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Well tomorrow i go to hospital for another check up1 same questions do i want chemo or not? well my answer will be whats the point give it to someone who it will hellp, i know my family dont under stand me when i say this ... but i need quality not quantity am i being selfish. love Joycexx went to appoint ment am ok they have put me on antidepessants........ mmmmm had a little row in waiting room with hubby still trying to persuade me!!

Hi Joyce :):) Only you know the real score of what has been discussed with yourself and the consultants and any decision you make should be respected by all. If you feel that Chemo is not beneficial to you and your life quality will be as you want it to be then live life to the full in the time you have. Sending you positive thoughts and prayers today Colin :):)

Joyce, it is your body and your life. Your family should understand that. No I don't think you are being selfish, but they obviously don't understand, and just love you so much they want to keep you with them longer. Take care Ann Glos

hi joyce you do whats right for you if you dont want it dont have will be thinking of you in this such stressful time,sometimes familys dont understand will talk to you tomorrow if your up to it thinking of you always love joyce from hollandxx

Hello Joyce - no your not selfish. You must do what you think is best for you - everyone is different, members of your family may well decide to do the same if this should (god forbid) ever happen to them. Was talking to a friend this morning about her dad - she says she respects his decision which l believe is the same as yours. Have you actually talked to your family. Hopefully they will come to terms with your decision. Take care. Loads of ((((((HUGS)))))) jude sarf wales xx

Hello Joyce I understand what you mean,it is your choice,quantity versus quality,and I certainly don't think you're selfish at all! My Sil made same decision as to her treatment, family understood,and because they loved her didn't question her anymore about it. Think you are a very brave person Joyce and I send positive healing thoughts. Best wishes and love Mau (((xxx)))

Joyce your not being selfish you do as you feel, you know best, its a difficult choice must be the worse ever to make sending positive thoughts Take Care Lilxx

Joyce It is very difficult to give advice when one has not been in your position, I can only think that maybe I would want to be in control of my body and my decisions and hope that others would understand. If that time comes though I might change my mind. When we lose someone close, we grieve which is natural but who are we grieving for? We would not want that person back with the illness that they died from, we would want them back well and that wouldn't happen so really we may force people to do things for our own selfish benefits. God bless you whatever decision you make but make sure it is your choice Janetx

Hi Joyce Just wanted to give you big (((((((((((((((( Hugs )))))))))))))))))) Thinking about you Love Gaynor x

Joyce I understand what your saying, I myself have been through this, and I argued all the way about quality, my hubby thought I was very selfish as he thought I was giving up. Although time is no longer on my side at least I feel like a normal person then going through all the side affects that living with chemo give you. Stay strong and do what is in your head and heart, life is far to short!! Big hugs to you Janey xxxx

Hi Joyce - I don''t know if you''re interested in alternative therapies but I couldn''t help but think of this when I read your thread. Have you heard of ground apricot kernels?? They''re supposed to work against cancer & are supposed to work as a preventative measure & also when all else fails. I got my supply from a firm in England called Dayspring - tel 01483 418258. If you go ahead & order this make sure that you eat plenty of FRESH pineapple or papaya. You can google laetrile to learn more. Also Goji berries are very good for people with cancer. Love, Ails x

Joyce, my thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time. No you are not selfish, its your body, and at the end of the day its your decision. Bless you. ((((Hugs))))

Hi Joyce, Whatever you decide should be for you! Not what family members want, mum couldn't have chemo but did have radiation to help with the pain more than anything else, Whatever you decide I wish you all the strength in the world and the very very best of luck Lady of the Manor x

Hi, Joyce. First of all - no! You are not being selfish. No, perhaps the chemo won't help certain aspects of your predicament, but will it make you more comfortable? Do your lovely family know everything? At the risk of sounding patronising, you are truly a brave lady, facing this situation. Are you still able to eat food that you like, and drink your favourite drinks? Sending positive thoughts to you. x

Hi Joyce whatever you decide we are all with you .You are not being selfish only you can m ake this desision ?? and your family should respect you for that.Keep your chin up lots of love Chrisxxxx

You must do what is right for YOU. Understandably, your family want you around as long as possible, but it is your decision. Take care what ever you decide.xx

Joyce, how brave you are. I think it is right that you decide for yourself rather than for others, if you feel quality not quantity of life then that is the way you should go. Have you tried writing a letter to your family giving your reasons for your decision? It might be easier than trying to discuss or explain in person, when everyone will be emotional and maybe interrupting with their own thoughts etc. Of course, they want you around for a long time, they love you, but that is for them, not you as if your quality of life is not good, then you will be unhappy and uncomfortable. Let's all keep thinking positive thoughts for you and others in your situation, and respect your strength of mind and determination. Liz x

Joyce, you say your family dont understand you, I bet they do, all to well!We are all selfish when it comes to life or loss of it.And I know 1st hand, but they love you and dont want to loose you,neither do we at genes, all for our own selfish reasons,PLEASE keep a possitive state of mind, I really believe that it helps,We are all here 4 you, you know that. Love Jean(taff)xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Joyce I had breast cancer when I was 28, im now 50, I had chemo and radiation and in a way Im glad I did, the only down side was the side effects and the fact that I would never have any children. What frightened me was cos I was so flat chested they told me it was 50/50 that the cancer could go to my chest, so I had the treatment. Had my breasts reconstructed in 2001 with silcone and never looked back. Its really down to you and how you feel about it, whatever you decide, stay strong, think positive and keep going girl! I'll be 100% behind you. A Big Big Hug to you. Love Yvonne xxxx

thanks to all of you wonderfull people love joycexx