General Chat

"Gut instinct", that first instant reaction to a person or a place, that says you like or dislike' someone, but which you often over-ride with reason.... after all you ' don't know them yet' or say to yourself 'maybe I'll like the place/ job/ person eventually'.

Is your first instinct the right one? and do you trust to it or are you like me and give the benefit of the doubt usually to your cost?

Yes

Only had those type of reactions a couple ot times and both were right

I trust my gut reaction and don't allow reason into the equation at all Rose ;-)

There have been people I have disliked intensely upon meeting them but I have over-ridden that dislike and realized later that the reason I have disliked them is that they have reminded me of somebody who has done something I have disliked in the past.

There have been many others about whom I have been very right, including OH's mother!

GlitterBaby, I've had it a number of times and have been right long term, even when I've made the effort to dismiss it initially.

Sue , very wise ! ;-)

I go on my gut feeling the first time I meet
them, get a feeling if something not right
and given time usually is the case.

Emma
:-)

I do think a gut reaction, is something you just have, some rely on it enormously, some have only got a smidgen of one, bit like some have got a head for figures, others haven't, it's probably something you're born with, or maybe you acquire in life.

My gut reaction has never let me down so far, so I'd say that I have a strong gut reaction it's served me well throughout life, saved me faffing about with people who I know are wrong 'uns, where others spend time trying to like them, making excuses for them, then are let down badly, couldn't be doing with that.

I love meeting new people, enjoy chatting to total strangers, but I can tell within minutes if they are "my kind of people" I'm not looking for new friends, I have a nice mixture of them already, so I don't just let people into my life, who I think don't deserve my time.

Out of 10 my gut reaction rate is 11 :-D

I try to like everybody. And usually I find enough good things about them to like them.

But I never like somebody 100%. I always hold back a bit, because you can get let down by the most lovely people. And people can change in their love and in their personality.

My world of total trust in certain people was shattered when I caught a nun for shoplifting in my early retail days.

But I have always tried to see some good in each person, and I think that is right. Even the most horrible people are probably not totally evil.

And, for the record, most people on GR are quite nice on my like scale :-)

I'm a bit gullible I must confess and never ever seem to sum people up at first - my two friends on the other hand always seem to have the gut feling which turns out to be so right

Geeeez where do I start LOL.....well im definitely far too trusting !!! also a little gullible if im honest too.......Recently I have to say I paid the price big time, but now I look back maybe there was a part of me that knew there was something not right......I wish I had listened to my gut feeling in the first place but I have learned from it and will not fall for it again..........

He who shall name nameless has to live with what was done, and infact I hope whoever he is with now never has to go through what I did, and would say please please do not fall for charm, the lies and games are real.......and can be very hurtful not only to oneself but to others around you especially family!!!!

Be careful and please take care when trying to make the right decision if there is any doubt what so ever.........
:-) :-) I have learnt by my Big mistake !! :-| :-P

With me, after a mistake many years ago, I trust No One at first, They have to earn and prove they are worth it. :-(

Sorry for not responding, had to go shopping and cook etc...

well Mersey, he certailny fooled me - I fell for it hook line and sinker - I'm a salesman's deam me :-D

We all make mistakes and I for one will be listening not only to my gut instinct but to others as well :-D <3

*Proposal* yeahhhh right

I was thinking as i walked to the shops, similar to what John has posted

"But I have always tried to see some good in each person, and I think that is right. Even the most horrible people are probably not totally evil."

I can from a distance see that people who turned out not to be who I thought they were, were not entirely 'nasty and untruthful' , or not at least with deliberate intent to hurt even, more that their motivation was different to mine and the two didn't match! They were not 'bad'.... just selfish I suppose, they took what they needed...but then wasn't that also what I ws trying to do? Just the needs were different.

if my response was motivated by 'affection' theirs was motivated by 'practicality' Their life experiences maybe led to them reacting differently to the way I wanted them to, or to how I reacted to circumstances, so are they to be any more to blame for my hurt than I am myself for settling for less than I needed, or expecting more than they were capable of?

Hindsight is a wonderful thing, because not only do you then see the person clearly, but you can see the weaknesses ( or strengths whichever way you look at it) that you overlooked, both theirs and your own :-(

Only twice in my life, can I ever remember meeting someone that I took an instant dislike to.
One of them, turned out to be the nastiest of all nasty folk , who has caused no end of trouble and hurt. I chose stay as far away as possible

I honestly thnk this individual is made up of two halves.
One half is mad and the other half is bad.

In the words of Plain White T's....
"Hate Is A Strong Word, But I Really, Really, Really Don't Like You"

Karma will come
:-D :-D :-D

My gut instinct rarely lets me down.

And on occassions I have been persuaded to 'give them a chance' I have been bitterly disappointed and proved right.

I think it is mainly a female thing. Some men have it too, but not to the same extent as us girls...

well i am not afraid to say
somebody i wasnt to keen on (yes on GR )
and after meeting them
i think i was so wrong about them
and its not often i change my mind about somebody


but so glad i did :-D :-D

tsk! Joy.......you can't come on here and get away with saying half a story......come on now....give!......who was it?......why? Where? And when? :-D

Well, it wasn't me. But it could easily have been :-)