General Chat

oh they are so lovely at this age,mia will be 1 on 27th aug and shes crawling all over the place now.mummy and daddy are getting married in aug 2012 when mia will be nearly 2,it will be lovely to see her walking down the aisle,x :-D :-D

Hello Suzanne,

Sounds like Mia is doing really well and all the earlier unnecessary worrying was as it was............fuelled by stupid comments from the so called proffesionals!!

So glad that mum and baby are very happy and content, my grandaughter Alice will be 1 october 1st and weighs just under 20lbs, she also is saying ma ma ba ba and da da waves hands goodbye and gives you a big sloppy kiss!

I had a very old fashioned doctor he hated the Dr spokes of this world and said ...."if a baby is hungry feed it !" if it wants to play ....you play if it wants to sleep ....and so on ....

Never met another doctor like him ...all done by "THE BOOK" now ......I would love to meet the "person" who wrote this book

So Pleased Mia is doing well

As long as they are fit well and happy I think you can almost go by instinct. Like everything else in this nanny world they want to do it all by the book and it doesn't work like that.

I really dont think mothers should be bothered with charts,after all they are only a guideline,some babys tend to be large and some like mia petite.
shes doing everything a 10m old should do and more,and she really loves her food.so really its no problem if shes a little underweight.although her weight now seems fine. :-D

Brilliant Suzanne - and I bet she's doing fine!!!
I've only just noticed this thread.
My eldest was a week 'late' and weighed just 6lbs 4 ozs - not bad considering I was about 7and a half stone when I 'fell' for her - that was 7 stone of muscle mind you - I was an agricultural labourer, and when not planting/cropping, I was lifting half hundred weights of spuds!
Younger was born two and a half years later, 2 weeks early at 5lbs 12ozs.
Neither lost weight after birth.
Younger was considered a light birth weight.
I diligently took them to be weighed etc.
With the first she was 'doing just fine' - perfect weight (according to their charts)
With the second, there were tuts, and mutterings of 'low birth weight'.
I put up with this for a while, then snapped!
The younger child, after 18 months was actually heavier than the elder had been at that age when 'everything was fine' - yet STILL they tried to insist she was underweight!!!
I took elder daughters weight card along, and when the 'underweight' issue came about, I showed them the elder daughters card.
'Oh' they said in a superior manner,'They've changed the charts since then'.
'So,' I said, 'My perfectly healthy 3 year old must be suffering from malnutrition according to the 'charts'!!
I never bothered going back!

update.10 MONTHS OLD NOW. :-D :-D

mia said ma,ma today,my daughter and her partner where made up.x

I agree with you Suzanne, my daughter was also sent home with both children after a c/section armed with injections etc. As I said she is a mature level headed person..........teaches secondary school so you have to be tough!

It was a struggle with the first child re the BF......she was also very tender from the OP etc and of course your hormones are all over the place....In my opinion it is far to early sending these first time mums home, especially ones without a partner to lend a helping hand. Although my grandson was well in all areas he was in my opinion under weight, if I could see it why couldnt they!!!!

Mia sounds as if she is a normal healthy baby........gosh and 4 teeth!! your daughter should be very proud.

Annx

hi annwhy do the pro,s do these things?they thought nothing of sending my daughter home from hos two days after having an emergency c section with 30 staples in her stomach and a box of injections to inject her self twice a day,the midwife visited for 10 days and we never saw her again,and my daughter was visited by a health visitor once.they left her for four months and then told her that her baby was underweight,ive never heard such drizzel in my life,mia is a normal healthy baby,very petite and very long.and at 17lbs 4oz not underweight.x

Hello Suzanne,

Perfectly normal baby then LOL............I for one am not a fan of some of these health visitors etc.........My daughter had my grandson in 2008 aged 35.........a first time mum. They pushed and pushed her to carry on with the breastfeeding even though things were difficult.........I had to stand on the sidelines and watch, knowing in my heart that baby should have been puttting on more weight than he was, but every week at weigh in they told her things were normal.......normal being he was putting on 2oz?? between visits.........it took a gentle talk from me to persuade her otherwise without appearing to be the interfering mother.......the result was her breaking down in tears "having" to give him a bottle.........in fact she was so tearful I had to do it. Why do these people make new mums feel they are failures.......because that is how she felt. Baby came on in leaps and bounds regarding his weight.

She gave birth to my grandaughter October 1st this year weighing 9/2, and we had the little chat again........she assurred me there was no way she was going through that again, so she fed herself for a few weeks and then went on to formula.......baby weighed last week 16/8....PERFECT!!

It really is very stressful to stand by and watch your very level headed daughter reduced to tears in what I thought could have been avoided.

Enjoy your grandchild!!

Annx

hi everyone.baby mia now weights 17lbs 4oz,has four teeth,smiles,laughs,reaches out for things,blows raspberries,rolls over and sits on her own,shes also very long(oh what lovely long legs shes going to have)shes beautiful and so happy,she brings so much happiness to our close little family.mia is a normal baby and thank god my daughter hes learnt not to take everything the dr says to heart.x

Suzanne - as far as I am concerned Health Visitors are an unnecessary blot on the planet. Wait for screams of outrage. My gdau is now 24 and was the first baby. Dau would ring me ring her MIL and then utter the famous words 'will have to ask Heather'. One day she complained to her father Mum did not seem interested anymore - he reminded her that MIL and Mum had had 4 children between them, Mum was only 4 miles away and always running over to reassure - Heather came once a fortnight and had had no children.

Son was born 1 month early weighing 6lbs 15 oz and very long - looked for all the world like a skinned rabbit. By the time he should have been born he weighed 11 lbs and I could only get on my knees and thank that he had been born early!

We are all different, some big some small, some fat, some thin, if baby is healthy. happy, sleeps and eats be thankful and ignore others.

O.h.'s granddaughter is 17 weeks old and weighs a stone, 14 lb, she was around 7 and a half pounds when born. I think they are feeding her a lot as she cries often and feeding is the only thing that keeps her quiet, apparently her dad was always hungry and had to be fed a lot when small. Even now he is greedy tho and puts his food away so fast if you blink it's there and then gone lol

Lizx

Baby sounds a real sweetie.

Daughter I mentioned previously was 13lbs 8 ozs at 6 months, ...6lbs 12ozs at birth, but grew up fine and healthy.
They're all individuals.

What fun your little one will be as we move into the sunnier months.

Gwyn

kate is coping very well with her new daughter and adores her,she had a horrible time bringing her into the world but has coped brilliantly for a first time mum.no baby blues,not post natal depression nothing,just getting on with it,until that silly dr said her baby was underweight,of couse she then thought that she wasnt doing something right if her baby was under weight,shes got nothing to worry about,she has a lovely baby.x

I hope her parents can feel that they are doing a good job now then and just enjoy her.
1st time Mum's especially might already be anxious without anyone adding to their worries.

Gwyn

update on baby mia.she now weights 17lbs 3oz and will be 6months old on the 27th of this month.shes sitting up,rolling over,reaching for things,holding her arms up to be picked up,and kissing u,has her favorite toys and a special smile for her favorite people,she now has 4 teeth(two top, 2 bottom)and eats three meals a day plus pudding at lunch time,oh and sleeps through the night,anything wrong with this baby?of course not,shes a normal healthy baby,why do the experts always worry these new mothers?

As a mum of 4 ,all adults now all I can say is forget the charts, Your daughter and yourself will know if your child/ grandchild is "normal" whatever that may be,
My eldest child weighed in at 7lbs but went down to a little over 5 pounds because he was somewhat early and delivered as an emergency because I had severe pre eclampsia,
I was told he would never be normal!! well by the time he was 9 yrs old he had won a place at one of the UKs most prestigious Catholic boarding schoosl, gained a first at Uniby the age of 19, yes went to UNI early, and at the age of 40 is fine and fit and enjoys life,
His sister born 4 years later is as tall as her brother and "well built, and she was 8lbs when born and was very slim until she went into her teens, she is also healthy,
Then I had identical twins who weighed in at about 3 and a half pounds, we were told they would be backward and because they had to be feed every hour they never reached the so called correct weight. One won a place to Sandhurst and the other has an excellent job in Wales. Both gained 1sts at uni

Forget the comments mum and grandma will know if their precious bundle is OK , ;let nature tell you.

Sorry I have gone on about this but as a nurse I feel that there is just too much of this nonsense, OOPs forgot as of January I Was a nurse as I retired at the age of 60 something!!!!!

Hi Suzanne

My daughter had her baby the same day as your daughter do you remember?..we both became grandmas at the same time

My grand daughter was born 4 weeks early and only weighed 5lb 10oz...at 5 months now she is 15lb and has been told that is her perfect weight.!!

I think whats happend with your daughter is that the baby has not stayed on the "same graph line" of steady weight gain...she would have been a line or 2 above my grandaughter having been born a bit heavier in the first place, and so according to the "graph" should probably be slightly heavier. They are saying my granddaughter is the correct weight because she "follows the graph line" all be it at a lower weight than your grandaughter.........i think these charts are daft.

As others have said if she is happy, content and sleeping well then I wouldn`t worry...but these people should really think how they word things before putting these new mums through such anguish.

Are you enjoying your granddaughter as much as I enjoy mine??

I hope so....they bring such joy don`t they?


Nicky