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JUST READ SHARRONS THREAD,
PEOPLE LIKE SHARRON AND NEUBEY ARE BLOODY MARVALOS AND OTHER'S WHO CARE FOR FRIENDS AND FAMILY.I KNOW NEUBEY HAS BOTH PARENTS AND SOME DAYS SHE HAS HOSPITAL APPOINTMENTS FOR BOTH MILES APART AT DIFFERENT HOSPITALS
SO ON BEHALF OF THOSE YOU LOOK AFTER WHO PERHAPS CANT SAY IT
....."THANK YOU TO THOSE WHO CARE"

That's a nice thought Dizzi :-D

Thank you Dizzi and all power to Neubie.Makes me wonder what I keep moaning about.

have to agree Dizzi its a HARD JOB TO DO

It is not so bad. You don't have to dress up every day and I do put upon people very badly.

It is just the bloody organizing!

any update on the hospital visit?/op?

That is a nice thought Dizzi...
I cared for my OH for 5 years and for the last 3 had 2 hours a week out to shop.
I had joined Carers outreach but not had opportunity to use it .But it has been a godsend since oH died and we have a weekly drop in and have got to know a lot of people who are lovely and we understand one another.
I would advise that if there is a local branch of this wonderful charity(Princess Anne is the patron) to join and meet others who go through the same experiences.

a lovely thought Dizzi - society as a whole owes a debt of gratitude to those who care for others - and the government in particular should be more than grateful

We are currently sitting in the front room awaiting the arrival of the patient transport.Hoping that is going to arrive,They did ring me twice yesterday to ask me how long the operation would take,like I would know!

I am hoping I will calm down a bit once he is on his way because the organizing is down to somebody else then.

oki doki!!

I have always found the hardest part of caring to be the organizing, especially since I am dealing with things I have never encountered before.

It's all an adventure really.

How I understand Sharron...I used to joke that I had an NVQ3 in care,taking blood readings,giving injections changing dressings coping with sheath catheters,cleaning up,lifting into bed etc etc....I don't regret it ,and would do it all again if necessary,but it does take it out of you and without a sense of humour would be almost unbearable....so keep us smiling with your posts!

I think that's what keeps Sharron going - her great sense of humour.

You too, Dizzi and all the other posters on here.

I don't wipe arse!

The carers who are marvelous,come and deal with his bodily functions.

I just organize his busy social schedule.

Good on you Dizzi, a lovely thought and
to the carers who look after their friends
and family...respect to you all.

Emma

A hard job - more power to your elbows!! :-D

(and sense of humour, backs, patience etc etc)

edit: and in the case of Sharron - conning skills :-D :-D

What a lovely thought Dizzi. I respect and admire all those who care for those unable to care for themselves.

I don't know if other areas have what we have in Gloucester. The charity I used to be a trustee for and now am administrative volunteer is called Gloucester Lifestyles. We run a buddying scheme, for a nominal sum we have volunteers who accompany the disabled person to social events etc. (ten pin bowling, pub lunch, pub evening, theatre, sailing, quizzes, discos, church sometimes handicraft. This gives the normal carer time off.

I have been exceptionally lucky in that I have a couple of friends I have known all my life,Ken and Martin. We call them the orflings.Each looked after elderly parents before being left alone.

Ken,who had major confidence problems which are considerably easier now,used to go shopping with my dad before he had his stroke, Now he goes out with him as his mate,Fred in the wheelchair,Ken on the pushbike.He is at the hospital with him now.It keeps us from living in each others pockets.

Martin buzzes about all overthe place locally and goes to car boots and jumble sales.There is nothing he can't do apart from shut up! He has been indespensible with practical help.

Neither can cook well so we exploit them for food. If I cook a pie for us I also cook two small ones for the orflings.

That is what living in a village all your life is about I think.

To my to eldest daughters, Boo and Bea, (not totally real names), who have taken over me Dad. Thank goodness. With my day to day health problems, I could run around to sort him out.
Now being diagnosed with cateracts in both eyes, and an eye disease, they have had to confiscate his car keys, and make him understand. Also have to look after his personal affairs. He has never been the most tolerant of people, and still thinks after he has had the cateracts removed, he is going to drive again, at 90
Both have families to look after, and now careers.
Thank you girls.

Julia in Derbyshire

Julia in Derbyshire

I have the utmost respect for all carers.My d-i-ls dad had a stroke 10 yrs ago and although he can understand and talk a little he is otherwise helpless.Her mum is his main carer but now she has to have open heart surgery and has been told to take it easy.Yer right, does she. she is more worried about him than herself and about how it will afect him when she goes in for her op.She is such a lovely person and dosnt deserve this extra worry. :-( :-( :-( Well done to all caers out there and well done Dizzi for bringing our attention to this. :-) :-)