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(((hugs)))) because I have no words to give you

More hugs Carol for such an incredibly hurtful day. xx xx

Some beautiful memories to hold very dear <3

<3 ((((hugs)))) <3

Emma

Thank you all who have replied.

Memories, photo's and a small battered toy tractor that sits on his Granddad's bedside table are all we have. Proofs that we were blessed to have this little lads company for just over 3 years.

He lived life at a great pace, walked early- then ran everywhere, slept little - not seeming to need to, watched, investigated and questioned everything. His short life was fully packed with experiences.

We loved him.

He left us quickly, no months of pain for him (just shock, pain and bewilderment for us)

I like to think that he was just lent to us for a while and hope we taught him all he needed to know.
.................
"I'll lend to you for a little time,
A child of mine," God said,
"For you to love while he lives
And mourn for when he's dead."
"It may be six or seven years
Or only two or three,
But will you till I call him back,
Take care of him for me?"
"He'll bring his charms to gladden you
And should his stay be brief,
You'll have these precious memories
To comfort you through grief."
"I cannot promise he will stay
since all from earth return.
But there are lessons taught down there
I want this child to learn."
"I've looked this world over,
In my search for teachers true.
In the crowds of this great land,
I have selected you."
"Now will you give him all your love
Not think the labour vain,
Nor hate me when I come to call
To take him back again?"
........

We learnt a lesson too - make the most of each day with your family and friends, you do not know how precious those days may be in the future.

Please do not weep over my words, I have cried enough for all. <3 <3

I have absolutely no words only a massive (((HUG))).

Sue

So many special memories amidst the great sadness.

Thinking of you .

Gwyn

Josh will live in your heart always <3 <3

You had Josh for only a short time but you have a heart full of love and memories. <3

<3 <3 <3 <3

Always in your thoughts forever in your heart

I am a Nana and feel your pain.

Light a candle for your precious Grandson, to shatter all the darkness.
May the flame burn brightly to guide you through today. I hope you can bless happier times you shared with such a special little boy. Gone far too soon, but never to be forgotten. Hold on to your special memories, they will never fade and are priceless.

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers on such a sad day Carol. God Bless Josh and although his life was so very very short it sounds as though it was a very Happy one. <3 <3 <3 <3

no words Carol but a ((((hug ))))) xxx

oh Carol - how heartbreaking for you <3 <3 <3

Eighteen years ago today, having hardly slept, I washed dressed & fed my fifteen month old Granddaughter; as I did this I attempted to put a smile on my face. It was not her fault that it was a day I would always remember with a lump in my throat & tears just a blink away. She did not know that later that morning her big brothers life support was going to be switched off, the same brother who had giggled as he chased her round my back garden the afternoon before.
Today I woke to a silent house, those eighteen years have flown by and that small girl is now a beautiful young adult of nineteen. Her younger brother never knew his big brother.
Though our Josh was only with us for 38 short months, he left us with so many happy memories. It is to these memories I must go this morning. I could be wishing that we had not lost him, feel anger that he died, dwell on ‘what kind of adult would he have been?’, ‘what would he have looked like?’, ‘why him?’, but know that will help no-one, tears will not bring him back. (I have wept gallons of them)
Today I will go to the churchyard with flowers; spend a short time with my good memories of that lovely first Grandchild, with his blonde hair and big blue eyes. Not the small white coffin on the back of his Granddads tractor, but the lad grinning as he sat in its driving seat, wildly twisting the steering wheel and wrenching at the gear stick, the confident 3 year old lad who prodded a large Charolais bull’s rump at a County Show saying “You got big bum”, the look of pure joy as a large airplane came in to land right over his head and the sound of his feet as he ran into the house shouting “It me Gammie, iys eer”.


<3 Josh<3