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hi tina
hope it all works out for you
best wishes lorraine

I know this an old posting but i never did hear anything back from any of the letters i sent......So now is the time to give up. I doubt i'll ever know anymore, however since i plan to live to at least 95 i might one day. I am not going to go on trying,waiting for the postman to bring a reply or an elusive email to appear in my in box is so nerve recking.

I would like to say thank you to everyone who has helped me,searching the electoral roll and BMD records as well.There have been so many replies and so many helpers its been lovely to have received the help but no leads have come of these either.

Thank you Tina xx :-)

the second letter is safely in a draw for now. I am just going to get on with things and forget for a while. I have my fingers crossed.

Thank you to all who have replied,Tina x

Oh by the way ..if you are like me, you never give up hope until you are told to.

Tina don't send the second letter yet. Give her time.
2 weeks ago I located my OH's Uncle after trying to discover if his father had died. They have been estranged for nigh on 20yrs. Last week I made the phone call ..I now have Uncles e-mail but still my OH is sitting on it ..he doesn't know what to say after all this time.

Give your half sister time to take it all onboard, I know that is probably hard for you now that you have taken the plunge but as everybody has said Patience.

Just sit tight for a while,,,,,,,there maybe things going on her in life that you have no idea of,,,,,also at the best shes away on annual holiday for a couple of weeks,visiting away relatives for the summer,,,,,anything infact,a few more weeks isnt going to do any harm and will give you time to evaluate how to handle when and if contact is made...........patience,,, :-D :-D

Don't send the 2nd letter yet. i wrote to someone hoping it was my cousin. It was but he had died earlier that year. His wife wrote to me but when I asked her for some info, I never heard back. I felt terrible for asking in the first place. Be patient.

Phyll

Thank you :-)

I have just rewrote a letter,not sent it yet as i am scared of harassing her. In this letter i sent a copy of the newspaper report.
In hind site my married name and my area are nothing they could link to as i never had his name and i never lived in the same area as my mum did when she was growing up.
So now debating when i send it,as people say it will have been a shock if he never spoke of me,more wierd maybe for her knowing we share the same name?

Tina

I think you were very brave to have sent it at all, and can understand why you hesitated.
I'm adopted and have absolutely no intention of EVER contacting my birth parents but a while ago I was contacted by a cousin through research on here.
It took a week of agonising before I even messaged her back.
But now I have I'm loving the contact.

Be patient x

A few years ago a chap knocked on my door and asked if my name was ..... I asked him why he wished to know and he pointed to a lady in the car he had arrived in. She was apparently his wife and looking for her sister whom she had been parted from as a child. I wasn't the person they were looking for, but at the time felt what an awful shock it would have been, if I had been. So much better to send a letter explaining matters.

I hope you receive a reply Tina ;)

Chris, i know its silly to sit on it for a year and expect her to reply straight a way,lolx

If the Rambling Rose is the same member from a few years back she helped me greatly with the first marriage,I got the wedding certificate but never got any further due to him not naming his father on the wedding certificates,well it might have helped.

I had to buy credits from 192.com to help me any further and it cost me a lot,to me it was a lot to me and due to being impatient i think i wasted a few of those credits.

I should just forget and hope sometime down the line i get a reply.

Tina if it took you a year to get the courage up to write a letter do you really expect a letter by return post??? Even if it had a first class stamp chances are it was not delivered until Friday/Saturday.

Patience is the name of the game - you have sown the seed - now let it grow.

That's me Chris in a nut shell. However i have sat on the info for about a year not knowing what to write.Then last week i just wrote and sent the letter.

Rita that's what my friend is saying as well.

I was wondering if i should send her more info,the only bit is a newspaper cutting which mentions him,my mum and in a round about way me (mum was pregnant at the time).
On paper this is his second marriage which has now ended,well her mum remarries.
She is also a fair bit younger than me by 18 yrs,shes the same age as my eldest daughter.

Thank you,Tina

Tina, if she didn't know about you before she got the letter she may be having to adjust to the idea that she didn't 'know' her father as well as we all assume we do know our parents.

I knew as a child I had a half sister older than me, if i hadn't , and had found out now by letter, I almost certainly wouldn't get in contact straight away..i would take weeks probably just thinking about it, how it would affect my life if i got in touch, how other family might react, whether indeed there was 'anything to say'.

Be patient, I wouldn't expect a phone call, I think they are very difficult to get 'right.'.. she may be considering writing back, and it may take her a long while to decide what she wants to say.

good luck.

You need a little more patience Tina! Suppose the letter has reached the address. She could be away or else is trying to cope with the contents and it may take time possibly months before she contacts you.

If I received a letter out of the blue telling me of an unknown sister I would be in shock and would need time to come to terms with that knowledge before contacting anyone.

Today the sent before xmas has finally been signed for and collected from their office......i cant see the signature will this be added at a latter date?

On a bit of a downer today. I have been searching for my father for roughly ten years now. The first five years were really just posting messages on websites.However since helping to find my mums blood family i have done a lot more.

Last week,Wednesday, i sent a stamped addressed envelope to a possible half sister.I did make sure she knew it was before he married her mum. As of yet no reply,i did send my mobile number but nothing from that either.

My be she doesn't want to know? Maybe she has no idea as to wherever her dad had another child twenty yrs before her,maybe i didn't give enough information and then again maybe the letter didn't reach her.

Has anyone else have knowledge what its like to receive a letter like that? How did you feel?

And when do you give up :-(

Thank you Tinax