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Hi Mary, they are such a worry i have to say! feel really tired today with it all...just hoping i dont go through all this with her sister...dont want her sister thinking that its ok to do what she is doing now...Thanks x

Hi Liz She doesnt spend enough time at home at the moment,as soon as shes in shes showered changed and back out, friends seem to be important at the minute to her. She is away to work so wont see her today and when she gets back in she will do the same as she always does..after her dad saying last night that she was coming home in a taxi at 11.30 i lay listening for her, 12.40 i heard a car pull up, i got out of bed and guess what.....she didnt get out a taxi she got out of one of the lads cars!!!!! Most annoyed i am, been trying to get hold of her dad but cant get him yet!!! She works for her dad, he owns a baguette bar so if and when i get him he will see her at some point today and will have words with her!! Cant believe she is now lying!!! It isnt like her at all...feeling cheesed off today and very let down...Kaz

Kaz, so hard when they are young but not young enough to keep beside you, and you live in fear of what they get up to. Maybe it is time to get other people together and talk with the Police about how they are going to stop these newcomers disrupting village life with their noise cars and dangerous driving, if there is enough aggro hopefull the newcomers will leave your village alone and go elsewhere and your daughter will realise how unpleasant they were. It is all down to excitement and bravado with her, but I think you are right to try and set some ground rules, also getting her to take responsibility for herself and her room etc especially as you are not well, is a good way to go. Maybe she is a little jealous of the attention the little one gets, so how about suggesting something special for you and her when the little one is away. Not sure if you have others who need attention too, or if you can fit this in, but hope she realises you only have her good at heart. I am a worryguts too, my nearly 25 yr old went to London for the weekend with 7 mates and I called him two or three times to make sure he was ok. Our kids drive us nuts but they are so precious to us. Good luck, Liz

Night Kaz :-))

heading to bed now ladies before she walks in, dont want a confrontation tonight, have to be up early in the morning for my youngest going away for the day with her grandparents...thank you all for your time...appreciate it...nite all...xx

Hello ladies, her dad has just phoned me and hes been in touch with her so i now know where she is, he said she had a taxi booked for 11.30 to come home. she will get a fright when she gets in as she has a bed to make before she can get into it as i stripped it today, i was going to remake it but thought why should i shes old enough now, feel guilty for not doing it but she has to learn. Done her ironing for her when i done mine and her 11 year old sisters. Its upsetting her being like this as i have not long had a back operation and im still recovering from it and have now got added problems because of it...aw well what it is to be a mother ah! xx

Ah yes, I can certainly sympathise with that. I am congenital worrier too. They don't stay 16 forever though. My younger daughter is now 20, and she's upstairs in bed as I type (11pm), and feeding her baby (but that's another story!)

Hi Kaz, 3 teens and 2 smalls from 2nd marriage, dad of teens no interest, All the luck in the world to you, its sooo hard, Caz xxxx

Hi Joy, i have thought along them lines, my concern is the poilce! They havnt been in the village tonight so god knows where she is with them and what they are getting upto...with the police already watching them my worry is with her being with them she will get caught up in it but hse doesnt seem to realise this..

Kaz, My daughter is my 4th child.I also have 3 big uns.2 more daughters and a son.Girls seem to do this.They do grow out of it and come back to the real world.Dont do nagging myself .Dont shout that i am in charge.Do make friends with her and her new friends.You might not want to,but you can then access what she is mixing with.Annie

Hi Fiona, think im finding it hard, never had any probs b4, i have a 20yr old too and didnt have any bother with him...kids!!! who'd have em!!! im a born worrier at the best of times!

if you kick off she will lean their way if you say nothing at the moment she may very well get bored with them sooner its between the devil and the deep blue sea

Hi Carol, you have your hands full then with 3 teens...iv just phoned her dad, waiting on him phoning me back as in shower! No credit in my mob so cant get hold of her but he will...

Teenagers, don't you just love 'em. Unfortunately, there is very little advice that anyone can give. You seem to be doing all the right things: trying to talk to her, speaking to her dad about it etc. It's a cliche I know, but it probably really is just a phase. Let her know that you're there for her, and just try to sit it out.

Aww you too Annie, isnt it just one BIG worry? She has never gave me concern till now!!

Cant give advice Kaz, just sympathy, my teens 18, 16, 14 , 1 no prob 2 are, Hugs to you love, Caz xxxx

Oh dear my daughter was 17 in April and i have the same. Annie

Hi All. I have a 16/17 year old daughter,we have always got on really well and never fell out and i have never had to worry about what she is doing or were she is as i have always been able to trust her 100%. Lately she has made new friends and at first everything was ok but now i dont know what to do or say to her anymore. We live in a very small village and the lads she is now hanging around with have started coming to the village in their cars and causing havoke, driving really fast up and down the street, some drinking(girls as well) and making alot of noise, alot of the villagers are now complaing and have called the police a few times. I have tried and tried to speak with my daughter and tell her my concerns but she just doesnt seem to hear what im saying. It all happened again last weekend and i flipped(through worry and concern) and she hasnt spoke to me since, i have told her dad everything(we are seperated) and he too is worried about it all. She had a day off work today and her dad told me that she was going to sit and talk with me to try sort things out,she hasnt, she left the house at 11.30 this morning and i havnt seen or heard from her since...i dont know what to do for the best, when i flipped last weekend i told her as long as she was living in my house she would do as i say, her reply was, il move out its my life im not 5 anymore. Im at my wits end with worry now, any advice appreciated greatly...Kaz