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Sorry to read that you are going to lose someone you care for Sylvia. As we age it happens all too frequently but we don't 'see' ourselves as getting old until these losses occur.

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Thank you all xx

So sorry to read your news, Sylvia.

Meet the new year, same as the old year, eh? Every year we hope it will be better ... but every year we get older. :-)

Ours ended with a bang. The tall dude was ambulanced to hospital on Christmas Day in another near-fatal bout of diabetic complication brought on, in a matter of hours, by another virus. Two days in intensive care and one on the ward and he was back out, still snuffling and coughing, but alive.

And on Saturday, his dad died. We seldom saw him; he was 95, in decent health and good spirits but living in a nursing home after his wife died 5 years ago (he was disabled from birth), quite a distance away, where the brother and nasty SIL live, and the travel is just difficult for us.

I kept meaning to have the tall dude's male-line DNA tested to see whether we might get a clue about his dad's father's family, since his dad never knew who his father was. Oh well, I can still do it, Dick just won't be here to tell.

I did find a distant cousin for him a year or so ago, at Ancestry. I think her great-great-grandfather was Dick's maternal grandfather's brother. She kindly sent some family photos and reminisences I was able to show him.

And when I heard his stories and did the research, it turned out that his mother was born about 5 miles from where my mother's mother's mother's family lived in Nottinghamshire. Hm, maybe the tall dude and I are cousins ...

Melanoma, also internal, did my dad in. Yes, I imagine I would make the same plans as your friend.

The things you never imagined yourself having to think about when you were a sprout.

I'm so sorry to hear this sad news, Sylvia. My thoughts are with you.

Thank you all ...... as Nyx says, there isn't a lot one can say.

I'm still trying to work out what to say to him :-(


Thank heavens that assisted suicide is now legal here, and that he can go as he wishes.

Sorry to read this Sylvia, I hope your friend can go in the manner he wishes to. Not a lot one can say. :-(

Sorry to hear this, Sylvia. xx

<3 Sylvia <3

Ann ..............

thank you

that group of friends got together in 1968, so 50 years of friendship :-(

So sorry Sylvia, it is hard losing special long term friends <3 <3

thank you.

It was hard news to get.

Sylvia <3 <3

So sorry to hear this Sylvia. <3 <3 <3

C**p start to the new year :-(

Our close friend who was in the hospital down here last summer when they found he had melanoma of the brain before going back home to the far north and having radiation etc up there, has been told that 2 more melanomas have been found, and his life is now measured in months. He is exploring assisted suicide (legal in Canada) so he can control the rest of his life.

I don't blame him, I would do the same thing, and arrange it while I was compos mentis.

But he will be the 5th of the "group" to go in the last 5 years.

He is just 6 weeks younger than me, and he told me the above in my birthday message. The eldest of the group died in late November last year, age 91.