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WALLOWING IN SELF PITY

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DIZZI

DIZZI Report 22 Jun 2013 15:34

I AM THE WORST PERSON TO GET ON WITH AT THE MOMENT,
IM. FED UP AN ANGRY AT NOT BEING ABLE TO DO SIMPLE THINGS
AN IM TRYING SO HARD THAT IM ANNOYING EVERYONE,EVEN MY BEST FRIENDS,I JUST CAN'T FIND WORDS TO EXPLAIN MY FEELINGS AND
SOUND LIKE SOMEONE WALLOWING IN SELF PITY AND FEELING SORRY FOR MYSELF BUT HONEST IM NOT,EVEN HOLDING A PENCIL IS BEYOND ME TODAY,AN AS FOR TYPING THIS I WON'T TELL YOU HOW MANY ATTEMPTS,

PLEASE SOMEONE CAN I HAVE MY LIFE BACK,PLEASE

Lyndi

Lyndi Report 22 Jun 2013 15:44

Aww Dizzi, it's hard not to get down and I am sure that most if not all of us would feel as you do if we were in your shoes.
Same as you get angry at yourself at not being able to do things, your family and friends may feel the same that they cannot do anything, only watch your distress as you struggle.
I am sure you are not annoying your friends, they are just sad for you.
You have already come along way.
take care and rest today xx

Claddagh

Claddagh Report 22 Jun 2013 17:10

Dizzy, you are the very last person to be called 'sef-pitiying'....you always try to make a funny twist to your posts. My eldest daughter is very much like you..has a great sense of humour, in spite of being extremely handicapped....in fact, I am not allowed to mention this, she insists on everyone being positive, no saying how bad life is for her.That's why I can understand and appreciate your posts, you are equally positive etc. Bless you & take care. x

JustJohn

JustJohn Report 22 Jun 2013 17:30

I think your posts are great. I look at OP here and it makes me smile.

Not because you are having a bad day and a moan. But because I can see all your Positive Mental Attitudes and your optimism shining through. And it makes me happy.

You could be like me - a miserable, moaning old b who sees the cup always half empty. It does have its advantages. If someone says something nice or there is a shaft of sunlight, I am having a good day cos it is not the horrible one I was expecting. ;-) :-)

Joeva

Joeva Report 22 Jun 2013 17:38

Dizzy,

I am sure everyone on here understands your frustration in not doing all the things you were able to do before your illness. As I am sure do your friends and family that see your struggle.
I do not know you personally, but did follow your progress during your time in hospital and I can only repeat what I posted then, which was, one day at a time and take your time.
Easy to say I know, but as far as I can see by reading your postings since, that you are doing well and things can only get better.

Jo

PricklyHolly

PricklyHolly Report 22 Jun 2013 17:44

Oh Dizzi Dumplin.......

Just seeing you post on here warms the cockles of my heart............so it does! ;-)

Hey.............

Would you like to ride in my beautiful balloon
Would you like to ride in my beautiful balloon
We could float among the stars together, you and I
For we can fly we can fly
Up, up and away
My beautiful, my beautiful balloon
The world's a nicer place in my beautiful balloon
It wears a nicer face in my beautiful balloon
We can sing a song and sail along the silver sky
For we can fly we can fly
Up, up and away
My beautiful, my beautiful balloon
Suspended under a twilight canopy
We'll search the clouds for a star to guide us
If by some chance you find yourself loving me (Ignore this bit!! :-D)
We'll find a cloud to hide us
We'll keep the moon beside us
Fun is waiting there in my beautiful balloon
Way up in the air in my beautiful balloon
If you'll hold my hand we'll chase your dream across the sky
For we can fly.......... we can fly..............


<3 <3 <3

Claddagh

Claddagh Report 22 Jun 2013 17:55

Dizzy, I aways read your posts first, because you always take me one step nearer to one of my daughters. You are an amazing woman, with lots of humour,but always allow us( thank goodness) to feel how bad you are often. Thank you for this. I know my daugter is very bad most days, but, like you, never says so....I often wish she did. So, bless you love, keep smiling through yoour pain and frustration....you are a great inspiration.

DIZZI

DIZZI Report 22 Jun 2013 18:38

SORRY FOR MOANING NEEDED TO LET OFF STEAM IT WAS EITHER ON HERE OR SCREAM THE PLACE DOWN SO SAT AN TRIED TO MAKE A WIRE AND BEAD LIZARD THREE ATTEMTS LATER IM STILL GETTING IT WRONG
<3 <3 <3TO ALL

ChrisofWessex

ChrisofWessex Report 22 Jun 2013 19:24

Dizzi, I can understand your frustration as I feel the same at times and then I have to think back - state I was in when I came home from hospital after 6 months.

Things I can do now that I could only dream of then. Two months ago could you do what you are able to do now?

Am sure this is the same state with you. As you can see from this thread, your friends understand and are with you.

You can always pm me any time and let off steam or chat <3

DIZZI

DIZZI Report 22 Jun 2013 20:06

THANKS CHRIS <3

Wend

Wend Report 22 Jun 2013 20:19

Lovesya Dizz - you're a great gal and certainly an inspiration to me and others <3

GinN

GinN Report 22 Jun 2013 21:26

DIZZI, I won't pretend that I understand your problems, but I always look for your posts, because they have a unique humour and outlook on life.
I hope you find comfort from your friends on these threads, as we all love you, though many of us have never met you.
Please feel free to vent your feelings, all of us are here for you.
Lynda x <3

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 23 Jun 2013 06:29

Hi Gwen, we all know how determined you have been to get on with your life despite the setbacks, don't beat yourself up about things, but chalk each success up and remember how far you have come since earlier this year.

I know how grumpy my o.h. is because his thumb is still strapped up and he can't do everything he wants to do while he has time off, I keep trying to tell him he is off work to let his thumb heal not catch up on the gardening etc but will he listen? Then he gets stroppy and grumpy, even more than usual lol He is lucky his injuries weren't a lot worse and his thumb will heal in time. His problems are minor compared to all you have been through.

Just pretend you are that spider in the history lessons, and try try again, you are trying to do something very fiddly so don't expect to just whizz on with the lizard, call it a slow worm instead and take your time

love and hugs

Lizxx

LadyScozz

LadyScozz Report 23 Jun 2013 07:22

Dizzi <3

You've had a very difficult time lately, I think you have the right to have a good wallow!

I love reading your posts (don't always add to them), so persevere with the typing.
:-D

I was very ill a few years ago, walking to the end of the garden took me half an hour..........and half an hour to get back! The walk took a little less time every day... but I got better.

Baby steps!

<3

CupCakes

CupCakes Report 23 Jun 2013 07:51

Hi Gwen, I can't help but empathise with your frustration. Don't talk about myself much but have to admit there are days I have a real howl. 18 months ago my life suddenly changed resulting in restricted mobility - can't even open a carton of juice wthout the gizmo now. Sort of embarrassed to have had to stand down from so many activities that needed me to sit down for a long perod of time - far too painful. Positive thinking is the only way to lift the mood.

You are a positive person normally so the days you feel low just chat. There are some nice kind folk out there who will cheer you up.

Sounds like you need a hug as well

<3 <3

Mersey

Mersey Report 23 Jun 2013 09:32

To our special Dizzi <3 <3 <3 <3