General Chat

Hi Joyous sorry to hear that your Mum was a Victim to the scum of the earth, my Mother in Law got Mugged then 2 weeks later they knocked on her door saying they were from the water board they took her purse and savings, the first time was in the street as she got off the bus the police didnt even bovver to attend she was 83 yrs, the second time the police came, they said they felt it was the same poeple, Since then she has become very isolated and has encounted ill health i would love to be behind them i would Def do them some harm and do time for the scum, its so sad to see someones confindence knocked out of them, they really do not realise the damage they do, as said many times before and very true what goes around comes around. Lilxx

i know what you mean lil,it breaks my heart,mum would,nt hurt a fly ,and yet at her age she has to put up with this.but i do believe that what goes around comes around,and i hope theres is incredibly painfull.xx

AWWW joyus (((((((((((HUGGLES ))))))))))))for you too Rosex

fanks babe.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

It's not just door to door callers the elderly have to be careful of - it's the Council - and I'm not talking about workmen, but white collar workers!! Gran died aged 99, 4 years ago. She'd been in a home for 2 years. Before she went into a home, she was in hospital. At this time, my mum, sister & I went round to see if we could make the place more habitable for gran, hoping she wold be allowed home. (If I called her a hoarder - that would be mild lol) We walked in to find....... A notice from the bailiffs!!! They were coming round the following week for their pound of flesh!! We looked into it, only to find it had been instigated by New forest district council for non-payment of council tax. Apparently the council had sent round new council tax forms, which gran had filled in. The council then started hassling her for Council Tax. Gran had only had the basic pension to live on since turning 70. She had NEVER paid council tax. Okay gran may have filled the form in wrong, but surely someone could have looked at their records to see if she was a habitual non- payer, elderly, disabled or even had never paid council tax either before sending the threatening letters or at least before demanding she go to court. If not then, surely when she didn't turn up to the court it would have been useful to look!! But no. New Forest District council employees just looked at their computer screen and didn't give a sh*t about who they were harrassing. We worked out that this was about the time gran started having 'turns' and falling. Poor thing must have been worried sick, but wouldn't tell anyone!!, It was because of her falls that she ended up in hospital - and then onto the home. New forest district council have never given us a proper explanation for their unfounded harrassment of gran, neither have they given us an apology. The bailiffs on the other hand were horrified. So come March, please look to elderly relations and their efforts to fill out these 'simplified' (my eye - just more patronising) forms. maggie

Some people are not fit to walk the earth, how would they feel if it was done to their family. Big ((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))) Claire xxx

High time all councils, services and utilities only called on senior citizens AFTER writing to advise them of a visit AND including a contact number in the letter, so that a trusted adult could ring and confirm the arrangements. This could then be advertised on tv as being their policy and the elderly told that anyone just turning up without an appointment was a potential hoaxer. I would include meter readers in this. Anyone can make and flash a bogus card, especially when people have sight & hearing not as sharp as it was. I feel it is a joint responsibility to protect the elderly or more vulnerable and services should be prepared to take a lead in this. Jay

Nudging.... Just watched crime watch .....where 2 men robbed a 90 yr old man in his own home .......

just a quick update,mum seems much more settled now,and the druggie round the corner is giving me a wide berth, [might be coz he passed mums the other day and nodded to her,i told him .......DONT LOOK AT MY MUM..........DONT SPEAK TO HER..........KEEP YOUR BUTT AWAY.........ELSE THE CANNAL WILL HAVE A VISITOR].........sniggers.xxxxx

We bought M-i-L a small safe that sits on a chest with a cover on it and a vase on top. Not so easy for someone to explain why they are carrying a safe as opposed to loose cash.

the trouble is brian,if they stole that and the police picked him up,all he would say is she gave it him,and its her word against his.x

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Really sorry to hear about your mum and those scumbags. My mother although 95 is the exact opposite, won't let anyone in her place, not even the GP because it was one she hadn't seen before. She sent him off to see the warden who came and vouched for him!! Liz

hi liz,i wish my mum was like that.she cant understand why people lie.and if they say waterboard she thinks its true. the police have been brilliant.and now call often,and drive by then wave at her.trouble is when they go round to inerview her,she wants to mother em and make them food .lol.xxxxxxxxxx

Great thread Joy.....sorry this awful thing happened to your mum..but you certainly opened a few eyes tonight...we have been worried sick with mother-inlaw.....87 living on her own...she is in hospital as we speak...down to her collapsing..due to old age...lay for 3 hours before she was found....now after trying to get her to come live with us for 12 years...it has taken this for her to agree.....wish you all well for the future... Sally xx

aww thanks sally,its somewhere to talk about our parents.i hope all works out with you and your lovely mum.it will take a great weight off your shoulders knowing shes safe.xxxxxxxxxx

My mum never had a lot, but would keep what little cash she had in the house. She died in 1995, aged 79,and whilst I miss her loads I am sometimes glad she is away from all the horror in the world now, she would have been so upset at the dreadful things that happen and even if she had moved into sheltered accommodation, I am sure she would have fallen prey to some idiot taking a chance, she was so trusting, and like your mum, would always offer hospitality. Bless 'em all! Liz

Loving Mum Who held our hand when we were lost? Told us winter stories about Jack Frost? Or made each meal a special treat? And cooked us our favourite sweet? That first day at school, who cried first? Whose eyes into tears did burst? And then later, to greet us full of smiles? Not showing any of motherhood’s trials? Who quietly told us of the birds and bees? Not the ones that fly in trees. Prepared us for our adulthood life, Warned us of joy, happiness and strife. The day we left home as a husband or wife, Who with a tear wished us a happy new life? To remind us that in life there is fun, And to never forget, our loving mum . . . xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx