General Chat

Joyce It is very difficult to give advice when one has not been in your position, I can only think that maybe I would want to be in control of my body and my decisions and hope that others would understand. If that time comes though I might change my mind. When we lose someone close, we grieve which is natural but who are we grieving for? We would not want that person back with the illness that they died from, we would want them back well and that wouldn't happen so really we may force people to do things for our own selfish benefits. God bless you whatever decision you make but make sure it is your choice Janetx

Joyce your not being selfish you do as you feel, you know best, its a difficult choice must be the worse ever to make sending positive thoughts Take Care Lilxx

Hello Joyce I understand what you mean,it is your choice,quantity versus quality,and I certainly don't think you're selfish at all! My Sil made same decision as to her treatment, family understood,and because they loved her didn't question her anymore about it. Think you are a very brave person Joyce and I send positive healing thoughts. Best wishes and love Mau (((xxx)))

Hello Joyce - no your not selfish. You must do what you think is best for you - everyone is different, members of your family may well decide to do the same if this should (god forbid) ever happen to them. Was talking to a friend this morning about her dad - she says she respects his decision which l believe is the same as yours. Have you actually talked to your family. Hopefully they will come to terms with your decision. Take care. Loads of ((((((HUGS)))))) jude sarf wales xx

hi joyce you do whats right for you if you dont want it dont have will be thinking of you in this such stressful time,sometimes familys dont understand will talk to you tomorrow if your up to it thinking of you always love joyce from hollandxx

Joyce, it is your body and your life. Your family should understand that. No I don't think you are being selfish, but they obviously don't understand, and just love you so much they want to keep you with them longer. Take care Ann Glos

Hi Joyce :):) Only you know the real score of what has been discussed with yourself and the consultants and any decision you make should be respected by all. If you feel that Chemo is not beneficial to you and your life quality will be as you want it to be then live life to the full in the time you have. Sending you positive thoughts and prayers today Colin :):)

Well tomorrow i go to hospital for another check up1 same questions do i want chemo or not? well my answer will be whats the point give it to someone who it will hellp, i know my family dont under stand me when i say this ... but i need quality not quantity am i being selfish. love Joycexx went to appoint ment am ok they have put me on antidepessants........ mmmmm had a little row in waiting room with hubby still trying to persuade me!!