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Sharron you are an inspiration as I have told you before, and I will continue to say it ...

Hoping today is a better day for you , you are a lovely person with the biggest heart and you love for Fred shines through....a truly amazing lady :-) <3

Hi Sharron hope your having a better day :-D <3 <3

Sharron, whinge all you like, it was a nasty worrying day for you, and who knowa, maybe Fred does actually understand but doesn't want to let you know he does.

I hope today is a better day, and don't go feeling guilty because of a little 'hissy', you are sooo entitled.

As you say, I wonder how elderly carers cope. And do S Services etc understand?

It is not having much of a choice that keeps me going.

I only put this on to have a bit of a winge but it must be absolutely devastatingly bewildering for some of the elderly spouses who are doing the same thing.

Love for Fred is what keeps you going Sharron. Simple. <3

How would they manage? They wouldn't, that's for sure.

I agree with Ann - you're an amazing lady and doing a brilliant job - in between spitting well deserved tacks. :-D

Cx

I didn't expect to. Nobody knows.

I am a bit tough and gobby and mildly intelligent with a little (not much) youth on my side but how must it be for somebody in their eighties landed with the same situation?

Sharron - you are one amazing lady - really you are - if only the powers that be would realise how much carers do they would change things for the better, but none of them will ever find themselves in your position will they

Ann XX <3 <3

No Liz.No saint would have explained the situation to Fred in that way I am sure.

I just don't think people realize how much admin there is landed upon an average sort of person when they are landed with caring.

There is so much to learn and nobody tells you what to expect.

The best laid plans Sharron, so sorry you had so much to deal with..... glad you finally got the power back on and Fred sorted.

You really are a saint, just mind the halo doesn't strangle you lol



Lizx

so sorry to hear about your day, Sharron xxxxx


our phone company is recommending that everyone should have an ordinary land line connection as well as a mobile phone on a base.


Mind you, most people have cell phones ........................... although many of our friends are like us, and remain dinosaurs!


It's lovely being able to get away from constant phone calls :-)

I keep meaning to get one. Something else to bloody well organize!

Hope tomorrow is better for you Sharron.
One thing I have got in my 'emergency cupboard' is a cheap corded phone that plugs straight in to the wall connection.
There are a couple in Argos, one is under a fiver the other a couple of pounds more, but it does mean when we have a power cut I can still contact people
It might help another time, particularly as you have poor mobile signals :-)

I JUST DONT KNOW HOW YOU DO IT

HONNEST

Oh Sharron - you have had a really lousy day. All I can do is sympathise with you and hope tomorrow is better.

<3

Nowhere near as bad as yours Sharron, hope tomorrow is better.

I have mentioned this on my thread about going to Wales but this is what carers do, and I shouted at Fred.

After Fred had been up for a time and before we had had a cup of tea or breakfast, there was a little thunder storm which took out the power supply.

We are all electric here, with no gas main within half a mile. There is an electric hoist in the ceiling to get Fred in and out of bed and to put him on the commode. He has a profiling electric hospital bed because he is unable to move himself in bed and he has an air mattress which must be inflated for him to sleep upon.

The carers arrived to put him on the commode after the power went off so the only thing they could do was drain his leg bag. Knowing that he usually does more at his midday call. I suggested that I could arrange for him to visit the nursing home he had spent a night in last time we had no power as they had no power cut but do have a hoist and a commode. This home is on the bus route he uses to go to the café and the arrangement would not be easy as our land-line depends upon electricity and the mobile signal is not very good here. I was planning to organize this for his comfort rather than my own pleasure.

Fred stated that he couldn't do it and would have to stay at home, rolling away rather than continue the conversation. Quite soon afterwards, without telling me where they were going,, he and his mate went out.

As we have the care equipment we are a priority in the event of a power cut and I need to ring the power company at 40p a minute. So does everybody else it would appear. After an interminable wait I gave up trying to contact them.

Having had a bowl of cornflakes, I had to go to the carers office to use the telephone to contact social services because there was a good chance Fred would need another night in the care home. So there was another round of explaining why their suggestions wouldn't work.

With a promise that they would e-mail me on OH's I-pad we went to the café for breakfast.

By the time we went back home the power was back on after over five hours and Fred came rolling up the path to meet me, telling me he needed the commode urgently!

Spitting tacks! I shouted at him that power cuts are the hardest thing I have to do and it would be a good idea if he was a bit co-operatve because if he wasn't he could organize things himself and sit all night in his wheelchair in his own s***!

Then, of course, I went indoors and rang the carers office to see if we could possibly have an early extra call so that he didn't have to and had my first decent cup of tea of the day.

Well, that was my day. How was yours?