General Chat

so anyway hun,see who ya feel comfortable with and enjoy.hugs xxxxxxjoy

Honesty being the best policy.... I've been a member with GR for about two years and I often scroll through the message board to have a 'nosey' I very rarely post any replies because: There are some people who get offended by other peoples opinions. A lot of the messages are aimed at people you already talk too, and the rest of us have no clue as to their meaning. Also I have seen a lot of bad feelings between some GR members and am not inclined to get involved in such issues. Otherwise GR is a great site. Steph

I look at the board most days and often post on a thread or 2. I don't join in any of the nastiness although I sometimes read through the threads. From my viewpoint - which may be wrong - people oftern overreact to a comment or thread because it is from someone they don't get on with. The others friends join in and it becomes a real mud slinger. If there is something abusive it should go straight to genes and if not, why not just ignore it? It's such a shame as not only does it make the board an unfriendly place but the people involved - on both or however many sides there are,I find it very confusing! - seem to be lovely people most of the time. I don't avoid anyone or anyones thread - I'll post if I'm interested, not because of whose thread it is. Come on folks, let's treat one another as we would like to be treated. Kate

I tend not to add to 'those ' threads even when a friend might be being attacked ....Why keep it up there ?? any friends that I have made know I will support them .a bit like the good old playtex lol , but I feel there is enough hassle around me with out requesting for more, especially when I don't know what it's about or who's who. So no I stay away and play with the dead, they cause me enough grief but at least they don't answer back!!!!!lol Jac

Good to 'see' you again, Bright Eyes lol. As you say, it's not the same anymore; pity, as there are still lots of lovely people on here. x

bright eyes ,go where you feel safe hun.theres loads a smashing peeps on here.as someone said the others are a minority. enjoy the good stuff ignore the bad.hugs xxxxxxxxxxxx

Never saw what went on last night. but if I don't like whats going on in a thread I stay clear. Like Donna says the good overcome the bad. The majority of people on here are wonderful and you soon get an idea who the trouble makers are.

Well BB my friend, i avoid nasty threads and sat on my hands last night, thankfully the good far out weighs the bad on here.....i just wish people would get theyre facts right! I didnt add to 'that' thread last night, those who need to know, do know the proper facts. Hope your ok love Donna xx

I'm on here most days, and I will be honest and say that I too read the rows that go on here. I, like everyone else is disgusted that there is one very sick person out there who evidently believes it is OK to post the rubbish they posted. They do it over and over again, under different names, just to delete their account when it is done and the boards are in uproar. It's so frustrating watching people first reacting to these sort of posts, then the finger pointing and accusations going on between one side and another, (and I've lost count of how many 'sides' there are on here lol), then the mini rows that branch from the original, usually little or nothing to do with the first, but clearly reflective of the way people are upset by them. I don't get all the arguments, but there are one or two threads by certain individuals which, as of earlier this week I refuse to look at, simply because, having put my views on previous threads, I have been told I am singling so-and-so out, beng deliberately argumentative, ganging up and so on, when the reality is, my view simply doesnt agree with theirs, and they don't realise I stand on my own, not in a gang. But thats another story, and one I'm thoroughly fed up with lol. As someone else said, in the main these boards are usually nice and friendly, with fun, informative, helpful, supportive or debate threads throughout. Sadly, these take a back seat on page 7 as soon as a controversial thread arises. More respect and sensisitivty is what is needed by a small minority on these boards, then it would all wash away.

hello bright eyes, this past few weeks i have,nt felt too well.yesterday for the first time in a while i had perked up.my husband settled me down at the pc,and i looked in horror.it was disgusting what someone had put up about members on this board.there have been a few had to suffer this nastiness of late. then a few more adding there bit of nastiness too. no,i am not a newbie,im an oldie. and for years ive watched some people do what they call flamebaiting.not nice i can assure you. i hope i never reduce myself to that just because im an old member. its lovely to meet new faces on here. please do not give up. these people are in there minority, good will always win through. best advice i can give you is what my grandmother used to say. NEVER JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER ,ALWAYS READ THE PAGES INSIDE. you may find you will have friends for life. x

Yea, I read the rows that go on and I am sometimes amused and sometimes exasperated by wot goes on. I am never downhearted about wot i see cos i dont take it seriously. The choice is mine whether to read the threads or not. I am always amazed how the smallest things get blown up out of all proportion and, more so, how everyone and their dog seem to involve themselves. The times i read that 'fred' or 'freda' has joined in to defend 'jane' whose friends then join in to have a go at 'fred' or 'freda' and so it goes on, and on, and on. In fact, I think I have discovered the answer to perpetual motion......... start a row on here and watch it develop a force all of its own. Having said all that, lets put it into proportion. The majority of the time and by far the majority of the threads, are fun, informative, caring etc. But, typical of human nature we only tend to complain about the relatively infrequent bad stuff rather than have the same long discussions about all the good stuff on here. I am up for renewal in a week and I will be renewing because MOST of the time its fun on here, I have made good friends, I have had huge amounts of help with my trees, I have been able to help others and the GOOD FAR OUTWEIGHS THE BAD Gerry :-))

Hi Bright Eyes I'm not new either, have just renewed for my second year. Have to agree with Hazel - I feel the same, and although I look in all the time, I can't remember the last time I posted. Sharon xx

Hi Bright Eyes, i'm not what you would call new new on the boards, iv;e been a member for nearly 1yr now but i dont post very much .i do add some times to other peoples threads some times they will acknowledge me and some times they dont . but most of the time i just read what i think will intrest me hazelx

I still think these boards can be fun and pleasant, have had some laughs in the last few weeks, on some evenings, just now and then someone decides to rake up the past or stir things so it all gets nasty. Often happens on a Friday evening, maybe people have had a bad week and want to take it out on someone, or are already missing the power they try to wield at work, so start on here for the weekend!

Bright Eyes, to be very honest, sometimes the more fiesty and controversial threads do make interesting reading but when they get totally out of hand I stop and go and watch the telly. I have to admit to always returning to see how the thread proceeded, good or bad...but surely that is human nature, and if I was the only person doing this, the threads wouldn't go on and on so long, and more and more be created (which I don't do) to carry the aggro on even further.... So shoot me for reading them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! pmsl!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi Susan I'm with you on this one - I felt like I'd been given ringside seats at a boxing match last night!!! I left and went to watch paint dry instead - far more entertaining! Mary

Bright Eyes Dont be mean!! Share this site you have found?....do they have 'normal'...'fun' conversations?....no bitching?...no deleting untill I have got the drift threads? SHARE WOMAN! Gerri x

You say be honest ;;;; well I will its the same old crap going on, on these boards for the last couple years, and as much as I have some good friends and family members on this site I am really bothered about renewing on the 22nd;;; Shall I shan't I, ;;;I come on look at boards more so gen and think NO its not worth it the same old trouble makers from 2 yrs ago;;; Its such a shame as I have made some good family contacts from this site but do you know I really don't need the bother;;; Babs

If you can suggest sites I'd be grateful!!!!! Carole

ty for the replies lol with you gerri purple, sadly i think those days are long gone there is now a trend set so deep that new people and some old are eiher to frightemed to post or put off by what they read. this used to be a really great board where we had a laugh, and a cry but sadly it is now ruled by a certain few who think they have the right to decide what is posted and by whom. but like i said things change and we all move on i just look in on the general board as a source of entertainmenat cos i am nosey, and am gauranteed that not a week will go by without some spat or other. and tonight has been no exception i have learnt a lot from GR in my early days of research but feel now that it is no longer a serious site for genealogists hence i go elsewhere, not only for my genealogy but also for lighthearted chat/humour and fun