General Chat

Thankyou everyone!! I suppose my tolerance level is quite low, I'll have to learn to ignore, in future. We had a large house with an aupair some time ago, but due to business ventures gone wrong we're starting again, in every way shape and form! Ah well, we live and learn! I want to just be grateful for what we've got, but its hard sometimes. Thanks all. PS: Shelli, we live in a courtyard too! With very thin walls. If we turn this one down, no we don't know how long we'd have to wait, as lists for other areas are longer, and we're not priority. Could be 12-27 months.

i think the word RESPECT comes into it, both ways, if you are new they will probably try it on, so just be cool and calm from the start and you will get respect from THEM.... first impressions and all that...ASB will only be a problem if YOU let it become one, for the kids sake i`m sure you can do anything!!!!!!!! but like was said earlier you don`t know the kind of people who refused this property... If you like it.....then go for it sharon

hi rebekah there is anti social behaviour every where now, i think you should take it for your kids sake. if we had anything outside our house we used to just go and talk to them and explain that it`s late, kids in bed etc and we had no problems, asb is different to everyone, if you do have any probs just talk to them and not down to them.. bloke over the road would get on his high horse and talk to kids like sh*t and he always got grief of them.. we wre always friendly with them and they were great.. i am using past tense as my kids are teenagers now and we don`t get any bother here now sharon

Well only you can decide whether to take it or not. BUT, if nine others have turned it down then they must be wary of the area . can you find out more about the area from the local police. If it does have a problem then you may not want to put your family in jeopardy. Sometimes newcomers get targeted thro no fault of their own,they simply may just ask local yobs to move on or be quiet and they get targeted for all sorts of abuse and their lives made a misery. i personally would be very wary. Shirley

can you go and visit it at a different time of daytothe first visit? Say later at night? might give a different impression. can you say for definate how much longer you'll have to wait if you decline this property???? We also had to make a quick descion when moving from our flat to this house. Like you at least two families had turned it down. But that basically due to the decor we think????? but also partly due to the neighbours. But given their past history and at times it's still ongoing, we've not had any problems with them. They leave us alone and we leave them alone, apart from saying hello when we pass. Must add we are now starting to think about moving/transferring as we live in a court yard, and everyone and I mean everyone knows your business, and who'es coming and going... oh to live on a normal street with a door that opens onto the street!!!!

If its suitable and you liked it, take it........its possible the other people were older and didnt want kids playing in the street.To be out of a city if you dont feel safe is a real plus. Let us know. Donna x

Cannot decide whether to take it, or wait poss upto 2 years for something else to come along. We want a garden for our children, and to be out of the city, nearer countryside. I've never felt very safe where we are. Yet the house we've been offered is near fields, with a garden. But 9 people have turned it down before us, as theres been anti-social behaviour there, groups of teenagers etc. When we viewed it, it wasnt too bad, if you can turn a blind eye to kids playing football in the street. We only have til Monday to decide!!