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blow afuse we have down the road from us ayoung lad who is authtisic,now i have friends who have children the same ,but this young lad hes throwing stuff into jans pond ,and even clinbving the back fence which is 6ft high throwing stone at the goldfish ,havbe told the parents but there to busy working,and jan is getting very mad over this ,as the childs father has to go looking for his son as he dos,nt no were he is,so im going to warn the parents either look after your son or i,ll get someone who will,its not the childs fault its the parents ,the boy cant speak only makesi noises,which you cant understand

Always sad because with correct therapy and some real TLC most autistic children can get a semblance of a normal life, many can in fact be very socially independent

This breaks my heart. This child needs an Autism Service dog! Who is supposed to be watching him - from experience I know they MUST have (not SHOULD have) constant supervision, and some can be quite aggressive. Most probably the kid is focusing on throwing stones, not likely to deliberately hit the fish, he probably is fascinated either by the sound of the splash or the appearance of it. However, I can understand that your OH is upset by it, perhaps some social services dept. could approach the parents, to ensure the child has adequate supervision. (It is very difficult for people who do not live with Autism, to understand what a 'normal' day looks like, in the world of Autism.)
I hope this can be solved peacefully, the parents are likely to be burned-out themselves, and how easy it is to lose track for a few minutes. The child and his parents need understanding yes, but there must be a solution found, when there is repeated annoyance of a neighbour. Perhaps some respite for the parents would help.

We, who have two children with Autism, are blessed in having understanding neighbours, who call us if there seems to be an issue, to let us know we have a child on the roof, or leaning out an upstairs window, stripping off their clothes outside, or escaping down the road. etc. They also have our blessing to reprimand the kids themselves, verbally, at the moment a problem happens; it is too late to be effective if one had to wait a few minutes, until the parent is available...
Good luck.

Mary my point is the same as yours its not the childs fault but hes also doing it to other niebours,his brother is the same but not as bad as the younger one ,he dos,nt bother anyone but he can talk if it was my child i would make sure i was at home when he comes home from the special school he,s in,i tried to explain to his Dad about he should watch him more and all i got was ,hes getting abit better ,but hes not and people in the street were we live have said there terrable children,the older two hbve gone to America to her parents to study over there,afew years ago we have alittle play erea and the Dad was with them ,he was watching his kids ringing our door bell and running away,now what parent does that but im going to talk to the Dad as he parks facing our house when hes home from work,i cant have Jan getting upset over this and doing something he,ll get into trouble, for my mother use to say to me if you want to work why have children and thats the way Jan thinks ,hope your well take care
Dutchxx

Well Joyce Mary has said it all.
How can his parents neglect him like this?
That poor lad.
You need to talk to them Joyce, well Jan does anyway.
Good luck with that.
Like most people,I have had many many neighbourhood problems but
they were with children who were just plain bad, with parents who just did not care what they did.
This is different Joyce and they should be MADE to care for that child.
Deanna X

I have had no experience of autism, but what maxiMary said about the sound of the stones or the splash possibly fascinating him made me wonder if perhaps he could be given a small container to throw stones into. He might enjoy the challenge of getting them in and enjoy the sound when they go in. I say small container, as a larger one with water in could be a danger. People can drown in only an inch or 2 of water.

Huia.

Hello Dutch
l remember you telling me about this lad before. Do hope you get it sorted, no way should they be left on their own!!

Take care
jude xx

Thank you ladys ,Deanna we habve spoken to the father but it falls on deaf ears as the saying goes,and i would rather talk to the father again than jan as hes got no patience with people like them and he would lose his temper,and the father does speak english so he knows what im saying,you no hes riding his bike sometimes looking for his son as he,s no idea were he is,if anyone was to take this young boy theres noway he could call out for help,but im going to have one last try and if it dos,nt work well i,ll havbe to see someone who can talk to the parents,its no good being sorry if anything happends to the young boy ,its got to be stopped now for the childs sake