General Chat

This guy has no intention of leaving his family for you, how many people in your country? half of them are men find someone else. Rod

From some one who had their heart torn out, please stop it now, you don't seem the sort of person who enjoys hurting others, and that is what you would become if you carried on. I am not judging you, we all make mistakes, and that is all you have done, you now have the chance to rectify it. Bev

If you are starved of attention Stacey, I don't think you are going to listen to anything we say......you know its wrong or you wouldn't be putting up this thread.... This action can only bring pain to all concerned, and in a few years time you will look back and see what a waste it all was....and you will wonder why you felt that way about him... for the sake of your dignity, and his family, leave well along.....men are so weak anyway, and if he is found out he will say you meant nothing to him.......and you are worth far more than that.....

Hiya Racey, From the male side, I would say stop it now. Unless this bloke is going to leave his wife and small child, there's no future in it is there. He seems to me to be one who is a bit of a chancer, and not considering his family at all. His wife,,,,,blissfully unaware of his attentions to someone else, someone else who is NOT going to see the small child grow up WITHOUT his daddy to play football with, and kiss it better when he falls. Racey, seriously think of the consequences that this IS going to have on this blokes family. Him, I'm not bothered about, the wife and child are another matter.

Stacey, You will be the one to suffer, he wont. It will be you and his wfe and child. Please think of yourself and think of them. I know you are unhappy with hhaving to leave home, not getting on with your Dad etc. But this is not the way to solve it. You will find someone of your own, then we can all be happy for you. All the love and attention for a few weeks/months will not be worth the heart ache youw ill suffer if you don't get away from the relationship now. ((((hugs)))) Ann Glos

There is great man just around the corner who fully deserves you and your love and will cherish you. You don't near to share this man and if he does this behind his wife's back ,then he will do it to you too. Please don't take it any further, I know it isn't easy, but you deserve better. Lots of love to you. Sunny R

He's not a man anyone would want to get involved with. Look what he's doing to his wife and child. Stacey, you are worth more than that and you deserve better. Susan xx

Stacey, you know what is the right thing to do. Whether you do it, or not, is up to you. Surely you deserve better than this man.

He's purely using you, Stacey. Tell him where to go - NOW. x

Stacey, there will be someone new and good just for you, but wait now, till you have made your move and got yourself settled, it will be a whole new start in life and you don't want him tarnishing your thoughts and morals, just for the attention he gives at the mo, next week it could be someone else he is kissing. I have been there and got the t shirt too, on both sides, and it really isn't worth the pain. Take care, concentrate on sorting out your move and work etc. Lots of luck, Liz

As a woman that has been on the other end...and we had a child..... i would say to you..pls think of his wife and child!!! i felt like my heart had been ripped out and then some... my oh said it was only a 'friend' and didn't get to the physical stage...but even if it didn't...he let me down....and my sonxxx And you deserve better.....plenty of dishy blokes out there girl.....go get em!!!!(PS.i'm prob not alot older than u ....and defo not wiser!!)

Interesting. Doesnt the man here have some responsibility for his actions? If Stacey accepts his advances is it her fault? Is she really in the wrong? I think not. To my mind I think Stacey is totally innocent and would still be so if she accepts his advances. It is he who will be totally to blame if anything comes of it. He knows what he is doing. He is the one putting his family at risk. Just my view, which may be at odds. Gerry :-))

Gerry, a lot of truth in what you say, but it takes two, to tango.... In Staceys' best interest, I think she should take the advice given earlier, and tell him........''Thanks but no thanks........'' if the guy had already broken up his marriage, then it would have been a possibility, but as is, in my opinion.....No way.... Bob

Don't think anyone is blaming Stacey GerryI. I think we've mainly said this guy is bad news. Of course he is the one who is wrong but at the end of the day in my experience, it's the woman who gets branded, even though it takes two to tango! At the moment I don't think Stacey has done anything to feel bad about, but if she allows his advances, knowing he has a wife and small child, then I'm afraid guilt lies with both parties concerned. I have the t-shirt as i said before so commenting on this from experience...and not very nice either...also thinking of my daughter who has a young child and pregnant again...if she were the wife in this scenario she would be distraught...please say no to him Stacey and walk away! Nanna-Moo

Bob It probably is in Staceys best interests to keep well away if only because she would no doubt (unfairly in my opinion) be accused of all sorts. Double standards often seem to be applied. Gerry :-))

Gerry,, true, no doubt, if the marriage DID break up, as you say, Stacey would get the blame... Bob

Stacey, i can relate to what most others are saying but sometimes its the physical that we need at the time - im not saying its gonna end up all hearts and flowers but..........

I agree with Gerry, but i also say be prepared to be hurt my love! From one who has been there, got the T shirt and dry cleaned it xxxx