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Margot, I am sorry for the loss of your Mother and for consequently the loss of your sister which must be the greater hurt at the moment. We expect, although don't want, our parents to leave us at some point but you could never have anticipated what your sister would do. And I can't believe her husband is unaware of what she has done, if she has been able to buy fairly expensive substitutes of the jewellery then she probably sold the original so surely her husband would wonder where here money has come from.
Funerals and wills do always bring out the worst in people. I was hurt on a very much smaller scale by my sister after the death of my father. He only left £10000 in the end after his money was eaten by care home fees. My sister, my daughter and I were joint executors but my sister lived near to him so she dealt with everything. In his will we were left equal shares in everything. She told me that verbally (because he said she had done his washing, shopping etc when he lived alone after Mum died= We lived 2 hours away and took our mower down once an month and did his very large garden.) that he wanted her to have an extra £2000 so she took that out before dividing up the rest. We are and were better off than her and I always intended giving her extra. But the way she did that, inferring that Dad thought she did more for him than us really hurt. Daughter was all for going to law over it but I said no. Things were very cold between us for a while and daughter still has little to do with her. But life is too short so we are reasonably friendly now. Don't see her because she moved to another country to live. Again it was the action not the money. And one other thing. After my Mum died 7 years before Dad, she had left me her wedding ring and a gold bracelet. My sister had her engagement ring. We found the rings ok but nowhere could we find that bracelet that Mum had been wearing at least until 4 months before her death because I saw it on her. A mystery that was never solved but left some suspicion.
I wonder if your sister now feels regret and knows that it is something she has to live with for the rest of her life.
It is no consolation but you may feel some comfort just knowing that your Mum wanted you to have those things, don't let your sister's action sully the memory of your Mum.
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I can only see two precious things you got from your mum in this story and that is your two sisters.
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Hugs to you Margot,
There is a saying, "you can pick your friends but not your relations".... sadly this appears to be true in some instances....
Maybe one day your sister will realise how badly she has acted.
My late MIL had a saying " you never see a Hearse heading to a cemetery towing a trailer" ;-)..........
Be comforted by happy memories, your sister has to live with herself.
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My sincere condolences. Margot. Sadly occasions like this bring out the worst in some people. I hope one day your sister will realise that it wasn't worth the deception as she has lost two very important people in her life.
Take comfort in each other, Margot <3
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Margot, first of all my deepest sympathy on the loss of your Mum. I am so sad to read your story, and can understand your hurt, how awful that your sister plotted this cheating scheme and did such awful things which have broken up the family. Have you no legal redress against her? Personally I would be so angry I would do everything I could to bring her to justice, it's no more or less than theft and her family should be told what she has done, if they don't already know or weren't in on it. As you say, it's not the monetary value, it's the fact that the personal items have gone and you have been left with things that have no sentimental value. I am sure your Mum would be heartbroken and upset that this happened and your sister has been so underhand and nasty.
I am glad you have your other sister and are even closer but it shouldn't have been this way, all three 'girls' should have been supportive of each other and one should not have been greedy and wicked.
Lady Scozz, sad for you too. My brothers and I never got much from either of my parents when they died, they never had much anyway. Both my brothers are very well off but took the share of the £3000 Mum left so we got £1000 each. Pocket money to them but it meant a lot to me and my son. I got Mum's rings but they weren't worth much, more sentimental value than anything else.
Sad but true but at the saddest of times, families can find greed and jealousy can show up more than at any other time.
Lizx
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I'm really sorry to hear that,Lady Scozz.Obviously your stories are more painful than mine!!
Margot.
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I have horror stories. To horrible to tell here.
Put it this way....... I grew up with 4 brothers. As far as I'm concerned, I now have only one.
Low life, greedy, and liars.
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My Mum died recently and the day before her funeral my youngest sister and I found out that our middle sister had taken jewellery items
which had been left to us,and possibly other items as well,from here to an overseas country where she now lives.We both feel very hurt to know that our sister has done this.We have had a very close bond together all our lives,and now this sister has broken that bond.What makes it worse is that she has plotted this over a long period of time-2 years-and when she came back for Mum's funeral,presented us with
substituted items-a white gold cluster diamond engagement ring which Mum always said she would leave to my youngest sister,which currently should have been worth between $25,000-$30,000. The substituted ring is currently valued at approx.$6000;the diamond earrings which were supposed to be left to me,possibly worth about $5-6000 are currently valued at $1400.My sister was annoyed that she was "only being left Mum's shitty old pearls,"which were in fact nicely matched,graduated Japanese Mikimoto pearls worth about $6-8000,
but in her eyes less in value than the other items.The fact that she has substituted Mum's jewellery for a stranger's items,then tried to pass them off as Mum's,whilst keeping the dearer items and using the proceeds for herself,meanwhile trying to fool us,is so hurtful.
It might seem from what I've said that I only care about the monetary value of the jewellery, but I don't.My other sister and I can't believe that she would betray us like that,through her greed,then lie about it.We would have been happy to sell all 3 items,and split the proceeds equally 3 ways between us,but we never even got the opportunity to do that.I have said even on here,several times,- that I was so lucky to have the best sisters in the world,as we were so close. I thought that nothing would ever break that bond,how wrong I was!
Now not only have I lost my Mum,I have also lost a sister.We both wrote a stinging email to my sister after the funeral,expressing our disgust at what she had done,so now she is communicating through her solicitor to us,and says that she will never speak to us again,as a result of our "vile,upsetting emails " which contained "baseless accusations.".I don't know what lies she has told her husband and daughter about us,but they,and she,have blocked us on Facebook.I think that she is worried that they,and her friends and her husband's family, will find out what she has done. The only good thing about it is that my youngest sister and I are much closer together now.
It is horrible to know that a person that you grew up with,and loved and trusted all your life,can do this to you and your sister.It's been just over one month now,and I no longer cry every time I think about it,but that sense of disbelief-"How could she do that to us?" is still there.We didn't confront her about it at the funeral,because we didn't want any unpleasantness marring Mum's funeral.We left it for 1 week,after having the substituted jewellery valued,before we sent the emails.
Thank you for reading this.Has any one else got any horror stories about greedy siblings and wills?
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