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Bl@@dy Hell...............................

Take the cot back to the shop and get gift token and send them to her.
I do agree with takeing the petrol money out of that money for taking her mum to and from the doctors ..But I guess you wish to stay friends of a sort!! BUT please dont keep going out your way to help she has 3 children whom could help some and if thats totally impossible she will have to have an NHS taxi

NOW look after you and do what you can for this lady but DONT put your family at risk in anyway for someone else!

Thanks everyone for all your comments, I am as many of you suggested going to return the cot and just get a gift voucher and let them get the cot they want , as for taking Pauline back and forth to the hospital I am in the nicest posible way I can explain to her that I will be there for her WHEN I CAN BE and take her to the hospital when I can without her making me feel guilty when I cant as she did yesterday after I told her I was going to the caravan yesterday for the weekend and she said that she had expected me to take her today and even asked if I could come home from the van and take her as she had to take taxis back and forth and it had been very expensive, she does get both DLA mobility and care allowance but things that Pauline has said makes me think her daughter has her bank card and is using the money for herself and that is why Pauline is finding it hard to fund taxis etc.

Thank you everyone for showing what surportive caring people you are

Pam XX

Oh no, now I am worrying about the woman!

What is the daughter up to?

Can't she arrange hospital transport?
If you can sit in a car it's not usually an ambulance they send,I know,as when I have to go to the eye hospital and can't drive because of eyes being dilated,and my OH housebound,instead of asking neighbours to go out of their way,I arrange transport and apart from a bit of a wait after treatment it is very good.
YOU live your life and let her daughter sort it.
Enjoy your break and DON'T FEEL GUILTY!!!

Brenda x

family has too come first always
dont know how they dare they have some cheek
take care

If you have been close friends for all of these years cannot you say to her you receive mobility allowances etc and that these are for such trips as taxis and why is she not using it? She may then tell you if her daughter is using it - though where you go from there I do not know. You will know best.

However, you have done more than your share - your family and problems must come first.

I would contact the hospital social services department and voice your fears about the daughter have the bank card. Certainly in Wales my husband was taken back and forth by hospital voluntary transport who were wonderful.

As for the travel cot - words fail me!

Best of lucy with moving forward

take the cot back and give her nothink
as it is only the daugher of your friend i carnt see why she would have the cheek to ask for a £80 gift
a small gift of £15 is more than enuth

and i no your friend is very ill and you are doing all you can to help but i think it is now time for her fmily to take over weather thay are bizzy people or not
and has you say you have your own family to see to

Print off this thread and give it to the daughter!!!!

No don't, but heavens I would be very tempted.

I think the daughter sounds a greedy madam and if she is using her mother's card, then shame on her. As much as you are old friends, it is not for you to have to worry so much about your neighbour, she has to sort herself out and to put pressure on you is very unfair.

I think you have to develop a thick skin where all this is concerned, you have enough to deal with and have had before, so put yourself and your own family first and don't feel guilty doing it.

It is a good idea to contact the hospital social services as they may be able to sort things out for your friend and make sure she is getting the money and help she needs.

Good luck and enjoy any breaks you get

Lizx