General Chat

Oh dear that sounds like my second husband. He would sulk, sometimes for up to 2 weeks, and it always ended up my fault. Maureen

Sorry to say this but it sounds like you have him spoiled. I know it is not easy but try him at his own game. - Let him make his own tea and coffee - make his dinner - plonk it on the table and let him get on with it. No washing/ironing.

thanks chris good idea. in fact brill adea sod the _______ sry no love him really but lets see how it works!!!!

Best of luck - but remember always stand up for yourself - do not let anyone even a loved one make you unhappy - no one has that right.

thx chris cant get any unhappier, i moved 350 miles away from my family and friends for wot this i dont think so!!!!

People who sulk and won't speak for days on end are usually playing mind games and enjoy being in control - He is in control because you are asking him what you have done wrong. This is also a form of bullying. Others of course may not agree with me. If you need to pms me.

thx chris really great full will see how it goes over the next few days!!!!!

Take care and god bless - hope it works out. Going on from thread - is he a GR widower? If so that ball is in your court.

no he is not a gr widow he is ok with me doing this i dont get on here that often as my oldest son is revising for exams so i only get on when he is in bed or out with friends !'!!!!

thx marion. will try again, i.m off to bed. and thank you to all who have replied, i am very much greatful,i.m not about to through 7 years of married and 3 children down the drain so i will get to the botom off this, THX AGAIN TO ALL.

Hope you get this sorted out Sam, this kind of treatment is the worst, as you can't put something right if you don't know what you have done wrong, if in fact you have, sounds as tho he has the life of Riley and this is him, not your fault at all. Can you get anyone to have the children for a couple of hours so you can talk to him privately without interruption, or should I say talk at him till he says what is bugging him. Take care, I am usually around in the early hours if you need anyone to talk to. Liz

Sam - are you OK?

Hi Sam :) Hoping you are OK today also. From a male perspective then,. No one male or female deserves to be a victim of mental or physical abuse. Is this normal behaviour from your other half, or something that has only recently happened, if it has been happening for sometime, some years perhaps then I can only say that you need to start thinking of how you yourself are starting to feel. No one deserves to feel rejected, unhappy or that they are not free to speak to another for fear of back lash. If it is something that has only just started to happen then perhaps an underlying cause is the problem and needs to be questioned. Has hubby recently had trouble in employment, perhaps hes looking for employment or has employment already and has been rejected, has he recently been unwell all things to consider. Has something happened to one of the children recently that may have divided you somehow. Are you giving each other the same or similar time that you did before computers or this hobby, Ive seen many who have falling party to a row over getting carried away on the computers, generally we dont realize its happening but once we were doing things almost instantly then we suddenly start saying ' Wait a minute ' its to easy to say sometimes. I know because ive been as bad myself. Who normally gives in first, is it an equal thing where you generally have a tiff then a day later all starts to revert back to normal. Do you give in or the other half generally. Its an equal thing. I wouldnt even generally get involved in a partnership dispute but one of you needs to make a first move so that the other knows how each is feeling. You sound reasonable to me , a stubborn person may sometimes come round with a simple cup of tea and a quick ' You know I love you dont you ' or You mean the world to me ' sometimes we forget the most important things to say when we are moody or upset over something, words that can mean so much. I wish you all the very best in sorting things out. Colin :):)

Good advice Colin hope it helps her. Was a victim of mental and physical abuse many years ago and the feelings never ever go away.

good advice Colin are you ok Sam xx

mine once sulked because the bread was to thick just let him get on with it then he moaned the dog never listens to him and i said why should she nobody else listens to you so he sulked again

It so easy to think that 'you' are the one who may be at fault and the reason behind the silent sulky treatmeant. Could it not be that HE is the one that has done or is doing something 'wrong' and his behaviour is due to his guilty conscience.

Thinking of you Sam, I know how thoroughly miserable it can be to be in that situation, Hugs Caz xxxxx

hope your ok today babes and got it sorted with the other half xxx