getting everything arranged. I can see how a small wedding can get out of hand though if the funds are there and its their first wedding...with the dream and all of the perfect romantic wedding..its very easy to get carried away. My fiancee & I are getting married in a beautiful small but very ancient 'Dode' in Luddesdown. Which my father's paying for and were also having two horses & carriage, and two white doves too release after the ceremony. Thats as fancy as were having it. We could have over a hundred people present at wedding but have opted for only 25 or so people that are a current loving part of our life's and the reception is at a lovely restuarant with a toastmaster and were paying for that and the dress and flowers and bits n bobs ourselves. We want to try and make it so its about us and our love for each-other rather than what people think and how extravagant it could be. My sister had the Mauritus to some (dream) wedding on the beach. Yet, she wishes now that she had her wedding in england and had her family around her.

Thanks Catherine at the end of the video there is 5 mins done in black and white it is out of this world so different. Great guy who did it though he has passed on now i think his wife still does it . I believe he did some celebrety (spl?) weddings. Germaine x http://www*blakearchive*org/blake/indexworks*htm

oh that's lovely Germaine. catherine xx

Don't know if you would call it posh ( posh for round here) but my daughter had a beautiful wedding. she said she had waited long enough ( they had lived together for a few years had a nice little house)she was going to have everything she ever wanted. We all went shares she and hubby me and her dad and her hubby's parents all went 3rds.so she got it all. Not huge but the horse and carriage Rolls ( the reception was too far away for the horse it would have taken it ages to get there)Lovely lodge for the day and night do.Not too many people but everything was lovely and she said she wouldn't have had it any other way after all she said she only intends to do it once. They are very happy can't imagine them ever being with anyone else. I have a lovely dvd that I often put on we had such a lovely day and she looked so beautiful.Certainly a day to remember with fondness Germaine x

40k omg, I need a lie down. give me the £500 one any day. catherine xx

My son and wife went to a very posh wedding about three years ago held in a stately house cost about £40,000 and guess what about two years later they split up - what an absolute waste of money. Now son and wife were living together with little one when his better half came in and said weddings on Tues (6days time) cost £500 for the meal and it was a lovely wedding Norah

25k that's unbelieveable. Reckon them I've been to cost that if not more, mine was 5k in barbados. catherine xx

I had a 'small' wedding......10 people in total, actually. But.........I've been happily married for nearly 37 years, and to me it's the marriage that matters! Reg

Don't know about posh, but I find 'traditional' white weddings with all the trappings very boring. If you're just a friend, you spend AGES hanging around to be in about 1 photo, then have to wait AGES while the couple get to the reception first so that they can greet everyone. Then AGES until everyone sits down and gets fed, I usually make an exit before the speeches as I find them excruciating! I've much preferred the simpler, quieter, shorter weddings I've attended. At the big events, the bride and groom always seem to look worried and tense - no doubt hoping no hitches will occur in the big day - but I think the day should be enjoyed!