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Angela

Angela Report 2 Jul 2013 22:52

i am 99% certain that I have found my birth mother and her current address and a phone number. her husband has died who was not by biological father. my head is now all over with what to do next. anyone any helpful thoughts

Rambling

Rambling Report 2 Jul 2013 23:02

My first thought is...Don't be tempted to phone! It really is better to write a letter that can be read and re-read by your mother , before further contact is made. It can be a huge shock and when you're on the phone you are 'trapped' into instant decision making so to speak.

Write a calm letter, just saying who you are and that you have been looking for someone of her name etc, and would be grateful if she could let you know if you have found the right person. Enclose an SAE in case it is not the right person so it doesn't cost then anything to respond.

Good luck :-)

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ChrisofWessex

ChrisofWessex Report 2 Jul 2013 23:09

Makes sense what Rose says. Is there anyone who could act as a mediator?

Kay????

Kay???? Report 2 Jul 2013 23:20


If you obtained your details though Social Services & a SW they will make contact on your behalf which could be a more secure and responsive way.

SueCar

SueCar Report 2 Jul 2013 23:41

Yes. Might also be better to hang fire with revealling your full address for the time being.

It is possible to give a return address as c/o (care of) a Post Office using the 'Poste Restante' service which you set up first (see http://www.postoffice.co.uk/poste-restante)

although I don't have any personal experience of it.

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Pic: Montbretia. Researching Naylor, Halhead, Salt, Wright, King, Hayter, Garvey