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If I should manage to get my hands out from where I am sitting on them


& accuse any of you so lovely thoughtful people, please understand I do it as a daughter who though a Grandmother herself, still misses her MUM.
Five years ago today one of the most gentle loving women that ever lived quietly breathed her last.
When you are swallowing that lump in your throat & telling everyone ‘the pollen must be high’, the last thing you need is ANYONE being happy & celebrating ANYONE’S death.

LOVE AND HUGS,,,,,,
STILL MISS MINE ,,ALWAYS WILL XX

I sympathise with you Carol but you can't stop folk doing what they will....disgusting though it is..it's a free country.

I'm sorry to hear that you're finding your loss so difficult at the moment...sending you my best wishes x

A sad day for you carol but you must have so many lovely memories of your gentle Mum, enjoy running those through your mind and ignore the disgusting scenes of people celebrating a death.

same as Ann says - I can understand a celebration of the death of someone like Adolf Hitler, but a loving mother, grandmother, daughter, sister, wife - no way - disgusting - take pleasure in your memories of your lovely Mum - they will live in your heart forever <3 <3 <3

I know exactly how you feel Carol, it has been 16 months since I lost my Mum and it has only been in the last few weeks that I have felt anything like my old self, I still struggle but it is getting easier.

Huge (((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))) to you from one grieving daughter to another.


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Carol I am sorry to hear that and it must be hard for you hearing news and reading threads with your mother's death so very recent.
I hope that maybe as time goes by you learn to cope with it and deal with her loss in a timely manner.
Best wishes and heartfelt thoughts

I totally understand how you feel Carol.

I have no words because i have a lump in my throat.

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You are so lucky to have had the sort of relationship with your mum that you miss her.

When mine died I kept pinching myself because I wanted to be sure she really couldn't come back.

Yes, we should never celebrate like is happening since death of Mrs T. That is nasty and unhelpful.

Should we have done it when Hitler, Mussolini, Osama and Gaddaffi died. Again they had friends and family mourning them - and it must have been sickening to see others celebrating in their grief.

Fortunately our dear mothers had less high profile lives. And I would rather have had my mum than Mrs T as my mum a thousand times over. She was more charming, more fun, and she could understand the motivations and patriotism of ALL sectors of society. She could talk to a coal miner and an MP on same level - and often commented that you got most sense out of an ordinary working man or woman. :-)

Did you really have to bring the Mrs Thatcher theme onto this thread John................very very insensitive in my opinion :-( :-(

John, haven't you got any work to do round the house? You are too obsessed with Baroness Thatcher if you have to bring her into every thread you visit and people are getting fed up with your rantings I'm sure.

Kitty. I sort of assumed that was what OP was about. That Mrs T was also a mum and we all miss our mums. And we should have respect for Mark and Carol and Mark's two children as they mourn.

Many apologies tio Carol if I have totally misunderstood the thread :-(

Maybe it would have been better just to have said that then John.

Carol, I hope today will be easier for you <3 <3

Thank you all, yesterday I just needed one of Mum's hugs.

I had been looking in my poem folder to find the one I like to put on any Special Day flowers I take to the churchyard.

If Roses grow in Heaven, Lord
please pick a bunch for me,
Place them in my Mother's arms
and tell her they're from me.

Tell her I love her and I miss her
and when she turns to smile,
place a kiss upon her cheek
and hold her for awhile.

Remembering her is easy,
I do it every day,
but there's an ache within my heart
that will never go away.

...
I also found the one I wrote after returning home from her funeral...

It was not the best of days
I miss you in so many ways
Your life was long, but too short for me
Mums should always be there for you to see

Though only in stature very small
You were my crutch & my all
With your words, your hugs, your unconditional love
You have gone from us, to those who are already above

I bought some clothes & did my hair
I sang a hymn, & said a prayer
I stood & watched them carry you out
I cried silently, but wanted to shout

Mum where are you?
Mum I want you
Mum I need you
Can I come too?

My Grandchildren came to the wake
I wiped my eyes & gave myself a shake
They hugged me & said “You OK Gran?”
So now my time without you has begun

So Mum, I know I must be very strong
To give up now it would be wrong
You are in that other room with Dad
Gone are the aches & pains you had

So Bye Mum
See you later
Love you
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I will edit out if anyone wants me to
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Today is another day.

We all have slightly different relationships with our Mothers, mine was not always good, but she was always there for me when I needed her.

John, you are partially right. Already feeling rather vulnerable, I came online ... here & onto Facebook. In both places there were people actually celebrating a death.

Lovely verses Carol and absolutely no need to edit any out.

Carol, I miss my mum too, I'm not even reading the poems because I know I'll cry over them lol. I do sympathise .

This was my mum's favourite, I've put it on here before so will remove if you'd rather.

Remember

Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day
You tell me of our future that you plann'd:
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad. "

Christina Rossetti"

I think it gets easier to 'remember and smile' as the years pass.