General Chat

Thanks everyone, its good to know I am not on my own in the way I get treated by him!! LOL!!

Sometimes I think it is just a people thing. 3 years before I met OH - both his parents had died & he is an only child. He has some lovely cousins - male & female - not once though did any of them invite him for Christmas :-( For our Christmas I thought just for one year I'd like to have just me OH & boys - just so I've experienced but will prob not like it! Anyway I said to my brother - could you invite Mum & Dad for Christmas this year. Brother says 'Nah we like to spend every Christmas now on our own!!!' The other Christmas we had about 15 for Boxing Day - lunch all cooked - waiting for brother to arrive - 20 minutes late - no apology - just explained he was watching the horse racing!!!! Other years 'I will only come if someone picks me up so that I can drink!!!' Here endeth my thoughts on male & female relations!!!!!!! Penny

I think I have to finally realise that no matter what he means to me I don't mean the same to him now he has his own family! David...... I can't invite them to me as I have a tiny 1 bed house but I do understand what you are saying! I know that if he did invite me i probably wouldn't go but Dee is right for once I want him to think of me!! ;o( I am probably wallowing in self pity right now but hey i'll get out this mood soon.... or at least by Dec 26th!

I have two brothers, both married, one has a son, the other two dogs! When my parents were alive my son and I always spent Christmas day with them, I even had to tote all his pressies there so they could enjoy watching him open them. After lunch which Mum always insisted on cooking, my brother with the son would turn up and we would spend the rest of the day together, or I would take Mum and Dad to childless bro's home for tea. The Christmas after my Dad died (he left us in the January) I asked my mum what she wanted to do, if she wanted me to bring her to my home for Christmas lunch, and she just casually said 'Oh G. has invited me to have lunch with them at an hotel.' They didn't bother to ask us so my 7 year old had to have his Christmas for the first time without his beloved Grandfather and without seeing his Nanna too. Both my brothers are so wrapped up in their businesses and making money, they don't bother to make contact and I am beginning to feel I don't want to continue to make the effort any more. I have already told my son that when I die, he needn't bother to let them know, and I don't want them turning up at my funeral or sending flowers which would be large affairs to show off their wealth. Thank heavens for friends, as you said Diana, so rightly. Liz

Diana,It a man thing! Most of the time they just dont think, Im sure he would be mortified if he knew. Roxanne x

Diana Of course you are not being selfish - he is just being thoughtless!! And sounds to me like his priority is just getting your pressies to his children !!!!!!!!!!! Seems to be a brother thing - mine forgot my 40th birthday - with present arriving as an after thought about a month later on Father's day ....... wouldn't mind but I remind him of Mum & Dad's birthdays March and April - then mine is in May, so it shouldn't be hard to remember And it's not like we are a large family - just my folks, me and him and his wife and children. We will be going to him this year and all mucking in to help etc in light of SILs recent news.

Youre not selfish Diana I'd br hurt too! Caz xxxx

Because David....Diana wants her bruv to THINK of HER. Geddit? (pluddy men!!!) Dee xx

Diana.... my brother is exactly the same. He never rings me. I always have to get in touch with him. I have decided that life is too short to care about someone who so obviously doesn't care about me.... so I don't bother anymore. I so love your saying about friends being the family you choose. Jean x.x.

It would be further for you to travel, but you are welcome to come down here .... though it would be quiet.

HEYYYYY Diana We are only off the M2 if you would like to come. We have met at one of the London Meets and you WOULD be very welcome. we do more than beans on toast too. only me & Hubby & granddaughter aged 24 this year BUT you would be very welcome AND!!!!! this is a genuine invite Shirley

Just try to be a little bit positive and remember the happy years. Be grateful for how long you had him around......... My father died when I was 15..........my mother having died when I was 7................. Reg

I'm ok - just had to take 5 mins then..... gawd this grief lark hits you when you least expect it to doesn't it!!! ;o) Mags - I am going to Evie's and I promise no beans! LOL!! Shirley - it wasn't you sweets honest just remembered that he really isn't coming home!! xx

Daisy no idea what on earth you mean by that comment!!!!!! Tho i did get told off the other night for dating to print off two pages of tree bits while the football was on!!!!! Diana, It really is a man thing it's never even occured to him you might like a family day!!!!!!

If your brother is anything like mine, you have to hit him over the head with a sledgehammer to provoke the response you want. ME: I was all on my own on Xmas Day. BRO: Yeah? ME: I did not like being all on my own on Xmas Day. BRO: No? ME: I would have liked to spend Xmas Day with you and your family BRO: Well, why didn't you say! I didn't know! (Imaginary conversation, I would rather spend Xmas Day in A and E, than spend it with him and his, lol) OC

Diana don't get upset ..... it really is a boy thing. You know him better than we do sweetie...... and if he's been like this always then you'd not want him to change - 'cos you love him the way he is......... chin up and keep guard over your pink dec's ........ cos i'm really gonna pinch 'em , so I am ............ ((hugs))

Oi! Come back here a minute - I take it you WON'T be sitting there with beans on toast on your own? Cos I WON'T have it! Now then. Yes, most men are unthinking clods. BTW. Hugs Mags xxx

Oh Diana Didnt mean to upset you. These bros have there own agendas. What about this!! My elder bro upped sticks & emigrated to Spain with his wife. Didnt tell ANYONE he was going and we all sent chrimbo cards to his home address not knowing he left there in early summer. The first we knew was tho was from my elder sis some eighteen months later when his elder son told her.& five years after that when his elder son phoned her to say he had died suddenly in Spain. We didnt know why he left without telling us,unless he thought we might want free hollies. Well NOO!! He was one of our bros!! & our parents would have been horrified at the split. we aren't in each others faces just there for each other if needed Take care Shirley

Shirley - nice thought but I doubt it..... I spent many a Xmas on my own without him noticing so why should this one be any different to him!! Evie will make sure i am ok that I know but it just sucks!! Getting myself upset now so gonna go!! Chat to you all tomorrow! xx

Its a guy thing. Probably never even thought what you might be doing for Xmas. Thinks you will have a full calender and have sorted out your Xmas already cos you are an Independent lady Bet he would jump in with an invite if he thought you might be on your own. Shirley