General Chat

This is a quote from another thread:-

"I'm not into the the respect business either. How is that possible on a faceless board"

It is entirely possible to respect someone on a faceless chat board. There are a number of people on these boards I have come to respect:
Some have great technical knowledge, some have legal knowledge, some are trying to overcome great difficulties. Some produce wonderful stories and jokes, some are amazingly clever at breaking down genealogical brick walls.

I don't know their names, where they live, what their occupation is/was - nor do I need to know that to give them my respect. It is their knowledge and their willingness to share that knowledge. They do not needlessly drip facts about their lives into their threads as the author of the quote does to their own detriment.

I noticed that quote and thought - what!!!! :-S

nameslessone I agree with you wholeheartedly

Says all I need to know about the person who wrote it

Roy

I respect other members too. I don't need to see what anyone looks like as a face is only part of the packaging. The words one uses says far more about a person however, the written word can be misconstrued without body language or inflection of voice so care needs to be taken when posting.

That comment indicates that the originator views the internet as "talking" to a computer without considering that there are other living, breathing, people on the other side communicating their thoughts and opinions back.

I respect lots of other members. They have never said or done anything that would make me disrespect them.

There are a few, however, for whom I have no respect, merely from what I've seen here on the boards. And their opinions matter not one iota to me.

OP
I AGREE
JUST BECAUSE WE NEVER MET I CAN
VALUE SOMONE AS A FRIEND AND RESPECT THEM

I think deep down I respect everyone on Genes chat - yes, even you and you know who you are :-)

Everyone is contributing something. Sometimes it is computer skills, sometimes legal. Some are great at jokes. Some are good at banter. And our life experiences must be very varied and quite interesting at times.

I think it is a great shame that people with eccentric (not part of majority) views are hounded round the boards - often with something they wrote back in 1845. It would be so much better if we cleared the decks every evening and resolved to get on better with those behind our screens the following day :-)

I promise I hold no grudges. Someone who I have never heard of before is having a bit of a go at me today. And others seem to know him. But I have absolutely no idea who he is :-S Or why he is upset about my contributions :-(

Yikes

If that's what someone posted....... what does he/she really think of us?

Hang on.........I just looked in the mirror, I have a face.

So :-P to whoever posted that

so when you called me apathetic and idle you were showing me respect then John - perhaps I should apologise, cos I couldn't quite read it that way at all

same as when my thread was

"mind numbingly boring"....... if I remember correctly

Having respect for somebody does not mean you have to agree with them about everything or anything. And Genes chat is not a Ronnie Corbett show, so need for sorrry.

Yes, I do respect you both :-)

:-S

JohnLovesHorlicks it is so true that having respect for someone does not mean you have to agree with them.

However, as the opening post demonstrates with the direct quote from another thread, the poster of that comment does not have any respect for anyone who posts on the boards because the person cannot see the poster faces. Does this mean that if we were having a conference call that the same disrespect would be shown because the other person cannot be seen? Perhaps hearing another persons voice would make a difference to them rather than reading a persons thoughts on a subject.

As least that comment makes sense of the offensive post which she refuses to take down.

No respect for any one on here. Probably very little self-respect to go with it.

And as this person is a regular visitor to the GR offices, probably thinks anything said by herself is undebatable or questionable.

I've been away for a couple of days .............. and came back only late Sunday afternoon (my time).

I was horribly shocked by what I saw had gone on over the weekend .............. and yes, I saw the quote in the OP, and could not believe my eyes.


I have tremendous respect for the majority of people here on GR .................. just a handful have made me dis-respect them.

I think of all the ones who have helped on the boards since I joined in 2004, those who I've met on the Chat Boards (both General and genealogy), etc etc.

I do not "know" any of you in real life ..................... but I have become internet friends with several people, and very good friends with a handful.

I hope to be able to visit the UK some time soon, and really meet with those friends.

I have had wonderful discussions over the years on many topics with many people ............ we have often not agreed, but almost everything has been civil and respectful.

The problem is that that poster sees any disagreement with her view being an attack on her. Not a difference of opinion, but an attack. One has to agree, or else ............


I would never dream of posting things such as we have all seen for the last several months.

For the record ............ I wish to make it absolutely clear to all and sundry, that I have been out of town, did not have a computer with me nor access to a computer ............. and did not post on GR from late Friday night my time (very early Saturday morning UK time) until about 90 minutes ago.

Nor did I have any contact off-site, by pm or email (or phone) with any GR member


I do hope that GR pays attention to all the complaints that were made on that thread.

Thank you for your comments.