General Chat

Please be thruthful and non argumentative in your replies and think carefully. Thank you.

Several accusations have been thrown about lately - the main ones being someone having an affair with the husband of a past member and someone lying about having had illnesses and surgery. In both cases proof has been asked for. But stop and ask yourselves, how many times do members post a thread saying they feel unwell, have flu, are going for tests, have had results, have started some form of treatment, have so long to live, have lost a loved one etc. etc... Is proof asked for? I have been unwell for 8 weeks and other than a few people wishing me well and asking after my health, no one has asked me to prove anything. So why is it that certain names seem to provoke the need for proof? It also seems that if you reply to a person you are taking sides and therefore can't reply to someone in the other 'gang'. I use the word gang as that is how it feels now. I know I don't fit into 'either gang' as my threads are often ignored or have few replies which is very noticeable when someone from one side or the other posts something similar and gets gets dozens of replies. I am not a newbie who has only seen recent things. I have been around from the start of GR and have seen the same pattern time and time again. Unless any of us know for fact what is true and what isn't, why take sides and support one person over another? I posted a thread a few weeks back about a 14 year old with terminal cancer. Diagnosed since Christmas. When I posted an update, I had no response what so ever. That lad needs the support and postive thoughts. I posted a thread this week 'a nice thread' and had 11 replies. 4 of those were me responding to others who had posted. Yet on the same day dozens of replies appeared on argumentative threads and threads talking about the argumentative threads. So please, before jumping on the bandwagon, consider whether attacks on individuals are justified. Thank you. Jacky :-)

100% with ya there all this is getting to much hope your ok Rosex

Jacky, that is very well put. I have noticed this us and them culture, cliquey since I first started posting a couple of years ago, but it is so much worse now, and I am starting to feel a bit wary of some people now that I used to feel very comfortable with. To be told someone is shocked that you add a comment to a certain person's thread for example, is horrid, I am my own person and add to whatever takes my interest, or whatever I have an opinion about. I don't add for effect or to upset people. Liz p.s. have a bad shoulder at the mo and feeling quite sick with the pain, but have no Doctor's note,should I get one? lol

you have a valid point jacky,also in honesty i never saw the thread about the 14 year old,but pc has been kicking me off all the time so it could be that.and .........i hope your ok health wise,hugs joyxxx

NO ONE has the right to make assumptions

xxx bless ya J...well saidxxxxxx

aww PP a big hug to you too,[make sure you sent s/note in before next friday,lol.]xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

OK Joy, will do my best!! x

fank you PP,i do like everything filed and in order,lol.xxx

PP Providing you can 'proove' to your doctor that your shoulder is bad ;-) I would get a sick note although I can assure you that the sick pay it brings is hardly worth bothering with especially as the 1st 3 days don't count! Seriously though, sorry you feel like that. My daughter has had a bad shoulder this week due to vigorous dance practice and has been in a lot of pain. Ibruprofen and paracetomol helped. Jacky :-)

Joy, I left the thread for a couple of days and copied the positive thoughts for his Nan to take to him. A few days later I posted an update and had no replies so I deleted it after 24 hours. Lets just say that many many more positive thoughts will be needed to make any difference. Jacky :-)

hi guys apparently you can mix um,[so my doc said ]xx

PP u sure about that do you have proof if not then i dont beleve ya lol no jokes aside i think peeps are just believeing what they think is real and thats sad i believe anything anyone tells me ..... well wouldnt i what reason is there to lie??and if you have one then its still none of my ----our buisness Rosex

I am sorry, Jacky, I didn't see that thread. It may be possible it was there when I was offline for several weeks. In my positive thoughts and healing thread, I have included all in need of healing. I hope you will feel better soon.

Hi Jacky agree with everything you say I very rarely post now its a shame really. I'm sorry about your threads I never saw them either but it might have been over the period my OH was ill. Norah

Jacky, I am sorry if I missed the thread about the young lad, I do try to add most times, but sometimes this site goes so slow I have to give up, and sometimes I just miss things! Will report back with sicknote if poss. Liz x

well said Jacky, no one has the right to make assumptions about anyone, i rarely post on a thread, but when i do post its only on the threads that i have an opinion of, i dont know if i've ever chatted to you..if not well a big Helloooo from me, I also never saw your thread about the 14 year old boy either, hope you are feeling better soon tc Tracey xx

Agree absolutely with every word you have written. Glad some others feel as I do. Witch Hazel

Totally agree Jackie well said catherine xx