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After a period of procrastination, I ask her to decide.

I've "been there"

I asked myself "do you want to be here for the rest of your life?"

Worked for me

:-D

Good luck to you Mersey. <3

Dear Mersey

Hello

Hope you are okay.


Very glad things are going better.


My advice is to trust your instincts; its your own inbuilt alarm system.

Don't make decisions when rushed or tired.


Take gentle care
Very best wishes
EOS
xx

I'm pleased that things are going well for you Mersey. Long may this continue :-)

:-) :-) <3 <3 <3

Then all's well that ends well, Mersey - good for you and your Sis <3

Its all good in Mersey's camp, infact more than good, my future is very bright !! It was just a lovely and encouraging conversation with Sis.....shes fabulousous <3

I also like Barbs words and " if it doesn't kill you it will make you stronger" ( in theory I should be extremely strong by now)

I would say never put yourself in a position that you don't think you could recover from if need be,

For several reasons I took one huge risk when I moved here to Tenerife but I felt in my heart that it was the right thing to do, and it undoubtedly was. Had I not made the move I would have spent the rest of my life wondering if I had made a big mistake by not finding out. But I also knew that had I made the wrong decision I was capable enough and had the resources to pick up the pieces and start again.

If you, or your sister, "feel" that you are making the right decision give it a try but first be sure that you can survive should things not go as well as you had hoped.

Just my opinion.

Wendy x

What lovely wise comments thank you <3

Listen to your intuition - it can be a powerful thing. If something doesn't feel right there may be a reason. If you know it's the right thing to do then it probably is. Lead with your head but listen to your heart.

I too think a pros and cons list helps. Plus talking things through with somebody who knows you well and who you trust. Then you need a bit of intuition and maybe a bit of luck and determination to make things work. But I don't think that you ever know for certain if the decision you make is the right one until after you have given it a chance. But a lot of life is a gamble. And barb's quote is a good one.

"Remember that the toughest moments in life don't break us, they make us."

Thank you for those words, Barb, I think they are worth remembering.

i think it deends, on what it is and what the possible outcomes are,
im usually quiet fickle and go for things anyways,

whats the worst that can happen?

For years I was in a very unhappy "place" and wanted to change my life for the better.

No one could do it for me and the decisions albeit very hard were mine and mine alone.

One day I finally made the change, took control for my own actions and made a start to turn my life around and have never looked back.

Remember that the toughest moments in life don't break us, they make us.

A pros and cons list is a good idea, as is talking to someone who may have a broader knowledge and deeper insight of whatever it is you are facing.

I'm fairly flexible about change and, as you may guess, I bring my faith into play when making decisions, but I realise that is not for everyone.

We can't always make the right decision in every situation but, hopefully, we learn from our mistakes and move on.

I personally find it very helpful to make a list. One side of the paper pro,s other side Cons. Take time in reading it through and then come to your decision .I was taught this a long time ago by a counsellor I had for a health issue and still use it as it helps to put things into perspective :-)

This afternoon I had a very long caring conversation with my Ickle Sis, on how to go about making changes and the right decisions....

How do you personally deal with changes and how do you know if you are making the right decisions. <3